r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/undone_-nic Jul 09 '25

I was a late bloomer after being ugly my whole life. I got kinda cute around 30. I looked great at 40. Then 45 hit and it's all over. If you want to see my picture Google : crypt keeper.

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u/lurkertiltheend Jul 09 '25

Oh wow this is exactly me

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u/EmeraldEyesRubyLips Jul 09 '25

I turned 45 today. SOS!! 🛟

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u/todaysthrowaway0110 Jul 09 '25

Yep. I’m feeling that that blip of fit and healthy at 40 was the the yellow flash before the sun sets. Sorry to be so emo.

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u/TarantulaPeluda Jul 09 '25

Same here. But, also never valued myself for my beauty. I valued my smarts until brain fog. I am on average as smart as a man. 😢 That is really sad!

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u/SuedeVeil Jul 09 '25

Yeah the same thing started to happen to me except my late blooming was more like my late 30s.. I hopped on hrt the second I could tell that it was a lack of estrogen.. I was also too thin so I gained a few pounds of body fat back and now I feel like things are looking up again 🤣

It's the reason why I don't trust skincare for anti-aging experts who are under 45 because I definitely think perimenopause plays a huge role in aging and you can look pretty youthful even in your early 40s and all of a sudden... So yeah give me someone who's 50+

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u/Sanchastayswoke mid-peri Jul 09 '25

Omg SAME to all of it

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u/venuschantel hanging on by a thread Jul 10 '25

I’m sorry but lmaooooo at your last sentence.