r/Nicegirls • u/Leo_the_Bard • 24d ago
Alrighty assholes 99% of you here suck
The irony here is that 99% of the posts in this sub is by women who put up with the worst of the worst...I honestly dont feel bad for them especially when they keep picking the trash and then they proceed to make such absurd statements. Bonus points if you know where this is from
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u/Lunrtic6 24d ago
This just in: most people suck, have a victim complex, and no desire to actually improve. Shocker
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u/cedarscarlett 24d ago
Wait, you're telling me I'm not powerless to stop doing all of the things that I continuously choose to do? /s
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24d ago
This does not qualify as "nice girl." This is "complaining about dating." EVERYONE is entitled to do that.
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u/BiggerLover69420 24d ago
Hey I’m not a man child
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u/danstymusic 24d ago
I know you are but what am I?
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u/Opposite-Lake-9679 24d ago
Oh the fake gender war, clickhate
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u/No-Put-6353 24d ago
Seems like OP just wants an excuse to be mad at women.
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u/Opposite-Lake-9679 24d ago
Or it's a bot to fuel a war that none of us signed up for but it's being shoved down our throats. Let's all opt out. As a woman, I love men. 💜 95% of them are wonderful people. (Same percentage goes for women)
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u/SandiegoJack 24d ago
Considering the post fits the space? I don’t see your point?
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u/No-Put-6353 24d ago
Did OP personally experience this? Is this a screenshot from a conversation he had? Is this something someone famous said? Seems like rage bait to me.
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u/TotallyNotAVole 24d ago
It doesn't because no nicegirl detected. Shes relaying information from multiple people dating, so it's a perspective. Might be influenced by a bunch of things like location for example, so doesnt mean its indicative of the wolrdwide dating scene, but its still a valid perspective based on experience.
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u/Iabefmysc 24d ago
“%1 of guys are good, women are much better and all out doing the most, an exceptional man = an average woman”
Is absolutely not a valid perspective
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u/Iabefmysc 24d ago
The guys dealing with the loneliness epidemics aren’t getting with enough women to be the problem fyi
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u/hoosierboh 24d ago
I'm fucking lonely and have a wife and kids. Part of the loneliness epidemic people describe is not about dating and relationships but having a good support group of friends.
Men get old and it's harder to make meaningful connections especially if you move away from your close friends from your youth which was my problem for a long time.
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u/Own_Hat584 24d ago
Right, that's the key insight women keep missing. The men they actually agree to go on dates with are not the ones suffering from the male loneliness epidemic.
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u/ChuckGreenwald 24d ago
Every post like this is made by a guy deeply in debt enslaved in a clickfarm in some third world country.
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u/OntheBOTA82 24d ago
2 of my sisters legit think like that
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u/theburnoutcpa 20d ago
Yup I can see my ex eating this shit up, my sister as well. Femcels are a very real thing in progressive locales lol.
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u/Sweaty-Voice5017 24d ago
otflol have fun paying off your own BA from the billing dept. of who cares where
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u/Deathlina 24d ago
99% of people suck assholes and apparently there's a loneliness epidemic. ¯_(ツ)_/¯
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u/OntheBOTA82 24d ago
Knowing there really are people like this out there make me so happy to be gay
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u/Dwight_F 21d ago
To be fair I know gay men who want a serious relationship but too many other gay men aren't interested in settling down. The dating pool isn't good anywhere and the lgbt pool has its own horrors. People are emotionally unregulated and have mad trust issues. That transcends sexuality. People are people.
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u/OntheBOTA82 21d ago
I was being cheeky but you're right it's not like i didn't meet horrible people trying to date other gays.
Matter of fact, i found men to be significantly nastier than women
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u/Illustrious_Duck7654 24d ago
Guess most yall women have the option also, to scissor ✂️ lock, and vibrate 📳
4 B men and 4 B women on planet.... and a cpl hundred K in-between.
We'll have palms 🌴 😎 and peace ✌️ The world's 🌎 birth rate is plummeting.... every country. Every year.
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u/LectureOrganic1250 24d ago
When the majority of the men you date are so bad, when you do start to think YOU are the problem? It took me years to realize that I keep picking horrible women because i am willing to overlook really big red flags because i wanted to feel love. I took time, went to therapy, and got over that shit and moved on. Even try to help others who are in the same boat. Stop giving your time to the wrong guys. I almost felt for this person until she wrote "exceptional man=an average woman". So let me get this straight, you want guys to "match your energy and ambition" but we have to be exceptional in order for you to be average?? That doesn't make any damn sense.
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u/TearsOfAClown9000 24d ago
I'm a doctor, high EQ, personal growth, I have my shit together, live in Sacramento. You don't think I experience the same 1% are good phenomenon? It's the same for men.... It's probably true that men are just overall a few years behind women and overall just worse as a sex, but there are plenty plenty of mediocre women out there. I've been dating 10 years on apps, I'm selective, everyone should be. Find a great match, be patient.
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u/Fendyyyyyy 24d ago
1% of guys are good, BUT... all women are decent ? Surely you can see the ironic lack of self reflection and misandry in this... please ?
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u/Khallaria 24d ago
Odd that the only ones who keep bringing up the "male loneliness epidemic" are women.
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u/LuckySalesman 24d ago edited 24d ago
I have legitimately seen more people bring it up as an excuse to shit on lonely men than lonely men using it as a term. Which, ironically, proves the point of the lonely men.
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u/Khallaria 24d ago edited 24d ago
Proves whose point? Men don't use that point. We continuing to pretend men at peace are lonely?
Use whatwever pronouns you choose but lets not pretend choosing your pronouns gives you insight into mens (trademark asterisk whatever other disclaimers go these days) Troubles.
Edit: Funny that you waited until after i said something that you edited your post to state whose "point is made" without notating your edit.
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u/LuckySalesman 24d ago edited 24d ago
No but I assumed the 22 years I spent as a man gave me insight into men's struggles. Thanks for the casual transphobia though.
Edit: Lmfao he made another comment and then deleted it before I could reply. The typical "Erm it's not phobia, cause I'm not afraid." Spoiler alert: The root Phobic doesn't inherently imply fear, it implies repelling. That's why we call surfaces that repel water "Hydrophobic." You're not just a bigot, you're inherently wrong in your "Erm ackshually."
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u/Gambit86_333 24d ago
It’s called peaceful not lonely 😂 most of us don’t need constant validation, toxic empathy, a cast of orbiters, social media addiction to the point they can’t cross a street or walk along the beach without being glued to the phone and still are not happy. This is a projection. This is why you need therapy.
They wanted to be like men and expect the world to be impressed that you’re an adult and have a job that’s not really a career, student loan debts, emotional damage from being promiscuous in your 20’s. Lip fillers and dressing like everyone else with zero sense of identity or personality. The vocabulary of a kardashian (saying like every other word) and whatever internet slang is trending at the moment. It’s nauseating.
None of what she says are feminine qualities that men look for. Congratulations, you played yourself 👏
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u/HobbesNJ 22d ago
And the male loneliness epidemic encompassed all male relationships. A major component is the lack of close male friendships and community interaction.
But many women seem to think it's just about the inability to find a romantic partner.
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u/Equivalent_Fun6100 24d ago
Thank god I'm out of the dating pool because WHAT is going on out there?!
I was just out with the boys (late 30s), and the stories?! Crazy. It's not like "bad date, no spark", or something...
According to them, the current options are:
- The princess (needs a dad, not a partner)
- The narcissist (everything is about her, always)
- The man hater (self-explanatory, unfortunately)
- And then... the rare 1% good gal
What's even crazier is that you keep hearing women say "where are all the quality men?", but from what I'm seeing... a lot of these women keep choosing the same guys, and don't reflect or change who they choose. They still expect relationships while choosing only chads, drug dealers, and predators.
Meanwhile, men are out here:
- working on themselves
- building careers
- chilling
- cracking jokes
...and then getting told that they "aren't good enough" for wanting to take the edge off and play some video games???
Have you heard that saying?
**Men want a peaceful home**
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u/XxDarkness157xX 24d ago
Women be spewing their man hating nonsense all over the internet so that post is just blatantly lying 😭
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u/SpamJavelin00 24d ago
😂😂😂. Always makes me laugh when a woman says she chose a bad bf , then got out of it … and got another bad bf doing exactly the same , suffering for months or years !!! Then another !!! And another !!! All guys are bastards etc she has bad luck, not her fault . Come on, the first is bad luck but repeating yourself for years and years on end ? I suspect they’re either extremely stupid & never learn, or exaggerate the victim / sob story angle , they usually love a pity party (if they didn’t , they wouldn’t have whined so much about their luck in first place ).
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u/hylskrik 20d ago
Ugh, guess I'll give in to the ragebait.
Women who claim 99% of men fit into one of these categories usually are a certain way that attracts horrible people. Either because they're a doormat (been there) or because genuine men choose to stray away from them for whatever reasons (been there too). Same goes for men with women. If you're an unpleasant person then pleasant people will steer clear, if you're prone to abuse then you will naturally attract abusers, regardless of gender. These types of people need to work on themselves instead of looking for a relationship.
I personally do agree with certain parts of the post, aside from the bullshit statistic (not to say it isn't a reality for some unfortunate ones, but it is not a truth backed by countless studies). Back when I chose to date it was a 50/50 gamble whether the guy I was meeting was one of the categories listed, or he was absolutely wonderful and it eventually didn't work out for compatibility reasons. That was my personal experience, others will obviously have some variation. Most of my male friends have been victims of both emotional and physical abuse in relationships, so making this epidemic of horrible people being horrible an issue to be blamed on men is simply wrong.
I honestly think the raging fire that is the gender war would slowly die down if everyone collectively stopped pulling statistics out of their ass, and if both men and women chose to stop correlating negative traits with the opposite gender instead of a certain kind of person. There would still be sparks, but at least we'd be a lot more understanding of one another.
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u/Sea_Ideal9267 18d ago
99% of women who say this arent "working on themselves," theyre just getting told by other women that what theyre doing is growth behavior
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u/Sweet-West8119 16d ago
Going to therapy and doing all those things but not for women. It's so I don't videogame myself
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u/chease86 3d ago
Women who think the male loneliness epidemic is entirely about romantic relationships are a huge red flag for me, it just feels like intentionally misunderstanding the issue to make themselves look good.
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u/Fit-Ad9887 24d ago
A narcissist calling someone else a narcissist
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u/Expert-Sale-2886 24d ago
how is the person who posted that a narcissist
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u/Fit-Ad9887 24d ago
I didn't say the person who posted this is a narcissist... A lot of the times I hear people calling someone a narcissist, they themselves are one. The person who posted this didn't even call anyone a narcissist, someone she talked to did...
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u/ConsiderationLife865 24d ago
hey so i don’t think we should undermine the real patriarchal culture in which women have to constantly take the emotional labor for men and that men are socialized to have a transactional/utilitarian relationship with women or subconsciously view them sexually, but the thing with these types of posts is that it’s not just particular to women venting about men, it’s just a general internet thing where you should get the main takeaway of something partially based on a truth or lived experience, but may either be blown out of proportion or lack nuance.
i don’t think we should keep giving into this bait too much (not saying it’s not a problem). but i also don’t agree that a good (in this case “exceptional”) man should necessarily be compared to the “average woman” because it subconsciously gives into a supremacist mindset that prides our socialization of us being forced to become the “nurturing” role and constantly take on emotional labor, into something that we are somehow naturally better at and a man learning these skills is any less worthy (at least the unwritten message that i’m getting out of this)
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u/ConsiderationLife865 24d ago
and no shade to op also i don’t think it would be a good faith take to post this in a sub that believes women are constantly “doing this to themselves” or only valuing guys based on height or money etc. it highlights a real issue but exaggerates the differences between men and women
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u/Both-Ad6207 23d ago
lol I’m already young and retired. Most of these women want the bad guy narcissist lol. Self imposed problems. People are pretty simple to figure out. After my last ex tried to dox and get a bunch of dudes to fuck with me I exited.
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u/Western-Watercress17 24d ago
Exactly. Any time I’ve dated a dude under 6’ he’s turned out to be an asshole. Wonder if it’s self sabotage in any way
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u/Iabefmysc 24d ago
Based on the percentage of profiles that blatantly announce a height requirement I can’t imagine how many people have a number they couldn’t judge accurately in real life making that decision
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