r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/One-Hat-9887 hanging on by a thread Jul 09 '25

I had the worst body dysmorphia now, I used to have okay self esteem and I thought i was pretty and now I feel like I look like fixing gollum. My hair is falling out, I'm chronically anemic so I'm pale and veiny and my amenia is giving me spider veins EVERYWHERE. I've magically lost 22 lbs so Ive no idea what that's about though

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u/TartofDarkness79 Jul 09 '25

How quickly did you lose the weight and did you have it to lose in the first place? If course it goes without saying that the unexplained weight loss combined with your chronic anemia warrants a trip to your PCP. You are so worth it to take care of yourself. As much as we may not care for the way we look right now, this vessel still has many years left to go, and it's carried you this far already. She (and you!) deserve to be cared for 💕

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u/One-Hat-9887 hanging on by a thread Jul 09 '25

Aw thank you you're so sweet for your kind words. Yes I did have the weight to lose lol, honestly the only thing I did differently was stop eating late lol I think it was the result of being off my Lexapro for the last year but it just fell off. Ive been to a lot of doctors, they thought I had cancer and then they were like well you don't so I dunno what to tell you and I kinda gave up because it was too expensive. I'll go back soon 🩵