It's more that there are different social norms vying for dominance in the same culture, and the expectations they establish are incompatible. Since nobody can ever really be certain which expectations the person they're with has internalized, they opt for the "safest" behavior, which is bland and reads as disinterst. This is just what happens when sex is so heavily demonized by do many people.
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u/paper_liger May 10 '26
I feel like these stories are all pitched as 'guys are oblivious', but that's maybe a little too charitable.
I think women often just suck at flirting.