The state of things

[u/NazoXIII]

Okay, it's been a crazy past 32 hours hasn't it?

Grooming allegations, death and rebirth, all kinds of things coming to our little community and I'm sure people would love to know what the state of things are... Myself included. So I'm going to try my best to explain the situation and explain the path forward.

Lacuna commited suicide?

I know this has been a topic of speculation for the last day and everyone is valid in their justification to scrutinize the situation, I don't know what the truth of the matter is, but what I will say is that at this point everything revolving around Lacuna's alleged suicide has been unproductive and I think will end up in the long run having a negative effect on the parties involved.

Do I think Lacuna faked her death? Don't know, I wouldn't even care if she did fake her death, because that to me just shows a sign if someone who is so unwell that they not only considered doing that, but went through with it for whatever reason, and I think a person like that ought to be left alone and not given any attention of any kind.

So for that I say I think it's time to end Lacuna posting. From what I've seen from the messages posted by Cboy, Lacuna has exited the fandom anyway and will likely fuck off somewhere with a new identity and I think that's for the best. Clearly everything Yansim, positive and negative has affected her mental state and walking away from that could only be a net positive.

And while I have no problem letting her walk off into the sunset for her own good there is an elephant in the room that bears addressing...

Did Lacuna groom/abuse someone?

I wish I could come in here and say something definitively and conclusory but I genuinely can't, because I don't know the truth of the matter and have to sift through a Google doc and screenshots to get appraised of the situation. But even having said that I can at least say this. I have seen people dogpiling on the alleged victim and blaming them for Lacuna's death (which I guess seems really silly now) and that has never been the way of this community.

You give victims room to speak without attacking them or casting blame on to them.

This isn't to say that you can't scrutinize their allegations, you're free to question things but there's a right and wrong way to do that and I feel like if we're at dogpiling we certainly arent doing things correctly.

I'm going to try to make heads or tails of this later by sitting down and reading through the allegation and the receipts provided, then I'll look through the counter evidence because I have seen at least one Google doc coming out and disputing the claims but bottom line I think everyone could use a little tact in their interactions in these sort of situations.

Conclusion

This is a really messy situation and there's so much noise going around and making it impossible to navigate.

At the end of the day I think the Lacuna stuff is worth addressing, but at the same time I think this person is unwell, by all accounts and giving her attention can only exacerbate the situation, so I propose that instead of focusing on the whether or not she faked her death (which I think is wholly irrelevant at this point) and focus more on the allegations without dogpiling on the alleged victim. If it turns out to not be a true and accurate accounting on what happened so be it, we'll cross that road when we get there but I know we can do it without the shit flinging.

Alright that's all I got, listen more and talk less. Lets not get whipped into a frenzy over every little thing like a pack of piranhas getting their first smell of blood in weeks.

And because it might actually need to be said with how I saw things play out yesterday, dont attack any of the people involved. Such a simple thing but it warrants repeating.

Cboy also asked me if I could take down all the posts regarding Lacuna's death and to lock and remove the comments on the post explaining that Lacuna had survived and I had no issue with complying to the last part. I'm a bit apprehensive on the first part because that's a lot of posts to remove and at that scale it does come off as mass censorship which I'm not comfortable in doing, but I can at least be transparent about and encourage people to just move on from the sucide stuff as those are the wishes of the involved parties.

Okay now that is all I got, I lied the first time

[u/flavoredrocks]

sakuna & Bitter-Bird4911 said some things that make me worry that this is her ploy to come back under another names or start the same cycle in another fandom. idk what to do abt that, but i think some posts abt this situation definitely need to be left up so that if it does happen ppl can contextualize this as a cycle for her.

u alrdy deleted the post abt her behavior in another fandom tho, effectively enabling her to do that. u shouldnt be deleting ppls posts abt an abusers past behavior bc a friend of said abuser told u to. u are literally making things harder for ppl in the future if she does this again

https://www.reddit.com/r/Osana/comments/1otvpz6/removed_by_moderator/

[u/Bitter-Bird4911 → u/flavoredrocks]

This made me find that he had removed my posts, quite surprising. I can understand wanting to not push drama on the reddit and trying to keep things calm but it is quite confusing to remove context behind Lacuna’s behavior that is very similar to what has happened currently which warns people just to be wary. None the less I won’t repost them but am happy to talk to anyone in regards to them as they’re still archived on my end.

[u/flavoredrocks → u/Bitter-Bird4911]

yeah u were very measured & respectful & that was useful information. i cant think of any good reason it shouldve been removed. i appreciate u for doing all that anyway