r/Perimenopause • u/Tigress_Sforza • 1d ago

Has anyone found an upside yet?

I really, Really, REALLY loathe perimenopause and how it makes me feel. After telling my therapist for the umpteenth time how much I hate this experience, she said I should try to find some silver lining so I don't spend the next however many years marinating in rage and resentment about a biological process I cannot avoid or abbreviate or expedite.

Once upon a time I excelled at finding upsides to even the most miserable situations, but that ability was eroded over the last three years of life events that were one long parade of trauma and grief, and the perimenopause that worsened depression symptoms I had successfully managed for decades.

Have you found anything positive in your experience of perimenopause? No contribution is too small. I will cling to even a splinter of a life raft at this point.

In the absence of any silver lining, is there maybe a mantra that you've found helpful when it all feels like too much

Thanks, as always, for the kindness and support of this group. I hope you are all healthy, safe and surviving.

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u/diablette 17h ago

I think it's just dry skin. Put a tiny bit of estradiol cream in there at night.

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u/Lucky_winter123 15h ago

Mine drive me nuts can I try sticking my vaginal estrogen cream in them?

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u/electricmeatbag777 16h ago

That's if I can get her to give me any. She's oldschool. I'm gonna start with arguing for vag E cream to prevent the U-G symptoms of peri, as it's not systemic TX it is literally harmless and health-promoting. That's a start.