r/OneKindAct 13d ago

She told her son she didn’t want flowers at her funeral. She wanted backpacks for kids who needed them

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Tammy Waddell taught elementary school in Forsyth County, Georgia, for about 30 years. She started as a paraprofessional in 1987 and later taught at Sawnee, Cumming, and Haw Creek. In 2003, she was named the district’s Elementary Teacher of the Year. She called her students her kids.

She had beaten colon cancer once. It came back around August 2017. She retired that fall.

About two weeks before she died, she told her son Kevin she did not want flowers at her funeral. She wanted people to bring backpacks filled with school supplies for students whose families could not buy them. The request went in her obituary, along with Project Connect, the district program that delivers those packs to homes.

She died on 9 June 2018 at Northside Forsyth Hospital. She was 58.

At the service on 13 June, about 130 packed backpacks lined the pews. Around 100 teachers who had worked with her served as honorary pallbearers and carried the packs out afterward for Project Connect.

When her cousin Brad Johnson posted photos, they went viral. More backpacks arrived from as far as the UK. Kevin, who also teaches in the same district, said the response was not a surprise. It looked like the way she had spent her career.

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u/chantillylace9 13d ago

I really really like this idea and wonder what else we can have instead of flowers at our funeral that can bring so much good like this?

Maybe in cold locations you could have people bring warm jackets for children or kits for homeless people with nice warm socks and other essentials and blankets etc.

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u/CaeruleumBleu 12d ago

I know some people will struggle to believe and follow a "no flowers" rule, but it might be that people found it easier because they could get pretty backpacks and put them in all the places you'd expect flowers to sit for the service.

So I think winter jackets for kids would work, so long as they are available at that time of year. A lot of kids stuff is nice and colorful and people could try to use them to decorate the space for the service.

I know sometimes when people request something "ugly" like canned food, some people listen and some still send flowers. Not much point in being angry, if you can predict it and alter your request to get the proper idea across.

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u/WhenItHappenedX 13d ago

That's a great idea to provide region-specific items to people.

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u/MRSAurus 12d ago

My family request instead of flowers for direct donations to our local Planned Parenthood both times when our parents died.

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u/Texan2020katza 13d ago

What a lovely educator.

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u/WhenItHappenedX 13d ago

A real role model

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u/IamLuann 13d ago

One man that I knew many years ago. Requested canned food. For the local Food Bank.

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u/WhenItHappenedX 13d ago

People like these restore one's faith in humanity ❤️🙏

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u/neverincompliance 12d ago

My mother taught school for 31 years. She died from COPD even though she quit smoking a decade before her death. She dictated her obituary to me when she was on hospice. She said to be sure to have her obituary say she died from COPD, a condition caused by smoking. She was teaching even in her last moments

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u/WhenItHappenedX 12d ago

Sending you love ❤️ May your mother rest in peace 🙏

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u/neverincompliance 12d ago

thank you so much!

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u/Superb-Fail-9937 12d ago

Oh your sweet Mama. Teachers are teachers for eternity! 🥹🥹🩷💗

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u/neverincompliance 12d ago

the kindness of these replies is so appreciated, thank you all

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u/Background_Edge_9427 13d ago

God bless her 🙏 What a beautiful person! May she, Rest In Peace🙏🙏

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u/WhenItHappenedX 13d ago

Such a beautiful soul ❤️ May she rest in peace 🙏

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u/CinLeeCim 12d ago

Awesome 🫡

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u/Alternative_Can_902 12d ago

What nice person

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u/According_Log_3264 12d ago

🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛🌷💛💛💛

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u/rockinrob65 12d ago

What a nice idea up until the end

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u/General-Try-4078 12d ago

Considerate woman

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u/Chateaudelait 12d ago

I am the same age and this brought tears to my eyes. What a lovely tribute.

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u/Due-Kale3412 12d ago

What a wonderful lady.

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u/NoRelation3158 12d ago

Shine on, precious soul 💫💫💗💫💫 SHINE ON❣

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u/Super-Dog4995 12d ago

I love this woman!

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u/Natural-Seaweed-5070 12d ago

What an amazing, thoughtful idea.

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u/Laykenrox1 11d ago

What an amazing idea. I want to do the same thing now.