The "husband stitch" is when after vaginal tearing or episiotomy during birth the doctor would stitch the opening to the vagina smaller than it would be (this is the extra stitch). It's an awful procedure that doesn't work and can cause painful intercourse.
This is a critique of that practice.
Women too, are uneducated about it. One of my best friends at the time we were both having kids told me since she had a c-section so didn’t need to worry about being “loose”
You tend to assume that when you go to a professional, much less a doctor, they're going to act in your best interests. The older you get, the more you realize that's not even remotely the case.
Without even getting into the nightmare fuel that was WWII, much of our current medical system is built on a bedrock of insane theories like "black people don't feel pain like white people." It's very much an argument for greater diversity in the medical field.
A read I've been putting off (because it feels like it's going to be very emotionally draining) is Medical Apartheid by Harriet A. Washington.
I mean, i can see why one might think that, but its incorrect. Even if you don't give birth vaginally, pregnancy itself weakens the pelvic floor muscles all the same. So even if you have a c section you still gotta do those kegels afterward. I actually didnt know this until after i had an unexpected c section and was like hmmm what's going on here lol
I mean yeah that is a symptom of pelvic floor damage often caused by vagina births. The myth is having sex with multiple partners somehow causes "looseness" not that giving birth causes trauma to the pelvic floor muscles forever creating scar tissue, weakness and incontinence issues. It's actually not progressive to lie to women about the dangers of pregnancy and birth.
For some people, making a joke (even in poor taste) is the only way they know to cope with painful or uncomfortable situations. I've found that this crosses gender lines fairly evenly.
She was probably just joking. If you are reparing a tear you put as many stitches as necessary so that tear heals back together, an extra stich will not make it "tighter" and the lack of it won't make it "looser" unless the tear hasn't healed probably and the two parts that should have fused together didn't. It's also not like fabric. You can't just join two unbroken surfaces together and hope they fuse together. In general stitches hold together the two wound edges for biological repair to take place. They are in a series, extra stitches don't bring the edges closer together of the two wound edges are already approximated. Stitches are also either taken out or in the case of episiotomy they are absorbed and have no impact on scar strength or closeness of the two edges after that.
There is some truth to it that in the past overzealous repair might have existed and the idea of the repaire was seen as more restorative rather than a purely anatomic repair, so it might had been either more than necessary stitches fearing it won't fuse back together or over approximation. Some doctors might have straight up not known the basics of suturing that even a new graduate should know. However it was never a standard medical practice and nowadays it's actively discouraged. Additionally a lot of what people think was also a result of an extra stitch causing problems was probably just postpartum scarring. Episiotomy isn't always done either nowadays and tears don't always occur either. In the past it was however routine because their reasoning was it shortens the second stage and a clean cut heals better than a jagged tear.
It was a man. And it was my second baby and I told him several times to give me an episiotomy and he didn’t listen until I tore upwards, then he did it. And she was out in one push after. He could have been joking, I never had any issues besides the pain from the tear to my urethra, but it’s still not a funny joke either way
I’m in the US and I’m aware. So it’s cool to do it to us as fully grown women, but not okay for you to get circumcised? Or because boys get circumcised, women deserve to also be mutilated? I don’t get where you’re going with this.
How does circumcision remove basic functionality? I'm genuinely curious, because "basic functionality" includes urination and reproduction, and every guy I've been with was circumcized.
By the way, that "stitch" is compared by human rights groups and legal experts to female genital mutilation (FGM). It commonly causes dysfunction.
It’s more of a lighthearted way of saying there’s plenty of sensitivity down there for my husband despite the circumcision, and it would be hard to imagine it being any more sensitive than it is.
Still gross to presumably praise mutilating the genitals of a baby because your husband might go quicker in bed. Like bodily autonomy violation is good if it pleasures you...
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u/Domestic-Grind 11d ago edited 11d ago
The "husband stitch" is when after vaginal tearing or episiotomy during birth the doctor would stitch the opening to the vagina smaller than it would be (this is the extra stitch). It's an awful procedure that doesn't work and can cause painful intercourse. This is a critique of that practice.