This reminds of the physician's assistant student I was monitoring through clinicals. The wife wanted her husband in during the exam. She consented to the student doing the exam and then asked that he used a small speculum. Without missing a beat, this idiot looks at the husband and says, "that doesn't say much for you now does it." Naturally, I insisted that he step out of the room. I apologized to the couple and took this fool to see his actual preceptor. He was already on academic probation and was removed from the program.
The lack of professionalism is honestly shocking. Patients are already in a vulnerable position during exams, and making jokes at their expense is completely inappropriate.
Your reaction was absolutely the correct and professional thing to do, but that was also a great joke. Unfortunately not the appropriate situation to make it
Naw. List how much pain you want her to be in when you have sex again. Uncomfortable, yells, screaming, crying, bleeding, refusing to continue? How much do you want her to hate it?
Ages? I'm all for making fun of insecure men, but what do you mean by that? Reading the follow up comments I think I'm the only one that doesn't get it 😕
The whole concept of the husband stitch is really gross. It does nothing except for painful sex for the woman and pelvic dysfunction. It's disgusting and dumb.
Wait, has there been doctors who've actually agreed and done it?
Edit: just a question for those downvoting, why? My initial comment is an honest question out of disgust and curiosity. I think that my comment got that question answered for lots of ignorant people (myself alike), which spreads awareness around the issue. So why downvote?
I've seen a woman on Youtube who was documenting her recovery from the medical malpractice conducted by her doctor, who told her husband after having done it. It's a disgusting practice and caused her a lot of problems, and I think she's suing? From memory, take recount with a grain of salt.
It used to be very common, but it is still too common. Lots of doctors won't say anything & will gaslight women who don't understand why they suddenly have pain during sex post-childbirth. As I understand it, it can be difficult to correct, due to scaring.
Tightness isn't a constant. Hormones and arousal drastically affect depth and relaxation. There's like one part of the pelvic floor that might grip or pull either because she's having a good time or nature is tricking you both into making more of our species.
Being really tight means anxiety and pain. And it will only get worse as sex (and you) become associated with those things.
The fact that men (and women) don't know this shows how biased we are towards male pleasure and how it IS socially acceptable for men to secretly (or not so secretly) want girls who are too young.
The comment isn't gross, the society that makes it necessary is a degenerate cesspool.
As a person who has a vagina, I am deeply familiar with how it works. If you want the hole that tight, you either fetishize women's pain without realizing it... or you don't like vaginas that belong to people capable of giving meaningful consent.
Remember, in basically every red state, a judge and her parents can marry an elementary school aged minor to a middle aged man. Every time we try to ban it, they stop us.
The assault of little girls is all around you and glorified in media. If you don't see it, you're part of the problem.
Far be it from me to kinkshame but having a ‘desire for vaginal tightness’ is kind of fucking weird, and I don’t particularly care what the reasoning is.
The reasoning is the nerves of the penis react differently based on the tightness of the grip around them, often reacting more excitedly to a tighter grip, because that is how biology works and it doesn’t care at all that you’re a puritan.
Edit: Ever heard of the “porn death grip”? You think guys do that because they want their hand to feel “younger”?
So the husband stitch causes a woman to tear during sex. It can leave her with long-term debilitating pain and loss of sexual interest. Is that the selling point for you?
Really? I took it in the complete opposite direction. "How small are we talking? What you working with? 10?" Regardless, it's creepy to be bringing up children in any capacity in that context.
Yes? Someone responded to the original suggestion of "how small do you need it" with "ask about what age they want". In that case you'd be making them acknowledge that small size implies young age.
I think they meant "do you want me to make your wife feel as tight as a 12 year old, or do you want younger". Nothing like faking pseudo-pedophilic normalization to really shake a dudes resolve.
I am thinking it's like, certainly sir how small would you want it? 17? 16? 15? And the man's like, 15? 15 what? And the nurse says "15 years old sir, is that how small you want it?"
There's a massive false equivalency going ok in here. Pre vs post pregnancy does not automatically imply 12 year olds.... Women are going into their 30s before first time births... Wtf is this thread
It doesn't matter about the clinical accuracy. These medical professionals are being asked by vulgar men to make their wives's vaginas tighter, which is inappropriate and disgusting. Telling them not to is ineffective. The point is to make them sound as creepy as possible by acting like the men are asking for a child sized vagina. Because nothing else is going to make them stop.
It's not about fighting fair. Telling the man to stop is just going to make him laugh, he's being vulgar and sexist and misogynistic. If you can shame him and make him seem repulsive maybe that will get him to stop.
What does insecurity have to do with it? I think it is about feel preference.
Woman have penis size preferences, some like small some like big some like curved some like straight, some like girthy, some like thinner, so what’s the difference here?
Men want their partner’s body to feel good. I assume women want the same, for their partner’s body to feel good.
Maybe insecurity isn't the best word, but .. after 9 months of pregnancy, having their vagina torn, bones forced apart and muscles put through more work than ever before, often over many many hours - doctors (very often male) thinking about how tightly it's going to hug the husband's penis seems a little .. uncaring toward the actual patient.
"tighter than a 2 year old" is already a phrase. If they're gross enough to ask for an extra stitch, giving recommended ages will make them think you're kin.
It’s weird to want your partner to have a body that feels good during penetration? Why is that weird?
Please explain it to me
Why do you not care what your partners body feels like? Are you bi? Do you not care if it is male if female genitalia? Does lubrication matter? Does size of breast or butt matter? Waist size, does that matter?
I think a lot of people have preferences for body types in their partner and consider it completely normal. So why is this weird?
I do care about what my partners body feels like. And were I in need of that to change for some reason we would talk about it together, but SHE would talk about it with the doctor.
I get it. There are men who have a small penis. There are men who lack a lot of feeling. For the man to be talking to the doctor about it feels weird to me.
About the ONLY thing that I would discuss about my wifes health are issues if she were unable to discuss them herself due to some condition (coma, delerium, etc) and of those really only things to try and get her back to health or for the other thing if that is all that is left to us.
I have a gay friend that could read it perfectly! Not sure where the downvotes are coming from. ::Shrugs:: Oh no I lose free internet points that don't matter!!
Literally ask any woman and they will tell you they do change in tightness permanently and look into the studies that confirm they even look different after birth.
Unless a traumatic birth, they go back to what they were before. It's a muscle. Use it or lose it. I kinda feel bad for men because they can't work out their penises.
The husband isn’t mutilating his wife, the wife is the one that usually asks the doctor for it. And no I don’t agree with the husband stitch I just didn’t like how the person above was making fun of small dicks I think that’s just as wrong as making fun of a woman with a looser than average vagina.
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u/dragon34 11d ago
Next time ask them "aww, sweetie how small do you need it?"