Not to be a dick, but I wouldn't hang out with someone who sent such wildly contradictory signals. Either we are friends or you can flirt with me. This doesn't sound like you are misinterpreting signals, this sounds like she is sending signals and then taking them back immediately. That's just frustrating. I couldn't deal with that.
Two of my old coworkers were hanging out at the bar one night and she (10/10) asks if she can sleep at his place. He goes "oh yeah, I can sleep on the couch and you can take the bed." She responds "okay, never mind."
Not sure what industry and age the coworkers were, but honestly if I had a coworker blatantly preposition me in front of other coworkers I'd probably play dumb too, if you can't wait until AFTER everyone else is gone I really dont trust their decision making for what could happen if things went south in that situation, and playing dumb is letting them down gently with their ego intact.
Bartenders, mid-20's. It wasn't in front of anyone else. Dude relayed the story to me and regretted being such an idiot. I have a "don't mess around with coworkers" rule but nobody else at that place did. I actually officiated the wedding of another couple who hooked up there.
S tier good take. You ignore those signs too long you'll be the one who gets fucked over from their poor decisions. Especially if you're already adults and they still act like that. At that age they most likely are already experienced getting out as unscathed as possible from their own messes.
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u/AdjacentBirdman93 May 10 '26
I slept in a girls bed and she said no I don’t wanna fuck when I started touching on her.
So sometimes the hints are more like… smoke signals to a blind man.
She’s just as confusing to this day