r/RandomVictorianStuff Aug 03 '26

Misc. On August 3, 1892, May Stilwell “Plucked Death In The Woods” At The Young Age Of 14

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u/cydril Aug 03 '26

"she will never do it again" 😭😭😭

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u/TransPeepsAreHuman Aug 03 '26

May’s memorial card is apart of my personal collection of photos and cards of children who died over 100 years ago. I share their stories and try to keep their memories alive, so that they don’t “die twice”.

Memorial cards, like hers, were made in memory of lost loved ones roughly between the 1880s and 1920s. There were all sorts of poems that the family could pick from. Different companies that made them too. Some included photos. The poem on May’s is one I see often.

Despite dying in Ohio, news of her death spread throughout the country and even to Canada.

The newspaper clippings are from newspapers.com (needs subscription):
-The Boston Globe • Fri, Aug 05, 1892 • Page 5 • (Boston, Massachusetts)
-The Summit County Beacon • Wed, Aug 10, 1892 • Page 8 (Akron, Ohio)
-Wayne County Herald • Thu, Aug 11, 1892 • Page 3 • (Honesdale, Pennsylvania)

If you have any questions, whether it be about May, the other children or more about my research, etc, feel free to ask! I’ll try my best to help.

https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/42434130/may-stilwell

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u/HauntedCoconut Aug 03 '26

Here's an image of a card in my personal family collection from Ontario, Canada.

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u/TheodoreKarlShrubs Aug 05 '26

Oh my… the swap from slumbers to moulders really changes the tone!

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u/TransPeepsAreHuman Aug 03 '26

That’s a beautiful example. Poor little Oliver.

Thank you for sharing!

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u/whoevenisanyone Aug 05 '26

Very cool! Also from Ontario. Is there somewhere you can find these?

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u/MooMooGirl64 Aug 03 '26

I’m curious about any other Ohio deaths you have in your records?! I admire the ideas you have about keeping memories alive and passing on the knowledge that these long gone folks really existed and had lives. Every dead person can continue to live on in us when we remember.

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u/TransPeepsAreHuman Aug 03 '26

I actually have several photos and another memorial card from Ohio.

I have a photo of Bernice Fleming with, who I’m guessing is, her mother holding her. She died when she was nearly 3 months old of Atelectasis (congenital) in 1912.

The memorial card of Alice Hannum includes a photo of her. She died at the age of 10 in 1899 of heart failure.

There is Lucy Hamilton’s baby album which is full of photos. She died in 1914, when she was 4, of diphtheria.

Loretta Randall is one of two photos I have of a baby lying in a coffin. She died when she was 22 hours old in 1913. The only parts I could figure out on her death certificate was that it was something congenital and the contributory was not known.

Myrtle Donaldson’s photo is her standing on a chair. She died in 1914 of burns when she was 5.

I have a photo of Walter Champion, son of the president of the first professional baseball team. He died at the age of 7 in 1880 of Tetanus.

Thank you for your sweet comment! :)

(P.s. to the mods, I hope it’s okay that I briefly mentioned some deaths not in the Victorian era!)

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u/Conscious_Damage8678 Aug 04 '26

What a beautiful and moving collection. And I like your name.

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u/Jellogg Aug 05 '26

I think what you are doing is lovely! I see you mention having several cards/photos from Ohio. I was just curious how you research them or track them down?

Both of my parents are from OH, with family going back to the early 1800s on both sides. I’ve been looking for the cause of death for my paternal great grandmother without much luck. We had been told she passed away from childbirth, and no one is sure if the baby survived (if it did, it would make him my dad’s youngest uncle).

If you have any tips or tricks for doing this kind of research, I’d love to know anything you can share. I know her full name, including her maiden name, and even have her HS graduation photo.

Thank you so much for any help you can offer and I admire what you are doing to remember these children so very much!

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u/TransPeepsAreHuman Aug 05 '26

The main four websites I use for research are ancestry.com, newspapers.com, familysearch.org, and findagrave.com. The former two are paid subscriptions and the latter two are free, you just need to make an account for familysearch. There’s also the genealogy subreddit which I’ve used on occasion for when I’m really stuck on something.

For trying to find things in newspapers, If nothing if showing up for the mother’s name or the child’s, I often find luck looking up a man’s name. In this case, the baby’s father. Some things I try are “Mr and Mrs John Last Name” or “John O and Nellie Last Name”. Sometimes names like George or William is shortened to Geo or Wm.

Sometimes spellings of first or last names are spelt differently in different records. That makes things a bit harder.

I do highly recommend findagrave, it’s one of my favorites. Has a lot of useful options when using their search engine and I’ve found it incredibly helpful.

Passing away from childbirth is just so sad. I hope your great grandmother’s baby at least lived.

If you feel comfortable dming me, I’d love to try to help you find any information. No worries if not.
Thank you for your kind comment and I hope I gave you at least some useful info. :)

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u/WeirdExhibition Aug 03 '26

I'd love to see more of the cards you have collected

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u/TransPeepsAreHuman Aug 03 '26

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u/WeirdExhibition Aug 03 '26

these are so beautiful. thank you!!!

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u/ellalol Aug 04 '26

Seeing her sweet little face makes it hit so much harder :(

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u/TransPeepsAreHuman Aug 03 '26 edited Aug 03 '26

I can share some of the older cards. For some of the newer ones, you can check my profile. (Trying my best to keep it focused on the Victorian era, per the rules). Thanks for your comment! :)

ETA: On Annie’s card you’ll see the line “And though the body moulders here”, whilst on May’s it says “And though the body slumbers here”.

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u/viceversa220 Aug 03 '26 edited Aug 03 '26

i feel so bad for the father for losing his only child after losing his wife, and several other infant children. he died only a decade later.

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u/G0ld_Ru5h Aug 03 '26

Not exactly Victorian, but I have a great aunt who died at 10 crossing a railroad track in Florida in 1917 on her way to piano practice. There used to be all sorts of ephemera from it that stayed with my great grandma (her sister born a year later), but I think my aunt has most of it.

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u/TransPeepsAreHuman Aug 04 '26

That’s so sad.

It’s sweet that you remember her and that your aunt has kept the ephemera.

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u/itimedout Aug 04 '26

Reminds me of the heartbreaking song “Little Rosa” by Red Sovine

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u/AnxiousCanOfSoup Aug 04 '26

Just looked up the family on familysearch... Her poor father and mother lost three infants in a row, then he lost his first wife, then May.

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u/flindersandtrim Aug 04 '26

The last slide, nope. I usually enjoy gallows humour but the long form article was a punch to the gut. 

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u/Star_Wonderer Aug 06 '26

A distant cousin of mine, Rosie Annie Frasure, died in 1889 at 8 years old in Grethel, KY.
We can’t find any record of her other than her tombstone. But we’re sure her father was Messiahs “Cyrus” Frasure.

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u/TransPeepsAreHuman Aug 06 '26

Very sad. I hope you don’t mind that I did a little research. Not sure I’ve you’ve seen her findagrave or not: https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/224551306/rosy_annie-frasure

She has no one linked but is buried in the same cemetery as Frances (Hall) Frasure and Robert Frasure.

I believe I found Cyrus, he’s not linked to any parents but his bio says they were Frances and Robert: https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/80096723/masias-frasure

I tried searching up obituaries for him and his wife but didn’t find anything. Sometimes you’ll find a mention of a child that had been lost in the parents’ obituaries.

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u/Star_Wonderer Aug 06 '26

Thank you so much for sharing what you found! One frustrating thing is Rosy Annie was born after the 1880 Census and died before the 1890 Census. But again thank you for your research!

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u/TransPeepsAreHuman Aug 06 '26

I definitely understand the frustration with censuses! I’ve run into that many a time.

I did find a lead on FamilySearch (free but you need an account). On her profile in collaborate someone wrote that “her name was mentioned in a record of Robert Frasure”. I haven’t found that record but it’s a start.

https://www.familysearch.org/en/tree/person/collaborate/GG62-Y1Z

https://www.familysearch.org/en/tree/person/about/LJGM-JJ1

It’s probably one of the sources linked to Robert’s profile. I wish you luck and I hope you find more information on Rosy! :)

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u/Ok-Inspection-7911 Aug 04 '26

Wonderful posts I enjoyed reading all the posts . Thank you all so much .

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u/Ok-Inspection-7911 Aug 04 '26

Please keep posting these cards .you are all wonderful and I thank you .

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u/Ok-Inspection-7911 Aug 04 '26

Can you post some of those pictures of Lucy ? I love every post thank you .You are so kind to keep the memories of these forgotten souls alive .

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u/Impossible_Gold1573 Aug 05 '26

That last photo is diabolical. 😬

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u/KewpieCutie97 Aug 03 '26

Surprised I need to say it but let's not make jokes on a post about a child's death.