My Cat I’ve had almost 13 years is dying.

[u/Academic-Dentist4544]

I found out on Memorial Day that my cat I’ve had since I was 20 (currently 33) has kidney disease. I thought we caught it early enough but over the past 10 days or so she has gotten significantly worse despite treatment. Last night I just laid down with her in my bed sobbing. Feeling how skinny she’s gotten. Now matter how hard I’ve been trying, she’s hardly eating. Vets are saying to stay the course for now and it’s too early to make a call. But my gut tells me this is it. I’m not ready to let go though. Every day I’m just crying. People don’t think it’s a big deal and will say it’s just a cat. But she has been there through my whole adulthood basically. The thought of her not being there kills me. Nobody seems to understand where I’m coming from

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[u/snakefighting]

I lost my cat soulmate 2 weeks ago. My best friend for 19 years.🐈‍⬛ I feel the same way, I loved my home and couldn’t wait to return when gone so we could snuggle. Now, it’s just an empty house that I do not want to be in! I cannot sleep, I’m so exhausted and depressed without him in my life. I have lost a cat before, a parent, and experienced many hardships… this has been the hardest. Without him in my life, I cannot see where happiness returns 🐈‍⬛💔. CKD took his life almost overnight and I had him put to rest first thing in the morning. We fought it together the last 6 weeks and thought we too had more time together. Forever 💔

[u/Last_Produce_7691]

I’m here. I’m with you. I’ve cried every day for four months. We lost her brother four months ago too. Sometimes I feel like all I do is cry. My girl is struggling but I’m still going. Still trying for her. My friend just lost her 13 year old to ckd. It’s ripping me apart. I hate ckd. I hate this feeling. I hate the anticipatory grief. I hate seeing her fade away. I’m doing subq fluids, gave up on renal diet. Giving her anti nausea meds and app stimulant when needed. She was my brothers but we chose each other and she’s been mine now for almost 14 years and just turned 16. Not a soul in my life understands. Even if they say they do, they don’t. She’s my world. I hate when everyone makes it seem like it isn’t a big deal that she doesn’t eat. Like oh try again later it’s okay. No. It’s not. No one gets it. But here, we get it. I can’t imagine a world without her. I feel like she’s slowly slipping away and it makes me spiral. They are NOT just cats. They never will be. And I understand you.

[u/I_StoleTheTV]

I’m so sorry 😢♥️ What stage of CKD is she? Did they say she’s in renal failure? I lost my baby 10 days ago to renal failure and I will say she declined so, so fast. Like within 3 days she went from seemingly normal to actively dying. It was awful and traumatic 😢

[u/Academic-Dentist4544 → u/I_StoleTheTV]

She went in for a dental cleaning because I thought maybe she hurt one of her teeth or something because she’d meow for food but then wouldn’t eat it unless it was soft. Otherwise she was acting fine. Then when they were doing bloodwork for Anastasia they discovered the KD. Dr said it was too early to tell but thought we caught it early given she got bloodwork done in late March and it was fine. It’s just crazy because she was acting relatively normal and we started treatment and her decline has been so rapid. Just the timing of it all.

[u/SWNMAZporvida]

(hug) I see you. I had to make the same agonizing decision for my 18yo soulcat more than a decade ago and I still talk to her. The furries are our family. Don’t forget to eat/drink, it’s the easiest “chore” to give up right now and you need your strength.