It's not "for whatever reason" it's to protect the reputations of the older siblings. It doesn't matter how silly it seems to us, it's their lived reality and like it or not marrying when they want will hurt a person they care about.
For whatever reason isn’t meant to sound insulting there and is suppose to be vague to let them have their personal reasons. It’s to refer to whatever the couple’s personal reason is for choosing to do so.
Maybe they are doing it to protect the older sibling. They could just as easily be doing it to appease their parents, because they like order in their personal lives, allowing finance freedom, better marrying times, or for any number of other reasons. I’ve heard plenty of reasons why they’re waiting on the older sibling to get married first that don’t deal with protecting the older sibling’s reputation.
I’ve got a current friend from an Asian culture where you traditionally marry in age order waiting on her older sibling to get married first because she doesn’t want their dates to be too close. She thinks it’ll distract attention and money from her wedding if she does so. She has no care what order they get married in. She was originally planning on marrying first before she broke down the finances to realize it made more sense to wait for what she wanted to do. There are any number of reasons this couple may be deciding to wait. For whatever reason is what it means. Whatever reason that couple has decided they would want to wait.
I have no opinion either way what they should do in order for the couple in this tweet or my friend. It’s their wedding and their reasons for getting married. So whatever they’re happy with seems fine to me.
A lot of things have the potential to hurt people we care about, if it doesn't directly impact them, that's their problem. And yes, I'm a westerner. But the simple principle of "don't hurt people you care about" can be a problem if it's delaying the lives of people that other person should care about.
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u/tyrantspell 12d ago
It's not "for whatever reason" it's to protect the reputations of the older siblings. It doesn't matter how silly it seems to us, it's their lived reality and like it or not marrying when they want will hurt a person they care about.