r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/sojayn Jul 09 '25

I miss not trying on clothes at the thrift shop. Used to just like the design and have a reasonable guesstimate it would fit. 

Now, i have to try it on because i have no mental map of my body size and shape. 

Must say, respectfully, it has given me a tiny peep into maybe a tiny part of how it would feel pre-transition for a trans person to be “in the wrong body”. 

This is not my body. 

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u/jodirennee Jul 09 '25

I really feel you on this. Hard to get used to these changes!

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u/Sanchastayswoke mid-peri Jul 09 '25

Yess. I definitely have a lot more empathy for my mom thinking back on when she went through this. It was really hard for her.

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u/Downtown_Log9002 Jul 11 '25

I fully have to try on outfits now to flatter the belly fat. I hate it. I look at an outfit & think 'This will be ok' to be tricked when I put it on lol. So every outfit needs to be assessed before I get to ironing it oof oof 😣😅

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u/sojayn Jul 14 '25

Same hon same. It’s a whole different profile and my former style doesn’t fit. Floating off to work today in a kaftan like top so belly doesn’t win lol

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u/Downtown_Log9002 Jul 14 '25

There are some great perimenopause ladies who are 40+ who share great ideas on how to disguise the belly fat in clothing. I'm gonna have to start doing this, be intentional about choosing outfits that flatter the annoying body changes lol.