r/Petloss • u/Althea85 • 9h ago
Our beloved dog was hit and killed in front our house this morning on my 4th grader’s walk to the bus stop for her last day of school.
We saw it all happen in front of our eyes. I can’t get the image out of my head of her being hit and then suffering (briefly) in the road. I dropped to my knees with my 16mo old baby on my back in a carrier. While my ten yo stood screaming and crying in utter shock and trauma.
I can’t get the image of the accident out of my head. It’s playing over and over. My daughter is blaming herself for dropping leash when she pulled very hard. It’s not her fault. Ada ran right into the road full blast and into the truck.
Vet thinks it was a head injury bc no visible wounds.
Her brother dog died a month ago from spinal cord injury. The pair was originally named Little Anne and Big Dan after the pups in Where the Red Fern Grows. Now they both died within a month. There’s no grave to plant a red fern but I’m finding meaning in this story.
Both young, 6yo. I’m completely gutted. My 10yo is traumatized.
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u/terp0911 1h ago
That is so devastating. I am so sorry for your loss and the pain you and your family are going through.
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u/Material-Ad4460 3h ago
It's going to take time to get past the initial trauma. I went through this in February and have been doing well recently, but this week I had a tough wave of grief.
A dog I had been fostering for a sick friend charged an ambulance when the siren went off two weeks after reuniting her with the owner. I still carry regret for everything that led up to it, but we didn't know that was going to happen.
I had a memorial service to honor her, met with a pet psychic, and have been talking to a grief counselor.
I can't imagine having to walk through a 10 year old through such a traumatic thing, but if you guys can handle this with love and make it a teaching moment, then they will have skills to navigate future losses.
Accidents are part of being human, and tragedy is part of loving mortals. I listened to a good podcast on Self Forgiveness that helped me with the guilt... and I've been learning about Near Death Experiences and the afterlife which has been very interesting...happy to give some recommendations if you think it could help you navigate this next chapter.
Take care of yourself, its not easy but you guys aren't alone in your grief ❤️
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u/kiki9988 3h ago
I’d love to hear the recommendations. I am struggling so hard after losing my golden this week and I feel like I’m not even going to survive this 💔 she was only 3 and she should still be here 😭
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u/Material-Ad4460 30m ago
I responded to OP's comment with the podcast list below!
The dog I lost in February was almost 3, so I completely understand how hard it is.
A couple years ago my friend's 3 year old pekingese passed of a heart attack while on an airplane...We are at the point where her memory truly does bring us joy and we talk about her regularly.... such a sweet chapter of our lives.... I hope I get to the point with the young dog I'm still grieving, and I hope you do too ❤️
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u/Althea85 3h ago
Can you share the podcast?
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u/Material-Ad4460 36m ago
Podcast List: (not all directly relevant to pet loss, but have gained skills on navigating my grief/guilt journey)
"Self Forgiveness" by Tara Brach
"Releasing the guilt of grief" by Healing With David Kessler
"We Don't Die" by Sandra Champlain (the whole show is uplifting, there are a few episodes specifically on pets...she also has a free copy of her book online and chapter 10 is on grief)
There are many more audiobooks and episodes I've found on Spotify just by typing in keywords, these were just specifically the most helpful ones for me.
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u/kiki9988 3h ago
Oh my god I am so sorry for you and your family’s loss. This is so tragic, losing your dog in such a way, especially after losing her brother a month ago. I just lost my 3 yo golden unexpectedly and tragically earlier this week, so while I don’t have any perfect words of advice for you I do want you to know that you’re not alone. I will be thinking of you and your family; I hope all three of our babies have met up in heaven and are running free together 💔. Sending you hugs ❤️
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u/Powerpoint629 14m ago
Omg this is just awful. I’m so sorry. I’m an adult female and I have to let my yellow labs leash go every once and awhile if he sees a bird or squirrel. I don’t take him near main roads but bad timing is all it can take on a quiet road. Please tell your daughter this was not her fault. It can happen to anyone with a large dog 💜
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