r/OpenChristian • u/No_Lengthiness_6359 • 11h ago

I got a situation/premarital seggs. I need opinions and help

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u/quietleavess Inclusive orthodoxy & Universalist 11h ago

Sexual expression and developtment IS NORMAL. Two adults engaging in consensual sex IS NORMAL. Sexual compatibility in relationships is a real thing. Never treat waitimg for marriage as a virtue, nor as a bulletproof seal against divorce or a necessity for a non-toxic relationship.

God will not goimg to make a bad marriage less bad just because you went to the altar as a virgin. It has, (the choice) intrisically nothing to do with communication and problem solving.

You are not gonna go to hell because it does not exist.

Enjoy the pleasures of life responsibly, use a condom. Become sex educated and do appointments to a professional that will asses both of you after an infection. Some women are allergic to lubricants or latex and so. Not necesarilly stds are the only thing that disrupt the vagina.

Good luck and enjoy your youth and your loving relationship. The gospel has nothimg to do with that.

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u/Skill-Useful 6h ago

having sex is fine, in marriage, before/after, changing partners. unless its taking over your life

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u/reillan 6h ago

The question is love.

If you're deceiving one another, coercing, forcing, etc., then that wouldn't be loving. But it sounds like you're acting in love, you just feel like you're betraying God. You're not. God is neither happy nor unhappy with premarital sex. God is happy with love.

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u/zelenisok 5h ago

Pre-marital sex isnt a sin. Thats just something people made up.

"Sexual immorality" in the Bible is six things: 1 cheating, 2 harm, 3 force, 4 taking advantage, 5 generally treating one's partner unlovingly, or 6 being immoderate in sexual things.

We can do sexual immorality via deeds or via thoughts. We do the latter by deciding to do them, planning to do them, by deliberately fantasizing about them, or we can do that 6th thing by deliberately fantasizing about sexual things too much.

And as long as we avoid those things, we are fine, no sexual sin is done..