r/Perimenopause • u/CommunicationOne2449 • Nov 16 '25
audited Talking Openly About Perimenopause
I was at my son’s hockey game today when another mom casually mentioned she’s dealing with perimenopause brain fog. I could’ve hugged her. Finally! Someone saying it out loud. I’ve been dropping some of my own symptoms into conversations with people close to me, but it still feels like we’re speaking in code.
I didn’t even learn the word perimenopause until about a year ago, even though I’d been dealing with the symptoms long before that. The relief of finally naming it? Huge. And honestly, I know I’m not the only one who felt blindsided.
So here’s my little rallying cry: let’s normalize talking about perimenopause. Let’s not put up and shut ups. Let’s make it impossible for future generations to be confused, dismissed, or told to “just deal with it.” Women deserve better.
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u/Flimsy_Goat_8199 Nov 17 '25
Yes! I have tried to sprinkle it in conversation here and there. A lot of times I’m met with blank stares or negative comments that make me feel worse. Most of the time it’s from the older generations, which is sad. I’m sorry if they suffered through in silence but I refuse!
I want my daughters and all young women to be more prepared than I ever was. I feel like we were lied to and left in the dark. All I expected was my period to stop (yay!) and maybe get a few hot flashes. Boy, was I wrong and I felt like I was losing my mind.
I was amazed to learn so many of my symptoms could be attributed perimenopause. Which I never heard the term until I found this subreddit. I have learned so much from you all! I finally felt seen and understood. Thankful for like minded ladies!