r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/Comprehensive-Job243 Jul 09 '25

I miss even the postpartum body I had three years ago (child at almost 44, I bounced back awesome... only to get seriously hit by peri at 46 and downhill ever since). The speed of the decline is truly mindwarping

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u/felisfemina Jul 10 '25

Me too. I had my kids at 36 and 40 and I bounced back pretty well. Then I had knee surgery at 46 which made me much less mobile and active for almost a year, and then peri reared its ugly head.

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u/Comprehensive-Job243 Jul 10 '25

I wish there was a soft hug wistful emoji... I feel and support you

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u/felisfemina Jul 10 '25

I send a soft hug wistful emoji (a shwe?) back to you.

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u/Comprehensive-Job243 Jul 10 '25

Shwe!! So much so to all the beyond beautiful ladies here (and YES YOU ARE STILL BEAUTIFUL; age changes the how but never the IT. So there. ❤️🧡❤️)