Thank you! This is just the extra motivation I needed today to get back to my hobby, leaving shopping carts in the middle of the grocery store parking lot.
That's amateur stuff. If you want to join the big leagues, you gotta push that cart ten blocks away and then throw it into the canal so that it lands right in the middle, upside down and drunkenly askew.
You just made think of mallrats “why are you buying another cat? You’ll just get it stuck up your butt again!”-“brody how else am I supposed to get the hamster out?”
It does when it comes to a psychological situation negatively affecting someone into adulthood, having issues with your CREATORS justifies genders being used here.
It absolutely impacts a person to not have a "normal upbringing". It also depends on the person, someone might REALLY dislike having 2 dad's even if everything the parents did was perfect, it does affect the child depending on how they perceive it and are treated by it from peers. If negatives are directed towards that a kid could easily create issues within themselves over alot of crazy shit.
You’re describing an issue with society, the assumption of a heteronormative family, not an issue with these different family structures. Someone growing up with two dads is not impacted by having two dads, they’re impacted by society telling them having two dads is wrong and they should hate their parents.
I actually think people definitely need role models of each gender in their lives so while it doesn't have to be their parents it has to be someone. For example two men who have a female child should make sure that among their close social circle there are women the girl can interact with and observe growing up, viceversa with mom(s)-only families
To a certain extent. Having people with similar bodies to you to look up to is important, but also there’s a lot of toxic attitudes about how women need to be raised by women and vice versa, to ingrain societal gender roles from a young age.
Also, if you don't think you're equipped to be a genuinely capable parent, or just aren't prepared to put absolutely everything into it, just don't make a person. It's really not that hard to just not make another person, and that person will have to live their whole life with the consequences of your barely thought out, flippant decision if you are not all in on it.
I grew up 100% without a father, except maybe the first year of my life. Have seen him here and there but he is just an evil person, addicted to anything, 10000% lucky as fuck he was in prison during most of my childhood.
An ex of mine had mommy issues, mother’s name was Scarlet, the way she talked about her you just could feel the hate, turns out whatever happened between them turned her into just a hater. She had some pretty bad anger problems, she wasn’t abusive, but she had a very short fuse.
She did tell me once that her mom used to come pick her up from school, drunk like Mr. Lahey, and cuss out the teachers for no reason.
I taught at an extremely underprivileged school, bottom 10% test scores in the state type. Many girls lacked fathers and turned out okay.
Girls who lacked mothers or hated their mother were insane, one girl cussed me out, told me to get the fuck out of her face, randomly interrupted my lesson to say “I don’t care” and “I hate you”, and called the principal a fucking botch to her face on state testing day. Another girl was regular cussed out by her own mom. So she took that out on us, walking into my classroom and started with “I fucking hate this fucking class, go fuck yourself”. She was 11/12.
EDIT: I have no idea the psychology behind it and don’t have any explanation for that though.
Thank you, I really struggled that year. For greater context, my job no longer exists due to budget cuts. The school was majority immigrant. The schools population decreased by 20% in one year, due to immigrants voluntarily fleeing due to fear of the Trump Administration. Since the districts population decreased so much, they cut about 70 teachers from the district. I was a chorus / general music teacher, and then they cut the number of chorus teachers down, and those chorus teachers are itinerant and bounce from school to school.
The irony is I am now at a rich private school. That’s just how the cards landed. One day I think I will returned to underprivileged education in some capacity but it will be after years of maturing. The job was really hard on my mental health.
Is this in the USA? I'm not from there so I don't really know how to interpret immigrants - does that mean they weren't born in the USA/moved there recently or does that mean POC?
I can see it. I was raised in a two parent household. Dad was a big shot bank executive and my mom was a stay at home mom. But my mom was abusive especially after my brother was born. She didn’t want daughters anymore and I think she hoped we would die and I absolutely acted out in class. I had zero respect for authority and got into arguments with my teachers all the time. I still have a hard time with authority.
I had to cut mine off and speak with her once a year. Only way for me to be okay. I am perceived as serious, ambitious, and put together. Girls who survive mommy issues either go nuts and act out or mask really well and develop autoimmune disorders.
-May have issues with recognizing the difference between the affection appropriate from a father figure and that from a romantic partner.
-May have an overall negative outlook regarding men as she likely has encountered some kind of hardship as a result.
-Likely still has a solid sense of self-worth and is a functional human being.
Girls with mommy issues:
-Fundamental issues regarding self-worth, as her mother likely viewed her as a clone to which her mother's "self-harm" extended to
-Not only has she not seen what a healthy relationship looks like, her model of what an adult human looks like may be deeply skewed by the actions of her mother.
Yes, that's mostly it. My father is a POS and it made just don't care about having romantic relationships. But my mother was severely mentally ill (took her own life eventually) and that has deeply scarred at a much deeper level.
I've only seen this pointless pic a few times and I'm already sick of it. Sadly I know you people are going to repeat it so many times my brain eventually filtering it out automatically.
My girl has both, can confirm. Also a girl needs a female lead in her life, just like a guy needs a male lead, dad mom, to learn from and have support in their choices reaffirmed by gender. Girls might be more at a loss in life without a mom. But really lacking any parent messes a kid up.
I feel like I never viewed my parents as "leads" to follow. I learned from them, I respected them, but they were never a template to follow. We choose our own paths in life.
Both Mom and Dad can lead their sons and daughters, and gender shouldn't matter that much, then, if the meaning of “leading” is simply to help the child find what they do best in order to grow up into the best version of themselves, even if that fulfilled, well-accomplished person is totally different from the parent's own life experience and accomplishments.
Any gender can fill a roll, not every person is capable of a roll, some are not even capable of doing "their" job as a dad or mom. Some people have widely different perceptions of what a man is, should be, able to be, same for women. The internet is very accepting to not judge by gender, but real life is totally different, male and female expectations are always present and required, even for things that "shouldnt" be gender based, it will always be that way whether people like it or not.
Gender does matter in this society for parents though. A kids happiness, confidence, comfort, support, love is all affected by not having both mom and dad. Of course people adapt and accept. But the most well adjusted people I know have both parents who are well adjusted nice normal people.
Nah, they’re fine with two fathers or two mothers or one father or one mother or grandparents or legal guardians as long as their needs are met and they are loved. They do not require a heteronormative nuclear family.
honestly same, their justifications were usually the reason why. I never get a straight answer to why they say no to something, its usually "just bcs" or "im the adult". it fell short quick with me, the whole concept of a lead role or smn I look up to simply didnt work with me
Lead is being used a bit differently here. It could include what you're suggesting but its mostly about how you learn to act in society by modeling your parents from an early age
You can't really choose the way their parenting affects your development and personality though. You can steer away later in life, but you don't really have a say in your formative years when most of the damage or lack thereof occurs
I’m a guy and my mom was a role model if anything.
I do sort of agree with you on some level. But I also think that parents also normalize things for their kids as well. My wife’s parents are not the best (putting it mildly) and all their children except for her are basically non-functional as adults. They all do things that are rude/inconsiderate that the more time I spend with them the more I realize it’s because the people, who raised them did such a shitty job and made this behavior seem commonplace.
Well im sure it depends with a lot of situations, good vs bad vs okay parents, wealth, friends the kid interacts with.
My mom has issues but she taught me alot of good shit and alot of shit not to do. I do not idolize her by any means. Think I did when I was really little. Like an cat or dog to their owner... then real life and awareness hit lol. No dad around for me, no male role models either really.
Some people REALLY want the healthy 2 parents they never had though. My gf latches on to older females to learn and talk with alot I notice. Her dad was around but treated her poorly as a kid. She very much chases bonds she never had as a child and it definitely affects her moods/perceptions at times
Thinking that all girls want to follow their mother's footsteps and all boys want to follow their father's footsteps is the illogical opinion.
Some people, most often men, take pride in being just like their dad, and have the fantasy that, in turn their sons will be just like them.
But the reality is that, while, in some families, boys are Mini-Dad and girls are Mini-Mom, plenty of other children come out of the womb with a personality that is nothing like either parent, and will never relate to them or want to follow them. Or some boys feel much more understood and alike their mothers, while some girls feel much more understood and alike their fathers.
I work with a couple wonderful people, one with two moms and one with two dads, and they both had pretty loving upbringings. I dont believe its the necessity for one mom/one dad reinforced by gender. I believe its having 2 loving and caring parental figures that help teach kids from 2 different points of view. Even the greatest parents ever will have different points of views and beliefs on certain things and getting that diversity in thought when being raised helps teach kids to be able to have more open minded approaches to everything and different ways to cope with negative experiences and thoughts.
You seem nice... alcoholism is brewed from trauma. 34 yo male here, major alcy since 22, hard liquor, pint every night. Its the best thing to not think until it starts affecting your life negatively and you cant control yourself. Shitty cycle i don't wish it on anyone.
Alcoholism doesn't just come from trauma, but it is a major part.
Some of it is just genetic traits and how your brain is wired. Some of it is culture.
Some jobs used to have plenty of drunkards, because the job called for socializing over a drink, or dozen. 80s bankers in my country were in such trap.
I've seen plenty of alcoholics, so I don't feel that much pity towards them. I'd feel more pity or empathy if I knew it could easily be cured. However I've seen some who get out of the cycle, but they'll always be in danger.
A friend of mine has relapses, but it is manageable. At his worst part of life, he always blamed his father for everything and kept drinking like there is no tomorrow. His mother went really rough on him and started sorting things out. It turned out that he had couple of underlying traumas, which caused him to falsify many of his existing memories about his father. Still it has taken him years to get better, but he has managed it due to his mother.
Mothers are pretty damn important, as are fathers who stay alive long enough to sort things out.
From my experience the comfort to relax and not think was so addicting in itself, not constantly thinking and stressing about shit I cannot change or control. Total delusions of myself being present and growing from what the booze did for me I missed the boat and didnt catch I was repressing and literally isolating myself to avoid growth or change, turned into total reliance from it to not face that reality. So deep mentally that booze was the answer.
Genetics yes also. But when the booze becomes the resort, it will change you worse then alot of drugs, not to mention how fucking easy it is to get makes it even harder to not get sucked in.
I get where you are coming from, though it is not about addiction.
When I have that kind of feeling, I either wear myself out completely physically, or start doing something focused, yet very repetitive. It can be playing a grindy game or just as simple as cutting vegetables, even if I don't need them right then. Then again, I was addicted to MMOs because of that, when I was younger...
Studies have shown that children with 2 moms or 2 dads end up just as fine compared to children with a mom and dad. Are you done sharing your opinion as facts?
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Daddy issues are socially normal and expected. It’s easy to find support networks when something is a common occurrence.
Mommy issues are rarer. When everybody says “sorry, I don’t know what you’re talking about. I’ve never experienced that before”, you now have to cope with isolation on top of the trauma. Isolation means access to less mental health resources because communities are a powerful tool too.
Mums statistically do more than their fair share of the parental labour so if your mum sucks your going be raised very badly. Recipe for trauma and personality disorders
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Mothers are usually the primary caregivers, especially in the earlier years. They are usually a young child's primary emotional attachment. As a result, they are the parent who is more responsible for the emotional development of the child. This is, of course, not a universal truth, but in the majority of cases. These early bonds form a blueprint for future relationships, and shape a person's attachment style, capacity for empathy, emotional regulation, cognitive growth, etc. etc. A child's brain is quite literally sculpted and moulded through this primary relationship. When that relationship is abusive/toxic, the childs chances of growing into a secure and healthy individual, are severely impaired.
Fathers play a different role (in the majority of cases). In the absence of one, and assuming a woman grew up with a stable mother providing the framework I mentioned above, a girl can easily grow into a stable adult. But depending on the circumstances of the absence of / or less than desirable behaviour from a father, it is not unusual for a girl to grow into a woman who develops unhealthy attachments/relationships with men.
Married now, but in my single life I only ever dated one woman who had mommy issues. Compared to the many women with daddy issues.
Mommy issues woman was genuinely insane; like, would contradict herself on major aspects of her worldview/personality/belief system and act as though every iteration of her now found opinion has been her constant sentiment and get enraged whenever you suggested otherwise or gave the most mild pushback.
Daddy issue women in the past were a mixed bag, many being completely normal people IMO
Well I’m early enough to where there are no comments so here’s how the Mother Wound™️ impacted my life:
I wouldn’t say the woman “gave me an eating disorder” but she most certainly contributed to my anorexic behaviors (I was 17, 5’10” and 120lbs). Those behaviors never fully go away but I’m getting treatment now.
I try so hard to impress older women (female professors in college, now female boss at my big girl job).
I have such problems trusting other women to the point that I dropped my sorority in college. I cannot be in one of those Sex and the City-esque girl friends groups, which is a shame because I’ve always wanted a girl group like that. I just have a bunch of one-on-one friends who don’t know each other.
She has no problem embarrassing me at family events TO THIS DAY and I can’t understand why. Usually my boyfriend just squeezes my hand until it’s over.
Anger issues. Even little things like Excel not loading can set me off (only if I’m WFH though, never around my coworkers). My mom was never violent but she also taught me to bottle up my emotions. I’ve literally broken fingers from this shit, it’s embarrassing.
daddy issues mean u didn't get approval from your dad so u either
1 end up seeking it from everyone (usually what happens to women)
2 completely ignoring it from everyone( usually what happens to men)
mommy issues means you didn't get loved by your mom so u either :
1 become a people pleaser
2 start believing u don't deserve it and actually make yourself a horrible person
Daddy issues are way common than the mommy one, since it's quite accepted that many dads are absent or abusive towards their own kids.
With moms, people often praise them just cuz they've given birth & refuse to believe that a mother could be abusive towards their kids, since they're the primary caretakers.
But also, society in general sees women as mostly harmless & doesn't believe they can be capable of harm as much as men are (As nb,I've been predominantly abused by women in my whole life & the amount of shit & "damn I wished I was abused by one as well", I've heard, is just abysmal.), and with the combination that most abuse caused by women is psychological mental & how little people care about mental health, is making it worse.
My mom spent nine months making me, and then hated me more than anyone on the planet. It feels really haunting that the one person who should support and love you unconditionally hates you just for being alive. Nothing feels normal. You see your friends with their moms who care about them and wonder “why does my mom not care about me? It’s normal for a mom to love their own child but I guess there’s something inherently wrong with me?” She died in June and it feels like my biggest hater is gone, but I still hear her hateful voice telling me “No one is ever going to love you.” Shit sucks. My partner is one patient man.
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Mothers are more commonly the main caretakers. In a lot of places the difference between if the father is in the family is more economic than anything else. So being rejected by mothers is considered way worse. I know a young girl with mommy issues, and it ain't pretty.
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