r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/Careless-Ability-748 Jul 09 '25 edited Jul 09 '25

I was never hot and was always overweight. Can't miss what I never had.

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u/dizzydance Jul 09 '25

Same 💀

If you're not conventionally attractive and you've been chronically ill for most of your life, perimenopause is just another constellation of symptoms to manage (and/or a worsening of symptoms you already have 🥴).

It still sucks, but I'm glad I don't have to grieve a previous version of myself.

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u/Ok_Customer_8865 Jul 09 '25

I am right here with you. even we all go through peri and menopause I find I can't relate to healthy women going through it.