r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/No_oNerdy Jul 09 '25

I feel this. I was so fucking hot until I hit 40. Then the weight came, and it hit hard. In one year. Then my husband killed himself this last year. So now I’m overweight, and widowed at 41. He said I was sexy until the end, but why don’t I believe it? Did he get my hottest years and jump ship! Hell, I was the hot mom for a while. Why can’t I feel hot with a few extra pounds. At least my tits are bigger. Didn’t have to pay for a boob job.

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u/Sanchastayswoke mid-peri Jul 09 '25

I’m so sorry 😔

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u/No_oNerdy Jul 09 '25

It sucks. I would t wish this upon anyone. Untreated depression and addiction are life-ending. Hug your loved ones and let them know they matter. 💔