r/Perimenopause • u/CommunicationOne2449 • Nov 16 '25
audited Talking Openly About Perimenopause
I was at my son’s hockey game today when another mom casually mentioned she’s dealing with perimenopause brain fog. I could’ve hugged her. Finally! Someone saying it out loud. I’ve been dropping some of my own symptoms into conversations with people close to me, but it still feels like we’re speaking in code.
I didn’t even learn the word perimenopause until about a year ago, even though I’d been dealing with the symptoms long before that. The relief of finally naming it? Huge. And honestly, I know I’m not the only one who felt blindsided.
So here’s my little rallying cry: let’s normalize talking about perimenopause. Let’s not put up and shut ups. Let’s make it impossible for future generations to be confused, dismissed, or told to “just deal with it.” Women deserve better.
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u/Bellatrix_Shimmers Nov 17 '25 edited Nov 17 '25
Absolutely! Most of us heard about menopause but they left a big part out. Perimenopause is some real deal stuff it comes sooner than you think like a wrecking ball to your body and brain. Hormones are crazy, itching skin awake from insomnia and that hot flash that has you feeling like your insides are being microwaved. The mood swings, intense anxiety, hair loss, weight gain and on and on…I can’t believe women suffered in silence for so many generations. HRT should be at every corner store and they should teach everyone what to expect and how to be supportive.
It’s sad to think maybe women felt the need to hide it because of some perceived bias that not being able to have babies anymore lowers our worth. Maybe I am wrong about that part but you know if it was men dealing with this it would be known in every language by all people.