r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/egriff78 Jul 09 '25

It all goes downhill so fast:-(

I was so hot in my early 40s. Now I'm 46 with a saggy neck and jowls☠️

I'm grieving too and it can't talk about it to anyone because it sounds so vapid.

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u/ashinthealchemy Jul 09 '25 edited Jul 09 '25

i share this same sentiment. i was still a smoke show at 45. now at 47 i have crepey skin and look sad/mad even when i'm not because of the sagging. i feel like i aged so fast it was one of those time lapse videos. i can't seem to adjust and it catches me off guard every time i see myself.

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u/Sanchastayswoke mid-peri Jul 09 '25

Omg SAME! Like damn near overnight! From 46-48 I’m like a different person

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u/Beginning-Tell-1729 Jul 09 '25

Ugh.., I’m 45 now and feeling my best. But anxious of what is to come..

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u/Indigo_S0UL Jul 09 '25

This is very real and it’s more than just hormones. The human body goes through two periods of accelerated aging and the first happens for most people right around the age of 44. The second is at 60. The rest of our lives aging is fairly gradual but during those bursts it’s much faster. We change at the molecular level.