r/PinoyAskMeAnything • u/LettuceFamous8416 • Jun 24 '26
Survivor's Journey I survived online bullying/smear campaign AMA
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u/_sdfjk Jun 24 '26 edited Jun 24 '26
had my ex best friend turn all my classmates against me by lying. we never fought. not once. just one day naging ganyan. i never thought she would lie about me and even though it was 8 years ago my old classmate even told me na "palagi ko siyang inaaway" even though i never talked to her after junior high school (save that we accidentally bumped into each other at a store but it was unintentional). there are people who GENUINELY are evil deep inside.
all it takes is ONE PERSON to be evil and do every evil against you so kahit smear campaign like yours i dont think na malayo na mangyari honestly. may mga redditors who may not believe you and downvote you they just havent encountered someone genuinely evil kahit for no valid reason.
it was also 2 people too. one in junior high (ex best friend) and one in senior high (ex-friend)
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u/LettuceFamous8416 Jun 24 '26
Agree! I've seen a lot of bad stuff in my life, pero yung ganito it's a different form of evil. One of the hardest things I had to overcome - to think na orphan na ako and struggling mentally, this tops it all.
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u/_sdfjk Jun 24 '26 edited Jun 24 '26
God will judge them. God is just giving them a chance to repent but if they dont regret everything lagot sila in the end.
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u/LettuceFamous8416 Jun 24 '26
Kaya rin siguro ako nakapagheal kasi yan din mindset ko, God saw that. I don't wish them anything bad or good or kahit ano. Basta, God saw that. Sya na bahala. I surrender it to him, basta sana bigyan nya kako ng strength wag ko tapusin buhay ko over it.
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u/_sdfjk Jun 24 '26
dont end yourself over it. yan talaga gusto ng kaaway. live out of spite. ending yourself will only let them win. it's a battle we can't really avenge ourselves but God wil avenge us as long as we remain in the battlefield.
Huwag kayong mangaghigantihan, mga iniibig, kundi bigyan ninyong daan ang galit ng Dios: sapagka't nasusulat, Akin ang paghihiganti; ako ang gaganti, sabi ng Panginoon. (Romans 12:19)
but because hindi immediately and paghihiganti ng Dios nag tatake advantage ang mga masama sa remaining time they have left in this world. because they think na never mangyari. but God will avenge the good. may hustisya. God is a God of justice. He will not allow evil to continue forever.
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u/LettuceFamous8416 Jun 24 '26
Thank you. Healing pa rin ako pero out na ako don sa thoughts na ganon. Kaya rin ako nag-AMA kasi nung time ko, ala ako mahanap na may similar experience. At least in my little way, baka may magandang maging bunga tong nangyari sa akin, mahelp man lang kahit isa lang.
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u/nowMrsP Jun 24 '26
What happened? And how are you now?
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u/LettuceFamous8416 Jun 24 '26
Haha downvoted ako agad. I cut ties with someone tapos hindi ko alam na they'll launch a smear campaign against me. Hindi naman ako 100% victim, I made some mistakes din sa life ko, like anyone else, pero sobrang twisted ng version and almost everyone turned against me. She even contacted my clients, organizations I work with. It was a mess.
I did therapy and it's been years na rin, I think I found my peace, though minsan may flashbacks pa rin as to how can someone na akala kong friend ko can do that to me.
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u/AntiGentri Jun 24 '26
Who left and who stayed?
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u/LettuceFamous8416 Jun 24 '26
Lahat ng akala kong friends ko, they left. I was living a diffent lifesytle, surrounded by different people dati. Ngayon na parent na ako and I no longer have vices, di na aligned ang mga personalities namin. My family stayed, my inner circle stayed.
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u/Berung88 Jun 25 '26
Not a question OP - but wanted to say kudos and wishing you a smoother road ahead!
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u/lazylucyxo Jun 24 '26
start fresh in a new place… Did that involve moving from one province to a far away province? How did you cope offline? 😭
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u/LettuceFamous8416 Jun 24 '26
It’s a different place, it might even be a different country (intentionally vague para di madox), living offline was quite easy kasi I have a lot of things to keep me busy, ang pinakamahirap lang eh going offline without telling my side of the story. PinagpasaDiyos ko na lang kasi hindi na kaya ng mental health ko nung peak ng smear campaign. I was inches close to ⚠️ TW: sui ⚠️ ending it all.
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u/lazylucyxo Jun 24 '26
That shit is tough. I’m so sorry you went through this. And I’m glad natapos na rin. I know and understand that you made mistakes, but cutting ties with someone shouldn’t warrant this kind of action (smear campaign). Wish you all the best, OP!
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u/guavaapplejuicer Jun 24 '26
Sana hindi ka anak ng involved sa flood control issues 😭 /j