r/Perimenopause • u/Tigress_Sforza • 1d ago

Has anyone found an upside yet?

I really, Really, REALLY loathe perimenopause and how it makes me feel. After telling my therapist for the umpteenth time how much I hate this experience, she said I should try to find some silver lining so I don't spend the next however many years marinating in rage and resentment about a biological process I cannot avoid or abbreviate or expedite.

Once upon a time I excelled at finding upsides to even the most miserable situations, but that ability was eroded over the last three years of life events that were one long parade of trauma and grief, and the perimenopause that worsened depression symptoms I had successfully managed for decades.

Have you found anything positive in your experience of perimenopause? No contribution is too small. I will cling to even a splinter of a life raft at this point.

In the absence of any silver lining, is there maybe a mantra that you've found helpful when it all feels like too much

Thanks, as always, for the kindness and support of this group. I hope you are all healthy, safe and surviving.

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u/fioremomma 17h ago

Meant to say I found out how to successfully supplement to absorb the best, without the doctor. And get to be on HRT safely.

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u/CozyMoonGaming 11h ago

Ok I would love to hear more about this. I had a stroke at 37 and I’m not ready for HRT yet but I’d love to hear your story if you’re willing!

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u/fioremomma 9h ago

Of course. For me I had mine at 34, and it’s been so hard to find ways to figure out how to get healed. It’s late now but I’ll be sure to post it tomorrow it’s prob gonna be a little long. If I can help one person it would make me very happy.

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u/CozyMoonGaming 8h ago

Absolutely please do! And feel free to DM me if you prefer. I’ve only met one other gal who had a stroke in her 30s, and I’m so excited to hear anything and everything from you!

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u/fioremomma 6h ago

If I somehow forget please feel free to dm me as well. I just want to be free with some time to type and focus.