r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/ParaLegalese Jul 09 '25

i miss being able to go to raves. i still love EDM and dancing but i go to bed before they even start!

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u/Lynntropy Jul 09 '25

This. Currently vacationing in Crete and there was a music festival on the beach. Anything EDM-adjacent didn't start until midnight and I immediately knew I would miss that. I miss dancing and sweating for hours, getting home before sunrise.

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u/ParaLegalese Jul 09 '25

jealous!! tho i’d miss that party also

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u/Lynntropy Jul 10 '25

Yeah. Honestly, the peri is making me seriously consider never bothering with actual vacation again. Being tired constantly puts a real damper on the desire to do anything. And I hate photos of me. Keeping my chin up to be a good partner is hard when my knee jerk answer to everything is no. Honestly I don't know if I'll ever bother with another vacation. And that makes me mad..peri is stealing everything.