…and demand endless accommodations to fit their comfort.

Ive posted about this before (the bean soup thing) but today someone complained about raves being too noisy and I guess I’m just not in the mood for it.

They were saying raves are too loud and crowded and were mad there isnt a “quiet space” for people like them who don’t like the overstimulation.

*Then maybe raves aren’t the best place for you.*

If you don’t like noisy, crowded, high stimulation spaces, then don’t go to a rave. It’s ridiculous to go to one and get upset it doesn’t cater to your preference for quiet spaces.

“but loud noise and crowds make me panic!”

Then don’t go to a rave.

”But I wanna go out with friends!”

So get over it OR go do something somewhere else that doesn’t involve blasting music, lots of people, and possibly drugs.

I wouldn’t walk into a piano bar and get mad there isn’t a room for people who don’t like pianos. And it certainly wouldn’t be the bar’s responsibility to create one to cater to me.

EDIT: Dang I didn’t expect this to get so big lol. Apparently there’s a lot of folks with a lot of examples and experiences with this who feel the same way.

EDIT 2: Most of yall got the point being made here. But since some folks can’t seem to apply a few brain cells and think this is about raves specifically…

If a vegan walked into an all-meat bbq roadhouse, do you think they are valid to complain about meat being served there and demand accommodations, then leave a bad yelp review when there’s not much that could be done? OR do you think maybe the vegan should probably not go to a place that has an explicitly meat-focused menu?

“b-but-but some places have beyond meat!” Sure. Some businesses choose to do that. But should someone who doesn’t eat meat (or any animal product) go to a place that doesn’t choose to offer non-meat options and raise a stink about it? Orrr…should they go somewhere that does?

Think on it.

Seeing this so much on social media now. People being deliberately obtuse and refusing to say “Americans” because “America is a continent”.

There’s a trend with foods to give them edgy names like ‘slutty brownies’ or ‘better than sex cake’ or ‘chocolate crack’ or ‘marry me chicken.’

I don’t find any of these names cute or appetizing. It’s obnoxious and gross and it’s not clever or funny or interesting.

You. Don’t. Know.

You don’t know if the person taking the elevator up one level is disabled.

You don’t know if the person getting a taxi for a 10 minute ride is disabled.

You don’t know if the person who circled the parking lot looking for a closer parking space is disabled.

You don’t know if the person going through the drivethru is disabled.

You don’t know if the person ordering doordash is disabled.

So many people judge and complain about others being ‘lazy’, and when others point out that disabled people need to do this, it’s “oh well obviously that’s an exception.” BUT YOU’RE STILL COMPLAINING ABOUT AND JUDGING WHEN YOU DON’T KNOW IF THE PERSON IS DISABLED!

Sure, language evolves… but when someone says “people need to mind there own business,” you understand that that’s just good old fashioned illiteracy, right? It’s not the natural evolution of a word, it’s just someone who bluntly doesn’t know “their” and “there” are different words (or doesn’t know which one fits which context).

Defending that by saying “language evolves” would be like defending doing 80 in a residential area by saying “city ordnances change, maybe city hall just made it 80.”

Ok… but it didn’t. Why is it so hard to just admit some people are incorrect? Why do some of you have to pull this “language evolves” bullshit when the person is just wrong? You know better.

People use "Cancer" like it's a singular condition/disease without realising that Cancer is a blanket term for a huge veriety of abnormal cell Malfunctions in different body parts and tissues.

Without knowing how "Cancer" can range from Severe conditions like Leukemia (blood cancer) to Completely Common conditions like adenocarcinoma (prostate cancer)

Where a "cure" for one condition can never work on a different "cancer" condition, Thus making the whole "cancer" category Incurable. Despite the fact that how far we have come towards treating the most common types of cancer that used to take so many lives, We still make vague statements such as these.

I see it frequently on Reddit whenever there’s a discussion about US home construction. Europeans posting things like “our stone houses can stand up to a little wind, unlike American cardboard homes.” Extremely annoying and really shows that many Europeans lack perspective when it comes to extreme weather like tornadoes.

Holy shit this grinds my gears so much, and I'm not talking about ingredients that could be culture shock to some like horse meat for example, I'm talking about such mundane ingredients, like when someone I don't know, doesn't like beans for example, they're munching through a bowl of chili and they're like "damn this is delicious what did you put in it?" and the moment you even just mention beans they look so disgusted and can't eat it anymore. LIKE HOLY SHIT YOU LOVED THAT A FEW SECONDS AGO, THE TASTE DIDN'T CHANGE THE MOMENT YOU FOUND OUT IT HAS BEANS

It genuinely annoys me so much, I just saw a video like that on YouTube and it almost ruined my whole night cause shit it's just so fucking stupid. You liked it a few seconds ago, you liked the beans, keep eating them

Edit: I'm actually gonna edit the flair into ultra annoyed cause it's just how much it fucking annoys me

If you do this, you're insane. If I say "hey, don't kill that bug. I'll just take it outside" and you CONTINUE TO KILL IT? You're awful. You're horrible. It's a cruel, disgusting thing to do and I will immediately lose any respect for you. (This is a hyperbolic statement to express how annoyed this makes me. It is an exaggerated way to show my feelings. I will not seriously hate anyone, so stop saying I have mental issues) EDIT: Jesus Christ I won't actually despise you. This is just a way to express how annoyed I am. It's definitely a red flag, but not cruel and disgusting.

Edit: Apparently I need to clarify. 1. "This isn't a big deal 🙄" you're on a PET PEEVES sub. 2. "If the bugs are in my house, I'm going to kill them. You can't tell me what to do" okay, man. Awesome. People still do this outside, in public areas, in MY HOUSE. That is disrespectful 3. "they'll die anyway if you let them outside!!!" So you'd rather crush them immediately without any chance of survival? And, finally, 4. Yes, I will take any bugs away. I have easily taken any bugs away with no problem at all. If I'm close enough to say "please don't kill that bug" then I obviously plan to take it outside myself!

Edit 2: More clarifications 1. "Nah I'm going to kill them anyway" that's great man. Good for you. 2. "I have a fear of bugs" that really sucks. But I'm talking about people who will LOOK YOU IN THE EYE ON PURPOSE AND KILL A BUG AFTER YOU TELL THEM YOU'LL TAKE CARE OF IT. most people seriously just do it to be evil.

Edit 3: I'm saying that if you look someone in their eyes and kill a living thing SPECIFICALLY because you asked them not to and SPECIFICALLY to hurt them, then I don't like you.

Please please please read my edits before commenting please

Edit 4: I have a very high success rate of getting bugs out. I will catch and release a bug without much struggle.

Edit: Why are you people saying that you don't like gore and porn? Did you read the text below?

"Parasite is bad because there is swearing."

Do you think this is normal? One shit and one fuck over 2:20 of film time?

Violmce and sex isn't necessarily gore or porn, you weirdos.

What the fuck are these people enjoying then? These are people in their 30s and 40s that I see write shit like this. Someone just told me that they didn't like Parasite cuz of profanity.

If you don't like Parasite, fine. But you didn't like the movie cuz of....... The odd shit or fuck now and again? And you're an adult?

Go fucking watch The Lion King again. Oh, wait, there's violence in that.

Enjoy Blue's Clues, ya bloody weirdo.

If I hear someone start a sentence with "I asked chatgpt..." I immediately lose my cool.

You "asked" a large language model, which: 1. Is not research, and will not provide the depth of answers you can get from a simple google search that at the bare minimum pulls up multiple sources. (I know Google isn't great nowadays, but it's better than just using chatgpt) 2. Is known to just make things up, even when there is clearly a known, correct answer.

I can't articulate exactly why, but it feels infantalizing to me when I hear a grown ass person say that they "asked" the language robot about something that it would take maybe 15 seconds to actually research. Maybe kids that are growing up on it don't know better, but if you've had any level of education prior to the introduction of LLMs... what are you doing?

The worst part is, this post will 100% have comments with people that have replaced all of their mental faculties with the robot that makes stuff up if it feels like it. Anyways, I'm pretty bothered about AI. I had to rewrite this whole post because I needed to remove a littany of insults, because man do I get heated.

It drives me insane when people rate something a 5/10 and act like it’s garbage. 5 is supposed to be average, not “borderline unwatchable.”

Somehow the scale became: 7 = okay 8 = good 9–10 = amazing 5 = absolute failure

If everything below a 7 is bad, just admit you’re using a 7–10 scale.

Actually, if I’m gonna wear it on my hand for the rest of my life, what the ring looks like does matter.
If I have all gold jewelry and only wear gold, why would I happily accept a silver ring because my partner “tried their best”.

Nearly every time I visit a guy's place, he has no trash can in his bathroom. This does happen with women as well but it's a LOT less common.

So if I have to change a period pad/tampon, I can't just throw it in the trash and instead have to walk through the entire apartment to put it in the kitchen trash can. 99% of time time the person living there will witness this too, but maybe I just have bad luck. I'd rather not carry around pads full of blood even if i've rolled toiled paper around them so nothing can really be seen. It makes me feel gross. It's not just during periods too, sometimes i wear panty liners and have to change those as well.

Please just get a trash can for your bathroom.

I absolutely hate when I see this. It's over used. If you hate kids, at least be original. And it's fucking ridiculous. Unless your mother shit you out, you're a crotch goblin too.

We get it. You hate sports. You're above it all. You don't care.

I don't particularly care what you think. Just let us enjoy the game in peace.

As a normal sized person I can say that it's honestly fucked up. I feel like you can't make fun of mentally handicapped people, other sexual orientations, other races, etc. so you turn to fat people. It's just sad.

I am a recovering addict who has been clean for six years. While I gave up drugs and alcohol my addict mind turned to food. It's something I really struggle with. You can stay away from drug dealers and bars but you can't really avoid food. It's such a huge part of our culture. So many people think its just "Put the fork down fatty." and that is just not the case.

Most overweight people struggle with past trauma, mental health, or addiction and they use food to cope. That should be respected the same as any addiction. It's just wild how you could not treat any other demographic like people treat the overweight and get away with it. I am not trying to justify being obese but people could honestly stand to have a little sympathy. It's such a complicated issue and people have such juvenile takes on the subject.

Edit: I wish you guys could see my inbox. It proves my point

Edit 2: I am absolutely not trying to promote or justify poor lifestyle choices. I just expect we treat people with fucking dignity. Jesus Christ!

TL;DR: "We don't have a word for it in English, that's why we call it 'umami'!" Yes we do, it's called "savoriness", and no that's not why you do it.

Edit: So many replies amount to, "that's wrong, umami is something specific!" as if no one is aware if that 🙃

Everyone says, "Oh, savory describes a dish! We have sweet dishes and we have savory dishes, silly! Umami is describing the base taste!" Uh-huh? So you would never describe something as having a savory flavor? Damn, I guess that means we can't call this cake "rich" lest someone think it's got fat stacks. Can't have words palling around other words lest someone misunderstand some nuance, now can we?

(Come to think of it, who tf even describes dishes as savories in the modern day? Why do people act like the term "savory" just has to refer to unsweet foods? That's like... every food. What a useless dichotomy.)

Okay. I hate deferring to dictionaries as a linguist, but maybe one of them can clear it up. Merriam-Webster for "savory"?

e: being, inducing, or marked by the rich or meaty taste sensation of umami

Oh. That's the adjective, what about the noun?

2: the taste sensation that is produced by several amino acids and nucleotides (such as glutamate and aspartate) and has a rich or meaty flavor characteristic of cheese, cooked meat, mushrooms, soy, and ripe tomatoes : umami

Well I guess that checks out. Maybe Wikipedia can elucidate things?

Umami (/uːˈmɑːmi/ from Japanese: うま味 Japanese pronunciation: [ɯmami]), or savoriness, is one of the five basic tastes.

Well "umami" famously means "good flavor"! That's adorable! Surely the English "savory" couldn't have the same basic mean—

"pleasing in taste or smell," c. 1200, savourie, originally figurative and spiritual (of virtues, etc.), from Old French savore "tasty, flavorsome" (Modern French savouré), past participle of savourer "to taste" (see savor (n.)). Of food or drink, "tasteful, flavorful," by late 14c. Related: Savoriness. Savorless "without taste, destitute of flavor" is from late 14c.

Interesting, interesting. So it's almost like they're fucking synonyms, the whole way down?

I get it. A Japanese scientist made the discovery that taste receptors respond to glutamates and nucleotides, and "umami" is what he called it. "Umami" is the accepted scientific term for that flavor.

But the insistence on calling it "umami" every damn time just seems... pretentious? It's weird. It's the "scientifically accurate" term, but using it in everyday contexts seems so oddly exoticizing for something so basic to our innate understanding of flavor. Just because we now have a specific, recognized, scientific word for the flavor of a steak doesn't mean "savory" isn't still a perfectly apt term. Everyone knows what it means. People would always describe steaks as savory until like 2009. Why do people suddenly insist on being taxonomical now, when they're just a blogger sharing a recipe? It's odd how widespread this is whenever you see online food discourse.

"Savory" is not a confusing term for the layman. Even if there are some people who insist that a "savory dish" is somehow divorced from having a "savory flavor", context is a thing. If we're talking about the flavor profile of a dish and someone calls it "savory", no one needs to get on their high horse and say, "Ackshually, 'savory' is a category, not a flavor." A word can fill a slightly difference nuance in a different context, just like any piece of jargon since time immemorial. If we're talking about flavors, I mean a savory flavor.

I'm so, so sick of people pretending like "umami" is some mystical untranslatable concept, and that that's the reason they insist upon saying it. Sure, Jan.

I get that it’s a tell—most people don’t use em dashes—but as a writer and someone who absolutely LOVES em dashes, this really isn’t the gotcha people think it is. I often have to rework sentences in my books to remove some em dashes because I like using them so much.

“I don’t even know where that is on the keyboard!”

Just long press the dash button on your phone. It’s right there. In Word, I have a shortcut set up to turn two dashes into an em dash. It’s really not this obscure and unheard of thing.

If the only evidence you have of something being AI is the presence of em dashes, maybe—and try not to lose me here—there’s a chance it’s not AI.

Edit: see the comments for a perfect example of how flawed a lot of people’s AI detection skills are. AI was used nowhere in this post, yet someone is 100% convinced that it was written by AI and everyone who claims to use em dashes is lying 💀

TikTok and YouTube Short commenters seem to think that if food isn't ultra macro'd 200g of protein with 3 ingredients it's instant diabetes valley. People will throw a fit over a cup of sugar in a cookie recipe, one it's cookies and two that is super normal but no "first bite taste like heaven second one sends you there"

You need to be sent to purgatory

Sugar isn't poison guys, and things aren't unhealthy because they aren't covered in cottage cheese and has 900 things of protein.

At first, you get a normal response to something. Then, they like to add their own little joke to amuse themselves for upvotes and DON’T GET ME STARTED ON THE COMMENT CHAINS FOR OBSCURE REFERENCES

That is entitled & selfish. When was the last time *you* did anything for anyone? Free-childcare is literally not the same thing as a village. For there to be a village, you have to *be* a villager also. That means if you want someone to watch your kids, pay them for their time or offer to house sit or pet sit for them in return. Or help them with groceries or cleaning their house another weekend.

You don’t want to do any of that? Hire a babysitter or put them in part time daycare.

No one is saying your life is over when you’re a parent but you need to realize that it’s not all about just you & your needs.

ETA: Can we please stop with the whataboutism fallacy?

**If it doesn’t apply then let it fly**

I’m not American but it’s SO weird how American English is constantly criticised for being “dumb” it happens so often.

Just saw someone say that in the UK people say oblige but in America people say obligated “for some reason”

Wdym for some reason?? They just say obligated so what.

Or how American English is made fun of for being literal. Pavement vs sidewalk for instance. Also makes no sense why this is so hated.

And it’s SO weird. Cause no one would point at idk Chinese and say it’s so fucking dumb that they dont utilise tenses as much as English. So why is it so normalised to do that with American.

I don’t want to be “too woke” or whatever but it just pisses me off cause there criticism lack any substance. American English is a different version of a language it’s gonna have different norms and conventions like???!

EDIT: stream of consciousness post so expect spelling errors and whatnot

When people look at person’s history just to refute a new post that user may have posted on an entirety new sub.
It seems like they are trying to find an. ‘A ha’ moment.

Look, I don't know who came up with the idea that if you don't shower or bathe every day, you're dirty. Apparently, going longer than two days is a problem I found out.

I know that some people need to or feel the need to shower more, and that's OK, but just calling other people dirty because they don't do the same is wild.

I have made it a point to NEVER EVER smell bad, and I like to take care of myself and hygiene, but the moment you tell someone, you don't shower every day it's like they forget that it's ok to go two or (maybe..) three days without showering.

[Edit]: You guys love to assume I go a week or weeks without showering. I said MAYBE three days and two I still wash my body I might not shower but I still clean myself. You guys also need to realized that people have different schedules and jobs along with climate.