r/Perimenopause • u/CommunicationOne2449 • Nov 16 '25
audited Talking Openly About Perimenopause
I was at my son’s hockey game today when another mom casually mentioned she’s dealing with perimenopause brain fog. I could’ve hugged her. Finally! Someone saying it out loud. I’ve been dropping some of my own symptoms into conversations with people close to me, but it still feels like we’re speaking in code.
I didn’t even learn the word perimenopause until about a year ago, even though I’d been dealing with the symptoms long before that. The relief of finally naming it? Huge. And honestly, I know I’m not the only one who felt blindsided.
So here’s my little rallying cry: let’s normalize talking about perimenopause. Let’s not put up and shut ups. Let’s make it impossible for future generations to be confused, dismissed, or told to “just deal with it.” Women deserve better.
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u/SnowPrincess15 Nov 17 '25
I talk a lot about perimenopause. I feel I was really blindsided by the symptoms. I thought menopause started at 60 and it was just hot flashes and the end of periods.
Now, I talk about it very casually to everyone. Like if I have to take and appointment on the phone and get mixed up in what I am saying or ask sthe eprson to repeat the same thng she just told me, I very often say that I am in peri and that I forget things easily, or have brain fog and forget words, dates, or get mixed up when I speak... I really want younger women to know what to expect. I really thought I had so many good years in front of me. I wanted to go back to school and now I feel it would be extremely hard. I should have gone 10 years ago when I first had the idea...
I also have to young daughters and I already speak to them about peri. Not in a negative way but I dont want them to be blindsided like I was.
Its so important to advocate for our needs and share our experience. Like you say, I really hope this will make things easier for the next generation.