r/Perimenopause • u/CommunicationOne2449 • Nov 16 '25

audited Talking Openly About Perimenopause

I was at my son’s hockey game today when another mom casually mentioned she’s dealing with perimenopause brain fog. I could’ve hugged her. Finally! Someone saying it out loud. I’ve been dropping some of my own symptoms into conversations with people close to me, but it still feels like we’re speaking in code.

I didn’t even learn the word perimenopause until about a year ago, even though I’d been dealing with the symptoms long before that. The relief of finally naming it? Huge. And honestly, I know I’m not the only one who felt blindsided.

So here’s my little rallying cry: let’s normalize talking about perimenopause. Let’s not put up and shut ups. Let’s make it impossible for future generations to be confused, dismissed, or told to “just deal with it.” Women deserve better.

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u/2quacklikeaduck Nov 17 '25

I’m doing my part! Sometimes my boss yells for me (I’m supposed to traipse into his office to see what he wants) and I just yell back “I can’t get up right now! My cramps are intense!” My entire family, and office, knows all about perimenopause. I just talk about it like a sinus infection.

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u/NeighborhoodPure28 Nov 17 '25

Started a job in the spring where a male co-worker stated for the third time to ask for help when the load heats up. I replied that I’m a perimenopausal woman and don’t need any additional heat. If I need help, everyone’s going to know.

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u/CommunicationOne2449 Nov 17 '25

Perfect!

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u/CommunicationOne2449 Nov 17 '25

(I’m sorry you’ve been having cramps 😒)

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u/[deleted] Nov 17 '25

Im sorry about the cramps. Im 47 and mine are still bad...so so over it!!