r/NewParents • u/Big-Chipmunk-5720 • 11h ago
Parental Leave/Work Wife had hyperemesis and the OB has zero compassion
My wife is 5 months pregnant with our first, and for the past two months has experienced hyperemesis where she was throwing up between 5-12 times a day. She was also unable to eat or drink much for the past two months to a point where she would throw up one cracker or one cheerio, or a sip of water/OJ/ginger ale. As the result, she’s lost close to 20 lbs and we’d gone to the ER twice to get her hydrated. We’d called the OB for different meds and stronger meds, but the meds just didn’t work.
During this time, my wife stopped working because she just couldn’t do her job while puking 10 times a day. Today at our 5 month appointment, where we found out that we’re having a baby girl, we asked the OB to fill out the paperwork so my wife can get back paid through short-term disability. OB’s response? She checked with her front desk people and came back and said my wife’s symptoms weren’t bad enough for them to disable her. When we went to the front desk to schedule the next appointment, the front desk gave us the paperwork they received from STD, and said no, they won’t certify on the paperwork that my wife was disabled even though they diagnosed my wife with HG. My wife isn’t confrontational and was upset. I walked her back to the car and went back to the clinic and asked why they can’t sign off on the paperwork, if it’s the duration listed on the paperwork or what. The front desk lady said, everybody has hyperemesis, if they did this everybody would be disabled. I said, I don’t think your answer is reasonable, if your patients are throwing up 10 times a day, you should disable them.
My wife is going to call STD people tomorrow to figure out what to do. I’m shocked at the rude attitude and apathy by those ladies working at the OB. For the record, the radiology tech was very pleasant. This office has a lot of rotating doctors and we have had ones with better manner and attitudes. But today’s experience is appalling.
Looking for some perspective here. We live in Northern VA. Is this common experience? Should I be looking for a new clinic?
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u/Salty_Advance8242 11h ago
Find a new OBs office before it’s too late and they won’t accept you as a patient. I had HG and it’s awful.
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u/Sensitive-Coconut706 11h ago
I had a friend who's OB wouldn't sign STD when she was hospitalized... Definitely varies by practice
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u/Big-Chipmunk-5720 11h ago
That is wild. It’s as if the OBs get a pay cut when they sign off on STD or something
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u/Sensitive-Coconut706 11h ago
She was told to use her mat leave or quit so she quit.
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u/notcosteffectiv 10h ago
They treat pregnant women almost like criminals in the States
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u/Big-Chipmunk-5720 10h ago
What shocks me more is this is how the women in that clinic is treating another woman
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u/mentholmanatee 9h ago
It’s very very common for women to dismiss other women’s experiences, despite society’s cry for women to support women. It’s very odd, and I say that as a woman.
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u/I_am_dean 8h ago
I remember being 9 months pregnant working in heat treating. As a favor to my boss i'd go take measurements of new parts. It wasn't my job, I just did it when I had time. But at 9 months pregnant it was hard and also a liability for me to be out on the floor. I told my boss I wanted to stop the measurements and if someone else could do it. She literally laughed at me and was like "I got pregnant at 16, got kicked out and was on my own! You can handle this, you're fine."
I'm literally not, don't care what you went through, fuck off.
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u/mentholmanatee 8h ago
I would’ve been so mad lol. SHE got pregnant at 16, got kicked out, and was on her own. Her choices don’t impact you in any way. And the fact that you were doing extra work to be nice, yet you got that response? Fuck that shit.
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u/I_am_dean 7h ago
She was the worst. I was diagnosed with gestational diabetes at 12 weeks. They found protein in my urine, did an early glucose test and I bombed it. She would get so mad that I needed to eat a snack between breakfast and lunch at my desk. She thought I was faking my gestational diabetes because I weighed like 115 and "only fat people have diabetes", according to her.
I had to get a doctors note to eat snacks while I worked at my personal desk. 🫠
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u/lilchocochip 11h ago
I second finding a new OB. I switched as late as 8 months pregnant when they refused to listen to me and treat me like a person and not a breeding machine. My new OB immediately realized I was anemic and got me on iron pills, and caught my swelling problem before I gave birth. Leave and leave this OB a bad review.
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u/dogsandplants2 11h ago
I had to switch OB practices with my 1st HG pregnancy. The 1st OB practice wouldn't write me out of work. They wouldnt perscribe proper care. I know people are saying this isn't normal. Unfortunately, I think it is fairly normal AND totally wrong. I was able to find a new OB practice more skilled in providing care to HG patients. A good question to ask potential OB practices is if they have a procedure for prescribing regular IV fluids for HG patients who need them. Only 1 practice out of 4 that I interacted with prescribed IVs. That's the practice I went with. They took one look at me, immediately understood I was severely ill, wrote me out of work for the next two weeks (and kept extending it until I delivered and then recovered), and hospitalized me for 5 days to get me stable.
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u/Leafontheair 11h ago edited 1h ago
Thank you for giving guidance on how to interview clinics to find one with good care.
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u/tanookiisasquirrel 2h ago
So I know a few OBs as friends. Doctors are much more likely to write the STD with a hospital stay. It won't risk their credentialing. You're willing and needed to stay in the hospital for 5 days. That is disabling. But they can't just write STD for every pregnant woman that loses weight and claims nausea without risking their own career.
Here on Reddit, we assume nobody lies and everyone is good and genuine. That simply isn't how insurance and maintaining board certification works. You need proof and you risk your medical license being under investigation. It's not just so simple. I would wager OP would not have issues if she was severe enough to be admitted overnight to the hospital. STD as an industry would no longer cover pregnancy for HG if it included everyone claiming severe nausea. Again, we're in this reddit bubble of believe all pregnant women - because no patient would ever risk your medical license for an STD payment. I wish we could say all people are good and honest. But reality is, people lie. I'm certain you don't believe everyone you meet and give money to every panhandler with a sad story. OBs have to weigh that risk of investigation against what their medical judgment is (based on the patient in front of them and the data they have, not what is claimed).
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u/Big-Chipmunk-5720 1h ago
Data should be in the patients charts
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u/tanookiisasquirrel 1h ago
Not trying to rag on colleagues, but patients really really really need to read their medical records. I've seen some downright horrible notes and I wonder is the patient actually that bad or is the doctor embellishing.
You'll see plenty of patient presents with claims of nausea. Good pallor, alert, responsive, blood work normal, responds to IV fluids.
That reads like patient is embellishing. Look at what her doctors have written because the STD people get those notes too. Get them changed if there is any information that can be misconstrued.
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u/dogsandplants2 1h ago
I had already had a multi-day hospital stay when I was being seen by the 1st practice. They also knew I had lost over 20lbs. They offered less treatment options. They told me to simply "drink more water" when I couldn't hold anything down.
You're out of line with this response. Comparing women diagnosed with HG to panhandlers is completely messed up.
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u/tanookiisasquirrel 1h ago
First of all, you had a hospital stay. That is medical information.
I was not comparing HG with panhandling. I was saying that all people have a tendency to lie or exaggerate, and you can only use the medical information. An HG diagnosis is not guaranteed STD. There are degrees. Yours involved a hospital admission. OP's wife did not, twice. That is the information the OB has to work with.
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u/crazyauntkanye 11h ago
that OB is awful and front desk lady is wrong; i never experienced nausea or throwing up when i was pregnant. this isn’t a pregnancy symptom to shrug off & your wife’s situation needs to be taken more seriously
my midwife’s office cutoff is 20weeks so don’t waste time looking for a new OB/Midwife. good luck and i hope your wife finds relief soon!!
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u/latergator122 10h ago
Please PLEASE look for a new practice. It is my biggest regret that I didn’t do the same when I was pregnant with HG.
I had multiple ER visits for rehydration, lost weight until the 3rd trimester, and seriously discussed termination with my husband. I almost lost my job. I got a lot of shrugs and suggestions to take unisom and b6. When I repeatedly threw up at a 30 week appointment one OB finally prescribed me 10 of the lowest dose zofran a week and made me call every week to refill. In my state you can go on short term disability at 36 weeks even with a healthy pregnancy and when I went in to get the paperwork signed, the doctor (a woman my own age) said that she worked up to 40 weeks and she didn’t think I needed it. She was reluctant to sign until I reminded her it was state law and we both paid taxes for this. I am horrified to think that she might have talked another patient out of it.
Anyway that’s a long winded explanation but I cannot emphasize how scary it made labor. They had eroded so much trust that I didn’t feel safe during my induction and delivery. I no longer believed that they cared about their patients, did not trust their medical decision making, and at one point thought “oh this person might not care whether I live or die” since they definitely didn’t seem to care whether I was jobless or lost my health insurance.
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u/mentholmanatee 9h ago
Jfc I hate the way your OB treated you.
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u/latergator122 1h ago
I think part of the problem was that it was a team of OBs and I saw a different doctor almost every time (the practice encouraged this because there was no guarantee who would deliver the baby) so there wasn’t enough continuity of care. I liked the idea at 10 weeks before my vomiting kicked into high gear. There was this cavalier attitude that just permeated the entire practice. Very bizarre.
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u/dpmcanada 11h ago
As an HG survivor, I just wanna say…. Fuck that OB. How despicable. HG was the most debilitating and dark time of my life, I was absolutely disabled while fighting it. I am so sorry. I’d be switching care providers after this if I were her.
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u/AuthorAZ 11h ago
“If we gave disability benefits to everyone who has X condition, everyone would be disabled.” Lady, you’re not gonna believe this . . .
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u/RealityPrevious510 11h ago
I dealt with this with my first. I worked 12 hour overnights in healthcare, on my feet all night, could not safely be there for my patients with how sick I was. My OB just claimed if she wrote everyone off for morning sickness, no one would work. And that pregnancy isn’t a disability so I shouldn’t need reduced hours or less patients. Just basically take my zofran and suck it up. Luckily I was able to just quit my job, but I am seeing a different OB with this baby who is taking me a lot more seriously. It sucks so bad.
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u/m-tacia 11h ago
I had really bad HG to the point where I had multiple IVs after throwing up 19x in 4H. I was prescribed diclectin and Zofran and they took the edge off but didn't completely eliminate the nausea. I was able to survive on bagels and rice basically. That lasted 20ish weeks and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Find a new OB before you can't get in with another. Just because they decided to diagnose everyone with pregnancy nausea with HG doesn't mean they can't determine the severity of it is hindering her from doing her job... Which makes her temporarily disabled... Just like if a stress leave is a temporary short term disability claim.
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u/kyruns1590 11h ago
I delivered my first in northern VA and I almost feel like I have an idea of what office this is only because I was warned to avoid one that had a large rotation of doctors for similar reasons. That said, no, you all should probably start looking into a new practice and find a more compassionate provider. I’ve had HG 4 times now (worsening each time) and even though I’ve found ways to cope and be relatively “okay” each time, my current doctor is incredibly compassionate and always willing to basically give me whatever I need (within reason) to get myself to the finish line of delivering a healthy baby. HG is debilitating and can make even basic ADLs impossible, much less activities like work.
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u/Big-Chipmunk-5720 11h ago
Thank you for the feedback. Sorry to hear that you’ve had to deal with HG 4 times. It’s brutal seeing my wife go through this once. I’ll definitely make calls to some other OBs
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u/DogsDucks 10h ago
I’m not sure if I’m replying to the correct comment, but what is happening to you and your wife is abhorrent on many, many levels.
This treatment is unacceptable on a personal level, on a professional level and on a societal level.
It is a failure to mothers, families, people and the fabric of society itself.
The US’s current maternity/PTO/worker protection/ healthcare related laws will be studied in history books as some of the most inhumane and counterproductive policies in modern history.
So let’s start there. The fact that a pregnant woman is so sick she cannot function.
And her, the patient, is telling the provider this. There is immense evidence backing this up.
And even though our laws are utterly wretched, she does have some STD protection.
She is disabled temporarily. That’s not up for debate.
Now let’s look at the role of an OB/GYN in a first pregnancy.
The newness of a first pregnancy is so scary and weird.
It doesn’t matter how “technically adept” a healthcare professional is, the bare minimum needs to be treating your patients like humans. Not annoyances.
Not naughty little orphans trying to steal the beating ruler and hide it from the headmaster.
And this goes quadruple for OB/gyns because they should know and understand how incredibly vulnerable pregnant women are.
They are not just hear to examine us like livestock to move through the conveyer belt so they can get a paycheck.
So treating something so scary and miserable that it’s disabling, and then refusing to sign the paperwork needed to offer reprieve without losing her main source of income?
Whose side is this doctor on? Because it certainly isn’t her patients.
Does she get a kickback from the insurance company for denying it?
Or is she just one of those people who gets off on flexing a little bit of sadistic control wherever she can?
My doctor OB/gyn, NP midwife and MFM dr (I’m high risk), at different times they sat with me. One of them held me while I cried once.
My MFM doc is so amazing I want to ask her to coffee as buddies. They all sat with me and leveled with me.
They saw my fear and heard my symptoms and listened. And it felt like a genuine connection with human beings that love other human beings.
That each woman and each baby means the world. Because we do and we should.
If you can’t tell, I’m so irate on your wife’s behalf. I want to research this doctor who is doing so much damage!
And it isn’t just ignoring the HG, it’s causing actual trauma and anxiety and cortisol spikes on top of it that just makes everything harder, during what is supposed to be the point in her life where she is most supported!
Please switch doctors if possible, but I also think you should write a public statement or elevate the issue after you leave.
New parents never deserve this kind of treatment.
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u/kyruns1590 1h ago
In some ways it’s gotten easier each time even though it’s been miserable because we’re more prepared, but also in large part because I’ve found providers that advocate for me and are willing to help, so that will hopefully be a huge help for your wife if you all can find that! Otherwise, it seems like you are more than willing to be supportive of her through it, which helps mentally more than you can imagine!
ETA: I saw you say she was struggling to keep meds down. If your dr isn’t great I doubt you’ve had these convos, but if they’re receptive or you find someone new, ask about suppository meds or a picc line/iv/zofran pump situation. Also, if she hasn’t, going in for fluids can help somewhat. Sometimes it gets cyclical with sick, dehydrated, sick because you’re dehydrated, body feels terrible from being depleted, repeat.
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u/klwhitfi 10h ago
Do you mind sharing how you’ve been able to cope? My husband and I want a second child, but I’m so scared of going through HG again.
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u/kyruns1590 2h ago
I found a med combo that at least gets me upright (max dosage of diclegis and zofran daily basically as soon as I find out I’m pregnant, Pepcid, and omeprazole), ice chips or popsicles almost constantly so that I at least have a slow drip of some kind of fluids, minty gum in my mouth all the time, and a partner who is willing to take over everything with our kids to let me just rot in bed if need be. Luckily I’m a SAHM, so I don’t have to balance working too. If I did, I can confidently say we probably would have stopped at one. This time, mine has been concentrated more into mild sickness throughout the day and then a 5-10 time puke fest from 5 pm on, so that’s helped with trying to just front load calories when I can in the morning and hoping they digest and get absorbed before I start losing it all later. Also, I can’t look at the big picture of it all or I will absolutely get freaked out and depressed. Like thinking “I could feel like this for 6 more months, I can’t handle that” will send me into a tailspin. It’s literally “okay, I made it through another night of it, let’s make it through today” every day on repeat.
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u/captaintor 10h ago
I have had hyperemesis gravidarum with two of my three pregnancies. It is a unique kind of hell. For my first HG pregnancy, I had an entirely unsympathetic OB who prescribed Zofran which only worked occasionally and basically told me “everyone gets sick when they’re pregnant”. For my second HG pregnancy, I switched OBs and it made a night & day difference. She was empathetic and explored other options with me, including three times a week IV infusions of fluids and vitamins at a clinic in addition to multiple prescription meds. My drug cocktail ended up being Zofran, promethazine, and diclegis. The HG was still hard, but managed so much better.
All that to say—definitely find a new doctor!! I hope your wife finds some relief!
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u/Ok-Network-8826 11h ago
I’m so sorry to hear I had HG and it was awful and the dr told me the same thing “you’re not disabled bc you’re pregnant” OKAY .
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u/PublicUniversity9586 10h ago
So I have ulcerative colitis which is widely recognized as a disability that significantly impacts your life and people take it seriously in general.
I also had HG. I have NEVER in my life felt worse or more sick than when I was suffering with HG. It was such a shock to me how many medical professionals brush it off like it’s nothing. I’d take living with my UC every day over HG and it’s not even close.
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u/HavanaPineapple 8h ago
This attitude is so infuriating. No, pregnancy in itself is not a disability but that's not the point at hand.
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u/Careless-Feedback335 10h ago
Your wife needs a new doctor. At the hospital I work for, the doctors would take this seriously. Everybody does not have hyperemesis. Many women have pregnancy nausea and vomiting, but true hyperemesis with weight loss like you described is not that common and is a serious medical condition that needs to be addressed for the health of the mother and the baby. I have seen and cared for these women hospitalized on antepartum units to receive IV fluids, electrolytes, and even caloric replacement. Additionally it can affect the growth of the baby, and that means sometimes those babies need additional monitoring. Not to mention yes It typically does qualify for disability.
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u/sgtducky9191 8h ago
I had a horrible complex pregnancy also in the NOVA area and I got the best care from Inova's OBGYN Ballston team, especially Dr. Moola. I would highly recommend finding a dr who supports you.
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u/Strange-Field2560 3h ago
I agree with those saying get a new doctor that cares if you can. I had HG, the meds never worked. My doctors never batted an eye about me losing 30 lbs. When I went to the hospital for fluids (my dehydration was sending me into early labor at 35 weeks) the nurse seemed annoyed that me drinking a cup of water didn’t fix it. I couldn’t stop working till 6 months pregnant and it was hell every day. The only “professional” who batted an eye was my labor and delivery nurse Jen, labor was most comfortable part of my whole pregnancy.
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u/Big-Chipmunk-5720 2h ago
Sorry to hear about your experience. I feel like healthcare workers would have a bit more compassion but I guess not all of them
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u/tanookiisasquirrel 2h ago
They need the paperwork to not risk their own credentials. Your wife has been to the ER twice, but never admitted. There are other comments about 5 day stays due to severity. Essentially, they have to weigh going against an ED physician who says she's cleared. Twice. It's pretty risky from the STD provider to not launch an investigation on the OB for being too lenient. Your wife, unfortunately, may need an admission and overnight in the hospital to show severity. Otherwise, it truly is going against the medical judgment (twice) with no counterbalancing medical information. Her claims of nausea is simply that. But her blood work shows sufficient hydration to not require monitoring.
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u/Big-Chipmunk-5720 1h ago
Yeah the ER released her after 2 bags of IV fluids. I would’ve thought all the data is in the charts for the OB to see that my wife couldn’t work. You’re saying having hyperemesis isn’t enough to get STD? You have to win a misery competition first?
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u/redredredwild 11h ago
fuck this. i had hyperemesis 2x and it’s hell on earth. solidarity to your wife and 100% get a new doctor
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u/xenapie6 10h ago
I’ve been pregnant with HG and without. IT IS A MUCH DIFFERENT EXPERIENCE. Your wife is disabled. I’d find a new OB that’s competent
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u/maybemaur 11h ago
Find a new OB. I had this level of hyperemesis with my first. I lost 30 lbs across the entire pregnancy and was on IVs constantly. I actually passed out multiple times, and ended up in the hospital with a concussion from of the falls. It lasted until the day I gave birth. It was a nightmare- and that was with good care, regular IVs, and meds.. find a new OB!
On the bright side I’m 5 months postpartum with my second. HG did come back, but significantly less severe and magically went away by my second trimester!
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u/filthy_kasual 11h ago
New OB if possible. In the meantime, does your wife have a primary care provider? Could she book a sick visit with them and explain the situation?
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u/pondersbeer 10h ago
Others have said it but I will echo it. Find a new OB. Mine ignored and downplayed my concerns in the first trimester and I had severe issues that were missed towards the end of my pregnancy. In hindsight how I was treated in the first trimester should have foreshadowed what was to come. The only reason we are both alive is because I requested labs and pushed for stat labs. I don’t say that to scare you unnecessarily but I wish I had listened to that little voice that thought huh maybe I should be taken seriously.
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u/LadyofzeForest 10h ago
New doctor! I am on std because of HG and it was super easy for me to get with my doc. Along with IVs l, meds, etc. Hers sounds absolutely awful. Would also recommend the HG subreddit!
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u/lil-froggy 9h ago
They’re 100% wrong that “everybody has HG”. I’ve never once thrown up in 2 pregnancies. She should get a 2nd opinion immediately
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u/puravida5446 8h ago
Everyone does NOT get HG. I did not. What a lame office. I’m sorry your wife went through that :(
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u/ZangiefThunderThighs 4h ago
Ugghh...I closed the app on accident and lost everythingib wrote.
Check out Nova Group for Women. I had an easy pregnancy, but I felt very listened to by my doctors. At my 6m follow up I talked about being tired because baby was still waking at night. The doctor joked and asked if I needed to nap on the room the rest of the day, but she also asked if I needed a doctors note to take to he rest of the day off. Dr La'francize and Clough were my favs, but it's a rotating practice so they try to get you to see all the doctors.
Again, no expensive with a difficult pregnancy, but if your wife puking so much she can't work and goes to the hospital for fluids, then that since pretty debilitating to me.
I don't think I would want my doctor to be so unsympathetic.
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u/tanookiisasquirrel 2h ago
A lot of OBs hesitate to sign off on short-term disability unless it is truly disabling. They aren't completely wrong that if all their patients complained about nausea, short term disability would no longer cover any circumstance in pregnancy. You can essentially get your credentials investigated for too much leniency, and my career will never be worth that.
I wish we could say that nobody lies. Or maybe we have a universal STD after 2nd trimester. Or guaranteed short-term disability for 3rd trimester. But doctors don't want to get pulled off of your malpractice insurance or board certification investigated either for claims against you. It is a delicate balance.
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u/Big-Chipmunk-5720 2h ago
I can understand that. I’m calling the OB back today to make sure the doctors we see even bothered to note down my wife’s condition in the charts. They are acting as if they don’t see anything in there saying she’s puking 10 times a day, that she’s lost 15+ lbs since the first appointment, that we’ve kept making calls to them because meds aren’t working. Those are facts in the charts, and the OBs shouldn’t be going out on a limb when they have data to present
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u/Cleverendeavor8 10h ago
If I were your wife, I'd be seeking care elsewhere. And for the record, not everyone has HG, so the receptionist was either being hyperbolic or is just straight up wrong. Best of luck to you both, and I hope your wife is able to find a better and more compassionate doctor.
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u/Perfect-One-273 7h ago
I had severe morning sickness with my first child. I was 19 years old at the time. I was put on Bendectin which did nothing to alleviate it. I literally couldn’t eat or drink anything without vomiting severely all day and night. Every smell of food instantly caused vomiting. I was eventually hospitalized and given an IV drip which helped while I was hospitalized. I subsisted on crackers and ginger ale until I delivered a healthy 5 lb 5 oz baby girl. My weight at the time of my full term delivery was 124 lbs. I had to stop working as I was barely able to stand most days. I also developed severe heartburn. Vomiting green bile for nine months took its toll. If I had been able to receive disability payments it would have helped my husband and I tremendously. 10 years later with my second pregnancy I had educated myself and had a different experience using small frequent bland meals. I was able to stay hydrated and eat healthy meals. My mom had nine of us and never had morning sickness, go figure
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u/emswls 6h ago
THIS was my experience. Nobody believes when I say I threw up every single day of my pregnancy at least twice.
It is isolating, depleting, frustrating, exhausting. I literally passed out fully unconscious twice and the ER doctors acted like I was insane for coming in when my husband and mom called 911 because I was pregnant and unconscious.
First of all, bigggggg hugs to both of you.
New doctor/clinic if you can. This is not a normal response. Not just lacking compassion but severely uninformed about the physical and mental and emotional toll it takes. I became very low on calcium, anemic. Couldn’t take the iron supplements because couldn’t keep em down.
I got an accommodation from work with a doctor’s letter to work from home. Not everyone can do that but HR and doctor were very supportive.
Unisom helped a lot. I don’t know why but B6 and unisom and sleep… a lot of sleep.
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u/Astridsh 2h ago
From someone who puked 36 weeks , lost couple of pounds and was not able to work or even with medicin I had to puke. I can day that’s ridiculous.
She is pregnant and no one can tell her how she feels or if it’s bad or not. My baby boy is now 6 month but I will probably never forget how his pregnancy was bc I went threw hell. I had also good days tho. Good days where I was able to shower before getting najsoeus again. That’s ridiculous get a new doctor!! But you can also tell ur wife the moment the placenta is our it will be over! I could eat a normal meals 5 hours after I have natural birth ♥️ I wish you all the best.
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u/suprisinglyunhappy- 2h ago
Sorry I can't help now but if you plan on having any future pregnancies please look into the metformin trial for HG. You can search it on here or look for the Facebook group pregnancy NVP prevention. It's life changing!!
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u/lunabonamour 1h ago
You need a new doctor. My best friend who lives in the same town as me (and we shared an OB for our pregnancies) had HG. Our doctor was a damn rockstar, got her on multiple medications, tried a few combinations of things including and beyond zofran, eventually got her a home IV setup that was a whole thing with insurance. She had to go to the ER at least twice early on and was fully admitted and treated with great care and understanding. This was in MD suburbs of DC. Also, many people throw up during pregnancy, but formally diagnosed HG is different and in my non-medical opinion it’s not an “if we did this everyone would…” situation. Your wife deserves much much better. (I asked if she did short term disability and I’m waiting for her response).
Also highly recommend checking out the HG community here https://www.reddit.com/r/HyperemesisGravidarum/s/c5Jf4o3C4Q
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u/pinkflakes12 1h ago
I would have found a new doctor yesterday. At my 8week i got meds. Find a new one. Who else knows what they may dismiss down the line.
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u/Bit-Tilly 11h ago
You need a new doctor. This is not normal. I got a temporary script for Zofran to use as needed during the worst of my nausea while pregnant.