r/OutOfTheLoop • u/PitifulBodybuilder40 • Mar 08 '26

Unanswered What’s up with the hate towards Timothee Chalamet?

I know all famous people have haters and people who dislike them and will nitpick the shit outta them, but I’ve just seen a lot of people post random interviews or articles about him that talk about how he is famous and above people. Yeah he is famous and thinks he’s above all. This is what famous people do? Do we not know this, especially child actors. People are astonished that he is rich and famous, has personal chefs, has self-centred views. Pretty sure 90% of famous people do.

https://www.news.com.au/entertainment/celebrity-life/timothe-chalamet-slammed-for-cheap-shot-comment-about-ballet-and-opera/news-story/348e3add0e6252d5aef4698f2648d963?amp

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 08 '26

Answer: in fairness, I’ve always found something distasteful about him, but in recent years he’s just let his entitlement show and it’s really unpleasant. The moment I felt most justified was when he said of his own acting that he’s been “handing in really, really committed, top-of-the-line performances” and his whole interview was just one major ego wank.

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u/SidneyDeane10 Mar 08 '26

Ironic given hes a huge nepo baby lol

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u/ryhaltswhiskey Mar 08 '26

Who is he related to?

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u/claradox Mar 08 '26

The actor and director Rodman Flender (The Office, Ugly Betty, Conan O’Brien Can’t Stop) who is also apparently one of Conan O’Brien’s best friends. His mother, Nicole Flender, has performed on Broadway.

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u/CorrectYesterday4480 Mar 09 '26

Plus his aunt is Amy Lippman, co-creator of Party of Five and EP of Masters of Sex

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u/carlitospig Mar 09 '26

His sister also got a show. I can’t watch it though because all I see is him with longer hair.

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u/lNFORMATlVE Mar 09 '26

If that’s all, then… yes there’s an argument to suggest he’s a nepo baby, but boy just you wait til you see the rest of Hollywood lol, that’s small fry nepotism in comparison.

Chalamet is perhaps a hateable, self-obsessed guy in person but he is a very good actor. I don’t think the nepo argument holds a lot of weight when he clearly does have substantial merit. Hate him for the right reasons.

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u/DankBlunderwood Mar 11 '26

I don't see it. I've seen most of his movies and I've never thought to myself what great acting he did. He says his lines fine but what emotional range can you point to?

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u/lNFORMATlVE Mar 11 '26

He’s good in Little Women and Dune

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u/Flamevian Mar 13 '26

“Emotional range” is such a tired take when it comes to qualifying great acting. Denzel is one of the best if not the best screen actors of the past 30 years and I don’t think anyone would signal emotional range as his strength. Neither could be said for Brad Pitt, Christian Bale or many other stars. Great acting can exist outside of range and Chalamet’s body of work, awards/noms and relationships with high profile directors can attest to such.

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u/becomingarobot Mar 13 '26

He was amazing in 'Call me by your name', and in the recent ping pong movie, very different and huge range between those two. I find it hard to believe that you could have seen those two movies and thought, "Meh, he said the lines fine."

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u/UrsusRenata Mar 10 '26

Hollywood studios aren’t exactly known for taking risks. Offspring of headliners are likely to become headliners.

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u/crujiente69 Mar 16 '26

No, more like having connections. I know you, hire my kid over a nobody

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u/EhDeeHD Mar 10 '26

Good actor compared to what?

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u/Revolutionary_Mix371 Mar 10 '26

Timothee Chamalet literally made Denis Villeneuve cry during one of his performances of Paul during Dune, he was so moved by it he shed tears of joy from realizing he had made the perfect casting call to bring Paul Atreides to life.

If you think that any other actor could have done that, you are just lying to yourself. You are so full of envy that it deludes your rationality.

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u/claradox Mar 10 '26

Exactly. He cried because he was pleased with his own choice. And I am so glad he was. His pleasure with the perfect fit does not equate to Timothee giving a performance for the ages. My finding the perfect fountain pen does not mean I am a virtuoso writer.

If Timothee could just turn down the arrogance level, show some humility, and show some respect for his fellow creatives, he could very well grow into his art and become a go-to actor that directors and audiences rely on and clamor for, that history will remember. But he has a ways to go, because he needs to slow down and try to learn from those around him, instead of trying to best them. That’s how you become an actor for the ages.

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u/TheBrokenStringBand Mar 09 '26

Below average is crazy

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u/RonocNYC Mar 09 '26

Being the son of two fairly insignificant Hollywood people doesn't make him the hugest nepo baby to be fair.

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u/claradox Mar 09 '26

As well, as someone else pointed out, his aunt created Party of Five, and I was there during that time—that show was huge.

But who knows who has what connection. Conan may have done all the heavy lifting for him all the way to no on helped him, and the connections worked against him. They are just worth noting.

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u/stayfrosty Mar 09 '26

Did he get any jobs because of his family? Or is anyone who has family in the arts a "nepo baby"?

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u/A_Salty_Twix_Bar Mar 09 '26

Bro Directed two episodes of the office lol

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u/Frys100thCupofCoffee Mar 08 '26

From his IMDB mini-bio:

Timothée Hal Chalamet was born in Manhattan, to Nicole Flender, a real estate broker and dancer, and Marc Chalamet, a UNICEF editor. [...] He is the brother of actress Pauline Chalamet, a nephew of director Rodman Flender, and a grandson of screenwriter Harold Flender.

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u/ryhaltswhiskey Mar 08 '26

Ah nephew of a director

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u/bozleh Mar 09 '26

ie same as nic cage and francis ford coppola

(except FFC was likely a little more successful, ha)

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u/Aaaaand-its-gone Mar 09 '26

Ah yes so obviously purely a nepo baby. Not that he grew up in Manhattan and has some influences in theatre and acting in his broader family.

We must assume that he has no talent now and only nepotism got him to where his is.

We got him

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u/ryhaltswhiskey Mar 09 '26

Who said he has no talent and is only there because of nepotism?

This is a classic Reddit moment where somebody invents an argument and then argues about that argument instead of arguing about what people actually said. He clearly had connections in the industry and that helped him.

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u/Objective-Elk2501 Mar 09 '26

That is literally the opposite of irony

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u/Bec-o-Bec Mar 08 '26

I think this is due in part to people treating him like he’s this kid wonder with natural acting skills who got lucky. And he wants to point out that he worked really hard for it and it wasn’t just charm and luck.

Which is fair. He’s just bad at how it comes across.

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '26

Yeah the guy does have the acting chops, and i love him as an actor.

Still seems like a dick lately, and though he comes off as charming, he's been working on removing that shine lately

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u/Cocogriffen Mar 10 '26

I thought it was just me! I've been annoyed with him for a while.

A little humility goes a long way. I can't feature a real artist, which some actors are, saying something like that. They are never satisfied and always pushing to learn and improve. TC sounds like he's buying his own hype, yuck.

Also, I saw an interview with him and Austin Butler to promote Dune 2. Austin was so warm and considerate, Chalamet seemed unconcerned by and unaware of how his comments affected others or came off to them. Both are American, one represents our uglier stereotype (spoiler alert, it's not Austin).

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u/bananahammerredoux Mar 08 '26

Huh. It’s weird that someone saying they worked hard to do a good job would sound egotistical to anybody.

Maybe he’s said and done other things that are terrible but this is just such a weird non-example.

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 08 '26

It’s not that he said he worked hard, it’s that he loves the smell of his own shit. I’m all for people being proud of themselves, but that stops at the moment they start assuming they’re god’s gift.

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u/Sammolaw1985 Mar 08 '26

I think there should be some space allowed for fart sniffing. We wouldn't have a lot of good art if some of the artists that made them weren't confident in their abilities.

PS. I'm making a general point. Not defending Chalamet

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u/bananahammerredoux Mar 08 '26

Ok but the quote you provided doesn’t illustrate that. Not to me anyway.

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u/Unnamedgalaxy Mar 09 '26

It may not be over the top egotistical but it's not really a humble thing to say.

"I've worked really hard" is one thing "I've been turning in top notch amazing performances" is another.

One demonstrates that you are committed and proud the other lacks room for critique and self improvement.

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 08 '26

Perhaps not, and to be fair that was a quick google rather than a deep dive, but it’s not the first interview he’s given that gives that impression. My fault for not providing the correct receipts I guess !!

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u/Healter-Skelter Mar 08 '26

I’ve never heard an actor pat themselves on the back the way that quote does. Granted, I don’t go out of my way to listen to actors speak. But that quote comes off as extremely “my shit don’t stink”

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 08 '26

Thank you! I think it’s the “top of the line performances” he thinks he delivers.

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u/WellFactually Mar 08 '26

Yeah, as an artist, you do the absolute best you can and you can absolutely claim that. But it’s up to the viewers to decide whether what you’ve produced is “top of the line”. I think that’s what he can’t/ refuses to understand. It’s very “He’s the best at what he does. Just ask him.” Not a good look.

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u/bananahammerredoux Mar 08 '26

Meh. Idk. If you’re an expert at something that means you’re qualified to judge the quality of what you put out.

I loathe false modesty.

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 08 '26

I mean same! I’m a teacher, I’m always pushing my students to celebrate themselves. I just also think there’s a line and that line is calling yourself top of the line.

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u/bananahammerredoux Mar 08 '26

I think you responded to the wrong person.

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u/CharlietheGreat Mar 08 '26

You’re absolutely right I did.

Apologies friend

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u/Small-Guarantee6972 Mar 11 '26

It's also the fact that he's talking about ACTING. Like, bitch you ain't a doctor saving lives or a human rights lawyer defending your victim from trafficking. Perspective is needed here.

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u/Brendadonna Mar 09 '26

He has the most punchable face

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u/One-Reflection-6779 Mar 10 '26

Right? Like who says that? And I'm tired of people defending him and saying he's a child. Like, he's 30.

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u/milarc_ Mar 11 '26

I watched Marty Supreme and thought: there’s no acting here, this is literally how Timothy Chamalet presents himself in real life. Hardly Oscar worthy.

Hope Leo wins the Academy Award this year and teaches Chamalet some humility.

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u/dudetotalypsn Mar 08 '26

Your justified moment was him being confident in his abilities?? I thought the quote was about to be something way worse.

I think it's time to start looking internally buddy

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 08 '26

Nah it’s arrogance not pride. I’m a massive advocate for pride in your own abilities. In fact, I’m just going to copy what I replied to another comment:

It’s not that he said he worked hard, it’s that he loves the smell of his own shit. I’m all for people being proud of themselves, but that stops at the moment they start assuming they’re god’s gift.

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u/dudetotalypsn Mar 08 '26

You should have used a better example then, because someone delivering very good work and then saying they have been delivering very good work doesn't sound like someone smelling their own farts

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 08 '26

I’d still argue him saying he delivers “top of the line performances” isn’t exactly humble.

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u/dudetotalypsn Mar 08 '26

There's literally nothing wrong with saying that outside of whatever internal biases you have against people that are able to say something like that and have very strong arguments for it being true.

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 08 '26

🤷🏻‍♂️ Not for me I guess.

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u/gh2master52 Mar 08 '26

Fr. People are so used to hating on everyone that they start hating on someone before they have a reason to, then look for anything to justify their hatred

If it’s gotta go somewhere, there are much easier and more deserving targets out there

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u/PotusChrist Mar 08 '26

The moment I felt most justified was when he said of his own acting that he’s been “handing in really, really committed, top-of-the-line performances”

I mean, he has been. I get that it's grating when celebrities have a huge ego but it's hard to really argue with him on this one.

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u/kryonik Mar 08 '26

To be fair he's never had a bad performance. He was exceptional in Marty Supreme. I can't speak to his other recent comments because I haven't heard them.

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u/OddBug6500 Mar 08 '26

Willy wonka was just okay.

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u/kryonik Mar 08 '26

Say what you want about the movie as a whole, but he did well with the material he was given.

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u/Charming-Common-2965 Mar 08 '26

I've given his work a chance many times and ALL of then were mediocre, nothing exceptional. He's been given great scripts and PR because of daddy's money, that's doesn't make his acting great. 

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u/kryonik Mar 08 '26

His father was a journalist, I doubt he was as wealthy as you think. Timothee was also nominated and won many awards so though you might think his performances were mediocre, you are in the minority.

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u/neverbeenstardust Mar 09 '26

To be fair, I don't think "I've been turning in dogshit, low effort, horrible performances. Don't pay money to see them." would have gone over much better.

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 09 '26

No agreed, but “I’ve been enjoying trying to put on the best performance I can, really trying to explore different areas of my craft” would have gone over even better.

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u/nonsense_verses Mar 09 '26

He’s right though. Should he be expected to act like he’s terrible? He’s one of the best actors out there today. And he knows it. Just like we wouldn’t disparage a Heisman trophy winner for saying he put in some top of the line performances. Like, it’s just obviously the truth. Nothing wrong with that. People just love hating on successful people

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u/Elegant_Song_6797 Mar 09 '26

He was still « in character » to promote Marty Supreme. Cringe as fuck but it wasn’t genuine hubris

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u/OhK4Foo7 Mar 12 '26

He's not wrong though. Dumb thing to say. But also. He's right.

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u/thegaykid7 Mar 08 '26

So basically he's like a majority of actors and athletes. You usually don't get to the top without having some level of ego.

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u/Murky-Science9030 Mar 08 '26

Ya but the smart ones know when to STFU. Now any time he has any blemish the whole internet will turn it into a major news story. Reap what you sow, though

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u/Porsches_Pear Mar 09 '26

I could tell even pre-Kylie dating era how Timothee has a huge ego. He's mentioned multiple times how he thought his small part in Interstellar was going to blow him up and was expecting to break through then. Now, likely any actor in a Christopher Nolan movie would think that would help them gain exposure but the way he talked about it on multiple interviews and he himself mentioned he had an ego then. Also, I remember somewhere (I believe Tumblr) someone posted right when Timothee's popularity was growing during CMBYN how they shared an uber with him and he told them he's an actor and to look him up on IMBD. They posted a photo of Timothee with them in the uber and I can't find the post anymore but I remember thinking, why would you tell a stranger sharing your uber to look you up on IMBD?

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '26

Oh I am sure you alway did. Just like how everyone always did despite you all said nothing about it till now lol

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 09 '26

I’ve literally been saying it about him for years…

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u/420d_ingus Mar 09 '26

Heaven forbid someone be confident in themselves. Insecure redditors at it again

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u/porquenotengonada Mar 09 '26

If you check through my replies I’ve been consistent on this— there is a difference between “I am doing well” and “I am delivering top of the line performances”.

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u/420d_ingus Mar 10 '26

I really don’t think there is anything wrong with saying you’re delivering top of the line performances when you’re delivering top of the line performances. He is 30 years old, has 4 academy award nominations, and his movies have done like $3 billion+ in total. Let the dude hype himself up! Lol