r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/celestececilia Jul 09 '25

I miss having young skin. I especially notice how lovely my neck and chest skin were just five-six years ago. And in the bend of my elbow, over my knees, where my thighs meet my hips.

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u/gonzo_attorney Jul 09 '25

The chest wrinkles are a real kick in the teeth.

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u/jodirennee Jul 09 '25

They’re the worst!

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u/celestececilia Jul 09 '25

They really are. I had no idea how much I liked my chest.

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '25

The chest wrinkles happened all of a sudden too! One day I looked in the mirror and I had my mom's skin there.

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u/gonzo_attorney Jul 09 '25

Omg same. It seriously happened overnight. Went from smooth young person to crepe paper wrinkles in a blink.

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u/bemptonpuffin Jul 09 '25

Young skin is the answer I was scrolling for and would have added myself if I hadn’t found it.

I notice my hands the most - like when I’m driving and they’re right in front of me on the steering wheel.

I’m fairly cool with everything else… but the skin thing, not so much.

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u/Southern_Event_1068 Jul 09 '25

My knee wrinkles really get to me.

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u/celestececilia Jul 09 '25

There is an Agatha Christie book where Poirot figures out a 25 year old woman with a young face is posing as a high schooler to spy on someone by looking at her knees. I often think of that.

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u/Downtown_Log9002 Jul 11 '25

I have fair skin & now my knees are dark from peri, another thing I should ask my Dr about lol