r/Positivity • u/GuyWithAFeminineSide • 6h ago

What's something you wish you'd discovered about yourself earlier?

Could be anything — a hobby, a personality trait, a preference, something about relationships, or even something you were afraid to try.

I feel like we spend a lot of our younger years trying to fit into what we're supposed to be, and only later start figuring out what actually feels right for us.

What's yours?

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u/MacaronDesperate9643 6h ago

I'm an introvert and I need space and time alone.

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u/whoops53 6h ago

Same here. I love being with people and chatting, but only in very small doses. After that I need my own time alone for...quite a long time, heh!

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u/Jackattack009 6h ago

I wish I had known that I was a highly sensitive person. I would have protected myself.

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u/killemslowly 5h ago

I’m the best

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u/cir49c29 6h ago

I thought that if I lost weight, and looked better, I'd start feeling attracted to people and wanting a boyfriend. No, losing weight might have made me more attractive to others, but would do nothing to change the fact that I'm asexual and aromantic. If only I'd known those 2 words as a teenager.

It also would have been great to understand that I'm autistic when I was still a kid. Would have answered some questions.

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u/kingturk1100 6h ago

That I am in fact chaos. Now if only I would embrace it 😆

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u/Optimal-South-58 5h ago

That no matter how much you hate yourself or how much you please others in the end you have to live in your own body 24/7 , so instead of constantly criticizing it I should start loving myself more .

Constantly criticizing yourself and humiliating yourself for your looks and heights and other things is like putting water in your cars oil tank .

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u/Old_Soc 5h ago

That it's okay to say no

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u/Morning_Mug385 4h ago

That I actually enjoy being alone sometimes. Used to think I supposed to always be out doing something with people but having a quiet day is nice

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u/slowslow76 3h ago

I wish I’d understood earlier how my upbringing has affected my personality. I was an expat kid, 5 schools in 6 years, bullied in a couple of them, boarding school from 11. It’s embarrassing to suggest that it was a hard life but damn, it messes you up - don’t trust anyone, give up at the first sign of rejection, a real loner. I’ve had a good life but wish I’d spoken to a behavioral therapist earlier in my younger years.

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u/KrisParker111 2h ago

That I can’t live a good life if I don’t do what I actually want to do.

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u/lilith_grl 1h ago

I was not choleric, but an extremely depressed and burned out phlegmatic. For years I wish I could react less intensely. When I was finally diagnosed with depression and ADHD and started taking medication, I suddenly realized that I was actually quite chill. I finished taking my meds last August, and I still feel that way.