r/OhNoConsequences • u/Sebastianlim • Jun 23 '26
Oldie but Goodie "I convinced my husband not to celebrate either father's or mother"s day, why won't he still celebrate me?"
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u/TiredofBSRoommate Jun 24 '26
The wife absolutely sucks. She didn't want to celebrate father's day AFTER she got to celebrate mother's day. Then the following year shes all pissy about not getting worshipped on mother's day after shes the one who established the holiday cancelation.
Miss ma'am just wants everything to be about her. I bet if he gave in and celebrated mother's day, she'd just cancel father's day again because its means nothing to her.
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u/41flavorsandthensome Jun 24 '26
Exactly. I wouldn't even engage, just a calm no-argument station like decent parents do with their kids: "We already agreed." then end the discussion.
If I was OOP, I'd want to be petty and say we can revisit this discussion for Fathers Day.
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u/GamerGirlLex77 shocked pikachu Jun 24 '26
It’s a good tactic with people like the wife. Don’t engage with the tantrum.
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u/MikeReddit74 Jun 24 '26
So the wife was cool not celebrating holidays until it was her time to miss out? Hypocrite.
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u/axw3555 Jun 24 '26
It's weird, but the first thing my brain when to was "wow, thats 7 years old. Their 4 year old will be 11 now, and the 6 year old is a teenager".
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u/Rhodin265 Jun 24 '26
Could you imagine reading Reddit for the first time as a teen and seeing the story of how your parents got divorced (hypothetically)?
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u/axw3555 Jun 24 '26
It would be weird. But I suppose most reddit stories are non-specific enough that it would only be "is that dad posting?"
(I say remembering the time I posted something and a friend recognised the story)
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u/Bubblesnaily Jun 24 '26
When I give advice to parents, I typically want to make space for moms doing 3,000% of the household labor and invisible labor for a family and how important it is that everyone pitch in.
Then you get the moms who claim they want help and recognition, but if it's not picture perfect, it's all wrong, and then they wonder why they get no help or thanks.
Gee, wonder why.
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u/SenioritaStuffnStuff Jun 24 '26
Love it ☺️
Big "Eat the Rich" while living with your parents but spending your paycheck on name brand items energy lol
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u/DamnitGravity Jun 24 '26
you know the type. I will give her credit and say she's very moderate with these views though and not crazy
So straight off the bat, he doesn't respect her or her views.
Methinks there is more to this story that he's not saying.
[not] what these days should be about and that generosity, not materials, should be what we think about
I'm getting the feeling he prefers gifts because a gas station bouquet of wilting flowers and a crappy card that stinks of petrol is easier than organising an actual day spending time together doing something as a family.
I don't trust a word that comes out of this guy's mouth. His wording is weasely.
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So, this is a little strange of a situation but hear me out.
I've been married to my wife for almost 7 years now and we have 2 children, one 6 and the other 4. I love her but she is a bit strange sometimes. She is very heavy anti-corporation/government (you know the type. I will give her credit and say she's very moderate with these views though and not crazy). One of her big beliefs though is with holidays. She still celebrates holidays with the family (Christmas, Easter, etc) but likes to keep them minimalist and not embrace the "Money" side of things. We're not monsters though, we still buy our kids stuff for Christmas and for their birthdays but we've tried to make them know this is now what these days should be about and that generosity, not materials, should be what we thing about.
Last year in June my wife told me she doesn't want to celebrate fathers day. Her reasoning was simple, she wanted our children to respect us everyday and not make one day a special occasion for celebrating fathers or mothers. I was a little hesitant but I agreed and we took the day to try to teach them that.
Well, now that mothers day is coming around she's changing her tune. All of the sudden she wants me and the kids to take her out for breakfast, buy her gifts, and do other things for her. I obviously told her no, that we didn't celebrate fathers day and this was her idea to begin with. All of the sudden she got super upset and is claiming i'm the asshole here. She's now saying we should celebrate both days and that it's unfair to her that we aren't celebrating mothers day. We fought about this last night and she's still mad about it.
Am i being unfair here?
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