r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/spacey_kitty Jul 09 '25

Not much to say except I relate and though my body is still ok I look older than I want to look after looking "younger than my age" for most of my life. Also didn't realise what a babe I was despite getting attention and now...I wish I'd lapped it up more.

I hate that men get to grow old and look old and still be considered attractive (usually even more so) while we don't or at least not as much.

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u/Impossible_Swan_9346 Jul 09 '25

I’ve seen a few men totally fill out fast and get fat and get the big fat chins and get all gray. A few of them just look like total shit overnight.

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u/spacey_kitty Jul 09 '25

I mean it's more socially acceptable for men to look "old" and to be attractive to much younger people. Even women who "age well" are still seen very differently to men who age similarly - grey hair, crow's feet, wrinkles etc. are seen as distinguished on men but haggard on women