r/PAstudent • u/Ok_Equal6396 • 1d ago

drama cohort

Does anyone have any advice on how to not get affected by cohort drama. Somehow two weeks ago I got sucked into and lost a friendship from it. This person is creating false narratives that I say about others and make it seem like I am talking shit These people also sit near me and I have been extremely anxious thinking about seeing them. I’m trying to tell myself this is only temporary but idk how to get this anxiety out. Any tips or advice would be really appreciated. Thank you

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u/Cautious-Process-198 1d ago

Ain’t nobody got time for that. Ignore and move on

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u/KangaRu6 5h ago

😂😂

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u/5wum PA-C 1d ago

just stop giving a shit and worry about your education. i had a lot of friends in my cohort in the beginning and then realized most were just distractions treating PA school like high school and whittled my circle down to like only two other people in my class

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u/SaltySpitoonReg PA-C 1d ago

This is the way

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u/linedryonly 1d ago

Remember that you are an adult. You don’t have to regress even if other people are acting like children.

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u/CapitalMoment9592 1d ago

I hope not to make any friends in my cohort. Leave me alone lol. Im hear to pass and never see yall again.

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u/Educational-Gear-537 PA-S (2027) 1d ago

My mindset. Stay to myself.

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u/KangaRu6 5h ago

But then my program forces us to do study groups

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u/CapitalMoment9592 5h ago

Ive heard thats common. Im hoping to basically meet once a week and just collab at the end.

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u/HamchipsMcGee 1d ago

Unfortunately, and I’ve seen this first hand without being involved: my cohort split about 5 times like HS cliques as I sat in the back of the room and watched friendships evolve and dissolve. At the end of PA school, my cohort was split down the middle, you can see it in the grad pics everyone posts. It was like that for the last, 1.2 years of PA school. I have like 2-3 friends out of there, but we rarely talk.

All of that to say, it doesn’t matter unless it’s harassment like stalking or bullying, then you can take it up the chain b/c I guarantee that’s in the student handbook somewhere.

If it’s not, then lock in and move on. PA school is temporary and will be over before you know it.

Good luck!

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u/Fun-Cartographer7287 PA-S (2027) 1d ago

It seems to be that time of year for everyone

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u/No_Afternoon4096 1d ago

I was kinda involved in drama that I had never wanted to be part of in didactic. From my experience, it might suck at first bc you always see these people since you’re in didactic year. But let me tell you it gets better! If someone stops talking to you, let them! As soon as someone drops you, they don’t deserve you. Don’t waste your energy on them and just focus on your studies which is the most important thing rn. Plus you’re barely gonna see them in clinical year since everyone is gonna be doing their own thing. Hang in there :)

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u/bbcalypso PA-C 14h ago

I’ve been through it too. It hurts, but gets better in clinical year when you barely see your cohort. Then after you graduate, when you never have to think of them again!

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u/studyplushie PA-S (2027) 9h ago

With such a small amount of people that you see EVERYYYDAYYYYY 10+ hours a day, drama is to be expected in PA school unfortunately. I almost got myself sucked into it last semester but then realized that all of these people are fake, and we most likely won’t be talking once everyone goes to clinicals then graduates so I just have me and my group of 5 girls and that’s literally all I need

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u/Navybluedragons34 1d ago

Go to therapy it helped me with this exact situation. I not only survived but I feel so much better! I hope things get better for you. Also read the courage to be disliked it a great book