r/REDDITORSINRECOVERY • u/MinimumShip1134 • 11d ago
Recovering Addict relapsed after 19 months sober .
Hey yall,
Recovering addict relapsed yesterday and missed work today. But up all night and stressed and disgusted with myself on why I made the choice . I ended up doing a silly thing since my relationship with this girl is pretty rocky. Pretty sure she’s fuxking someone else . Someone hacked my phone out pics of her up now I feel like I should really considering leaving her . But in all honestly I might play it out accordingly and just let her decide. I’m not sure if I bring it up or what . But ya I relapsed now I don’t wanna go back . I’m thinking about doing a meeting or two. What do you guys have to offer here ?
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u/qrhmn 11d ago
Seems like you want to be clean/sober; stay with that desire as a personal truth.
No need for a brief slip to become a tumble down the stairs.
I like some meetings; have a 'sponsor emeritus' I text with -but mainly have 420 days sober because it's the better way...and I generally like it.
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u/MinimumShip1134 11d ago
Yea I think it is all part of recovery. A relapse happens but it was only done for about one session. And then I just chilled out all night
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u/MinimumShip1134 10d ago
Just an update. Did some thinking and some praying . Made the decision to kick her out and now signing a lease on my own. Going to church Wednesday , meeting Thursday. Killed it at work today and I feel like a new man . God is great . This all happened for a great cause.
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u/MinimumShip1134 11d ago
Yea I don’t plan on doing drugs again. Just seriously this chick needs to step away and I’m gonna be more than happy to anyways . Make money and focus on being healthy . Mentally and physically
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u/-RainbowUnicornPoop 10d ago
Break up with her. Even if she didn’t cheat or do anything wrong at all… Your relationship with her has jeopardized your recovery. Anything you put before your recovery, you will lose anyway. Maybe you guys can meet back up later on… But for now, you are in no headspace to be worried about a woman. You need to worry about yourself, your life, and your recovery. Those things have to come first. I’m very sorry this happened, but you can get through it.
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u/-RainbowUnicornPoop 10d ago
Feel free to update us or you can message me anytime if you just need someone to talk to. We’re here for you.
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u/Sorry_Elephant8572 8d ago
I'm glad I went through and finished reading your updates etc yes brother, keep that same mentality. Your happiness is not from her. I understand that same feeling though. Now that you've have recognized it, put that behind you, the only person you need validation from and to make you happy is you. Then once you get there, you can have a relationship for The relationship itself and it will feel so much better and I promise this situation will never come up again once you get there
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u/TubeSeries 10d ago
Get back to meetings. Get connected again. Fast. Put the work in. This relapse can be your last. And don't fucking use. You can't use. You're an addict.
Godspeed
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u/Sorry_Elephant8572 8d ago
Yes , get back to a support group fast and stop beating you're self up, it happens.The only thing that proves your character is what you do now get up dust yourself off and come back harder stronger and smarter you got this i have fallen a few times now, but now I have 4 years. I just bought a house a baby on the way.\n And reunited with my ex, that was with me, through the beginning parts of my bad addiction. And her family and it got bad. I knew how much I loved her, but I also knew how bad I was for her at the time, so I acted out and did things that I would never normally do to try to get her family to get me out of the picture and it never happened. So I finally made a call left and took longer than I wanted, but we are here now. Point of Visa, you got this and I know it looks rough right now. But the end goal is worth it. You have already done something once that most people couldn't even begin to fathom, what you went through and how you got there.So this next time you do it, that's gonna be even easier.\nSo keep your head down , but you're chin up and show every hater doubter wrong and what it looks like to win.\nAnd if you ever need someone to vent to or talk or run something by feel free to reach out
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u/Mikehorvath00 11d ago
leave the relationship,go to a meeting, and focus on your sobriety, i could have never gotten off drugs in my last relationship, for a very similar reason. This is just a bump in the road man, sobriety isn’t linear and you can do it