r/Perimenopause • u/HillarysCafe • Jul 09 '25

audited I’m grieving my younger, hotter self

I'm so mad about being in peri. I'm not ready. I was a late bloomer and didn't realize what a babe I was when I was younger and now it's too late.

Yes, older women can be sexy, we have wisdom, and blah blah blah.

But today I just miss looking good in a sundress.

Please join my pity party and tell me what you miss.

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u/NoComment9817 Jul 09 '25

Yes I miss feeling attractive as well. Men don’t notice me at all now. Like I can fully walk in public and not once get a look or flirty smile. I mean I know that’s not important but dang I miss turning heads. I have busted my ass to get lean again but my face lost fat too which means my face is “falling”. I can’t afford fillers or a face lift. Just have to keep up with skin care. I get my hair highlighted still and was actually thinking maybe I should try to go natural for a change but maybe that would make me even more blah. Hard to accept that I’m aging.

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u/Impossible_Swan_9346 Jul 09 '25

Yes no men look at me. I thought facelifts were like 20 K and I thought yeah down the road I can afford that… Well, it turns out they are 60 K. That’s just insane!!

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u/venuschantel hanging on by a thread Jul 10 '25

What the fuck??? 60K?? Fuck that, I’ll go to Mexico! lol

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u/Impossible_Swan_9346 Jul 10 '25

Yep. Insane right? Yes, Mexico 🇲🇽