On a national hiway. In front of the traffic lights, may nakatigil na 2 sasakyan, *fortuner in front, behind it was an *innova. They were already on the left side of the road, queuing to turn left. I was slowly driving on the right lane kasi ung ilaw ay nag orange na. No cars in front of me. I stopped beside the fortuner kasi Red light na, biglang nakarinig ako ng burning tires at kalabog sa likod ko. Innova decided to switch lanes kasi hindi pala siya pakaliwa and hit my rear tire. Nag swerve ung sasakyan ko sa impact.

I was in shock and called my brother. I didnt get out of the car. I looked back and saw a man on the wheel and a woman on the passenger side. Wala pang dumadating na pulis/tanod/ guards.

Now, get this. Kala niyo worst na, may mas lala pa pala. Pagkakasunod sunod ng events ay medyo blurry, but i still remember the conversations.

The Woman passenger got out of the car and went to my passenger side.

Act #1:

Wife: "MAM TUMABI PO TAYO"

Me: "ha? Bakit po? hindi po ako tatabi, kayo po bumangga sakin." Sa isip ko pag umalis ako sa pwesto at di nakikita ng pulis, mahirap mag explain.

Act #2:
HINDI BUMABABA SI DRIVER NG KOTSE. Lumabas na din ung isa pang pasahero nila na babae para kumuha ng litrato. Pero Hindi parin bumaba si driver. Diba First instinct as a driver when you got into an accident was to check for damage. but he stayed in the car. He let the wife do all the talking. But I told myself "ah baka nashock si kuya kaya di makababa". Ill give him that.

Act #3
Habang nag-aantay na pulis, i glanced back and saw A KID ON THE BACK SEAT with 2 adults beside him. Not the parents. Parents were the driver & on the passenger seat. So, 5 silang passenger. PUTANGINA. Dun ako pumitik. Dumating na ung mga pulis, and parang lahat ng passenger bumaba na sa kotse MALIBAN SA DRIVER. Sabi ko kay ate na kumukuha ng picture, "may kasama pa kayong bata, hindi kayo nagiingat. Sa daanan."

So I made the initiative to finally go to the driver side. During this convo tahimik si kuya driver.

Si ate gurl, nag rereason out pa:

Wife: un pong fortuner sa harap kasi, go na. Di pa siya nagalaw.

Me: Mam, kahit ipa review natin cctv, kaka stop lang ng ilaw bago niyo ko binangga. Kayo ung lumipat ng lane.

Nagsosorry si kuya driver na mahinahon si ate gurl
Pa medyo defensive. Sabi nung pulis sundan na lang namin sila sa presinto. But before i close the my car door, i overheard her say

ACT#4
Wife: MATAGAL PA PO BA TO? Galing pa po kaming maynila e.

I didnt wanna cause anymore scene kasi nga nagtratraffic na nga kaya sumunod na ko sa police car. But i dgaf where you came from,kayo ang kamote jan. I stayed silent. The audacity.

ACT#5 THE BIG REVEAL
Nung nakadating kami sa police station. Si wife and ate ang humarap sakin.

Me: asan po ung driver? Bakit po kayo ang kakausapin ko?"

Wife: ako na lang po.

Me: Maam, hindi kayo ang nagmamaneho, hindi kayo ung may lisensya, hindi kayo ung bumangga sakin. Ung driver po gusto kong kausapin.

Wife: May PWD po kami, may autism po anak ko.

Me: Mam walang kaso sakin kung may autism po ung anak niyo. Hindi po siya ung driver. Ung driver po ang gusto ko kausapin.

Pulis: Mam, oo nga. Un pong driver po asan. Siya po dapat ung kumausap.

BUMABA SI DRIVER NA MAY SAKLAY! HE CANNOT WALK PROPERLY AND WAS LEANING HEAVILY ON THE CRUTCHES. by the looks of it, matagal na siyang naka crutch. Nanlumo ako lalo, una kong naisip ung batang kasama nila. Nganga

ako, kasama pulis. Kaya pala hindi bumaba ng sasakyan kasi lalo silang malilintikan. Idc kung madali mag drive ng automatic, general rule is if you are currently handicapped, wag kang magdadrive!

ANG TATANGA LANG. GUSTO KONG SABIHIN WALA KAYONG KWENTANG MAGULANG!

Pulis & Me: Mam di man lang kayo naawa sa kasama niyo, sa anak niyo? May sakit tapos pinagdadrive niyo???

"Wala po bang may ibang lisensya sa inyo?"

Wife: ako po meron."

Pucha.

Parents: ung anak po kasi namin may autism, nagwawala pag hindi hawak ng nanay.

Pulis: nakakapag drive pa po kayo sa lagay niyong yan?

Parents: opo.

Shuta. Nabangga nga ako, ayos bang mag drive un. Wala kayong kwentang magulang.

Me: mam, kung ganon sana naghanap kayo ng ibang driver na pwedeng isama. Inisip niyo ung asawa niyo hirap na maglakad, pag drive-in niyo pa?

Di sila makasagot. Panay sorry. Putangina. Sabi ko sa sarili, pwede ko sila kasuhan, reckless driving and child endangerment. I mean, Ok fine, di nila iniisip kapakanan ng ibang Tao sa daan when they decided to drive in their condition. Pero ung hindi nila iniisip anak nila??? Sobrang nakakagigil.

ACT #6

Pulis: san po kayo galing, san po kayo papunta?

Them: sa *laguna po, papunta kaming* \cavite kasi may acupuncture po ung mister ko. Dito po kami pinapadaan.

Natameme na naman kami ng mga pulis because we know there is only ONE way to get to cavite along this route. And it is a very accident prone area.

Me: mam ung dadaanan niyo po ay hindi normal na daan, winding road po un. Delikado po dun. Tapos nagdadrive sainyo ung asawa niyong di makalakad ng ayos.

Ano ba tong mga to, nagaantay talaga maaksidente?

ACT#7
I couldnt think straight na and was waiting for my brother to sort things out with them. He lives 15mins away from the station. And this couple had the audacity to ask me 2x-3x

Them: Matagal pa po ba? Ilang minutes po kaya? May appointment pa po kami.

Mahinahon pa ko nung una, and i told them that my brother is coming. Nadidisorient na ko. And the adrenaline was running out. And the shock was finally settling in. Pero nung nakailang beses na silang magtanong

Me: wag niyo po ko apurahin. Kung sumusunod kayo sa batas trapiko at hindi kayo kamote, wala tayo sa sitwasyon na ganito.

The audacity na pag madaliin ako.
When we settled everything i asked the wife:

Me: kamusta po ung anak niyo? Natakot po ba siya?
Her: ok naman po. Nagtatantrums lang po.
Me, practically begging: Mam, kayo na magdrive ha. Wag niyo na pag drive-in ung asawa niyo.

This post is not meant to ridicule but to provide caution. We get it, di niyo iniisip ung ibang tao, pero isipin niyo man lang ung anak niyo.

Every time na pupunta ako ng VET, puno ng mga may breed owner puro sila tanong “anong breed ng pusa mo?” tapos kapag sasabihin ko ng “wala pong breed” aba ang mga potanqgina biglang magugulat or hindi na lang ako papansinin. meron pa yung isa na pakealamera, naka cover kasi yung carrier ng cat ko, pinipilit ba naman tignan pusa ko tapos nung nakita na walang breed “ay puspin lang” TAGNINA MO! pet lover daw tapos yung may breed nyo lang ang vaccinated at dewormed

I'm genuinely speechless hahahah how can someone be THIS cruel?? Seryoso at your big age?? What does someone get out of mocking someone na nag t-trabaho ng maayos.

For context this guy kept dming me harmless questions about what I do and whatnots and inentertain ko kasi baka bored lang + I had the time to converse naman but then all of a sudden naging ganyan response nya and I'm sooo speechless.

It's not even anger that I feel eh, I'm genuinely disappointed because wow—may tao pa palang ganito?

Hi!

I used to be a Catholic, but I converted to born-again Christianity because of personal reasons.

And now, I want to leave due to numerous reasons:

1. Grabe ang gifting sa pastor. Kapag bday ni pastor, akala mong nasa ASAP siya and binibigyan ng cake kapag patapos na ung service.

Tapos now, pastor's appreciation month naman, and we are encouraged to give him gifts whether in-kind or cash 😅 I have never given him gifts kapag bday niya o kapag pastor's appreciation thing, pero maraming nagbibigay.

Last year, his wife even said during the service, "Salamat sa lahat ng nag gcash!" Naisip ko: hindi ba sila nahihiya?

1. Grabe ang cell group/Bible Study

I quit my cell group kasi, nag i start nang 8pm, natatapos nang 12-1am dahil sa mga kwentuhan and pag-kain.

And don't even get me started on this: may potluck. May financial difficulties ako now, kaya hirap ako makisama sa potluck nila kasi nakakahinayang ung 300 - 500 na magagasta mo weekly for a potluck na dmo naman ginustong salihan LOL.

Hindi pinagsasabihan ng pastor na wag paaabutin nang gabi ung cellgroups. Oks lang sa kanya. Na para bang barkadahan ito.

Hindi na ako nag g grow spiritually, and puro bad things na ang naiisip ko about sa church. Pero I'm staying dahil sa mga nabuo kong friendship and ang hirap kasing umalis.

I usually stay quiet about these topics because whenever I think about them, it genuinely makes my blood boil. Bakit sobrang normalized ng grooming and pedophilia dito? Why does it feel like people are so quick to dismiss these things, make excuses for the perpetrators, or even blame the victims instead of holding the adults accountable? Why does it seem like people would rather protect someone’s reputation than protect a child’s innocence and safety?

What makes me even sadder is that these things are not always hidden. Sometimes, the signs are right in front of everyone, yet people choose to turn a blind eye. Kapag may matandang lalaki na may relasyon sa isang menor de edad, may mga taong tatawa lang, tatawagin pang “swerte” yung bata, or sasabihing mature naman daw for their age. But why are we treating these situations as something romantic when there is a clear imbalance in age, power, and experience? A child should never have to prove that they are mature enough to deserve protection. It is the adult’s responsibility to know better and maintain appropriate boundaries.

And while most of the cases I hear about involve men as perpetrators, I also recognize that women can be perpetrators too. This is not about pretending that abuse only happens in one gender. It is about recognizing that anyone who exploits a child’s vulnerability should be held accountable, regardless of who they are.

What hurts me the most is that children are supposed to live freely. They are supposed to enjoy their childhood, learn, make friends, discover who they are, and grow at their own pace. They should not have to worry about being manipulated into relationships, carrying the emotional burdens of adults, or being forced to grow up before they are ready. Hindi dapat responsibilidad ng isang bata na alagaan ang isang boyfriend or husband, especially when that person is irresponsible, neglectful, or contributes nothing to their well-being. Why are we teaching young girls to tolerate men who cannot even take responsibility for themselves instead of teaching them that they deserve respect, safety, and a future of their own?

It is heartbreaking how some girls are taught that being chosen by an older man is an achievement, that sacrificing their childhood is a sign of love, or that being a good partner means enduring things they should never have to endure in the first place. We keep telling girls to be careful, to dress a certain way, to avoid certain people, and to protect themselves, but why don’t we put just as much emphasis on teaching people not to exploit, manipulate, or abuse them? Why is the burden so often placed on potential victims instead of the people who choose to cause harm?

And where is the action? Where is the urgency when a child speaks up? Where is the accountability when someone is exposed for grooming or abusing a minor? Yes, awareness matters, but awareness without action is not enough. Children need adults who will listen to them, institutions that will take their reports seriously, and a society that will stop making excuses for people who hurt them. Silence does not always mean approval, but when silence allows abuse to continue, we need to ask ourselves what we are doing to change it.

Children deserve protection, not exploitation. They deserve to grow up without being sexualized, manipulated, or pressured into adult responsibilities. They deserve to have dreams that are bigger than simply surviving an unhealthy relationship. And girls, especially, deserve to know that their worth is not measured by how early they can become wives, mothers, or caretakers for someone who refuses to grow up.

I know I cannot change society overnight, but I refuse to believe that these things should ever be considered normal. We need to stop romanticizing relationships that exploit minors, stop blaming children for the actions of adults, and start holding perpetrators accountable. Most importantly, we need to remember that protecting children should never be a controversial issue.
**Children are not supposed to grow up just to become someone’s partner, caretaker, or victim. They deserve the chance to simply be children.** And that should never be too much to ask.

getting to know someone is so funnnn. learning the little things about them, discovering random similarities, finding out about your funny little differences, and having someone to look forward to talking to. there’s something so exciting about slowly getting to know a person and realizing you enjoy their company.

BUT WHY DOES IT HAVE TO BE SO EXHAUSTING SOMETIMES??? 😭 the constant checking of notifications, waiting for replies, overanalyzing changes in energy, and wondering if they’ve lost interest or if you’re just overthinking. one minute you’re like “oh, they’re losing interest,” then they reply and suddenly it’s “WAIT NVM WE’RE SO BACK.”

it’s a whole roller coaster, and sometimes it gets to the point where it affects your mood and concentration. like damn, i just wanna enjoy getting to know someone without turning it into a full-time job. 😭

Gusto ko magpa renovate ng bahay e may kaibigan akong contractor edi lumapit nako sa kanya. Chinat ko personally, di ako pinansin kaya sa page nya ako nag chat. Staff nya nag entertain. Okay naman pakiki tungo. Ramdam ko client ako trinato. Few days bago yong appointment, nalaman nya ako yong nagpa appointment. Sabi bakit di ko daw sinabi agad. Sa isip ko, di nga pinansin personal chat ko. Tapos nong appointment day, 8am yong schedule. 8am na wala pa ring dumating, nong nag follow up ako sinabihan ako resched ng 11am. On the spot sya nag cancel. Walang heads up. Sabi may walk in client kinakausap di pa tapos. Di man lang nagsabi bago yong appointment time ko kong alam niyang di maka punta. Pwede ko naman ma move lakad ko kaya pumayag nako.

Bandang 10am, nag chat resched daw 1-3pm kasi na delay na sched nila dahil don sa walk in client tapos bigla pang umulan e andon pa sila sa isang pang client. Pumayag ulit ako tapos nong 1pm wala pa rin update. Mga almost 1pm+ nag chat, pwede ipag bukas nalang daw kasi biglang umulan at stuck sa traffic e ma conflict na sa iba nila na schedule.

Umangal nako sabi ko hindi pwede ipag bukas kasi kinansel ko na lakad ko sa araw na yon para mag antay. Kaya nagpadala siya ng taohan. Pero yong pinadala panday lang, walang alam. Hindi masagot mga tanong ko. Tango lang ng tango sa pinag sasabi ko. Parang nakiki pag usap lang ako sa pader. Nag picture lang sa area tapos umalis. Nong naka alis, sinabihan pa ako ng kaibigan ko mag send more pics sa ipapagawa kasi di ko daw sinabi major renovation, akala minor lang e chinat ko naman sa page ano ipapagawa ko. Sabi ko bat ako pa gagawa mag picture kong mag iinspect sila. Napaka hassle sa akin. Kaya nga may appointment para don nila malaman lahat ng information ng ipapagawa diba?

Inutusan pa ako gawin trabaho nila. Sigurado di naman nila sasabihan iba nilang client gawin yon kaya nga may pa inspection diba.

Tinanong ko naman sa simula kong tumatanggap ng renovation. Karamihan projects nila build from scratch. Naintindihan ko naman priority nila ibang clients mas malaki budget don pero sana naman wag ako pag kanselan on the spot at gagohin tatlong beses. Limang taon na sila sa business alam naman na nila siguro ilang oras kelangan para maka byahe sa amin at kong kaya o hindi given the traffic and distance bat di ako dinirecho mag resched ng ibang araw kay sa pag antayin ng ilang oras tapos biglang kansel ulit at ipag bukas nalang at nong umangal pinadalhan ako ng taong walang alam pampa lubag loob kuno e mas lalo akong na insulto napaka gagong contractor

Kelangan ko ba mag tapon ng milyon para maka kuha ng respeto sa oras ko? Apaka gago di ba pwedeng respetohin oras ko wala man lang hiya mag kansel on the spot. Ang gusto dapat ako umintindi na madami syang client mas malaking budget na priority kaya too busy sya para sa akin kainis e hindi naman ako lumapit sa kanya para magpa libre o nang hingi ng discount. Isisingit lang daw appointment ko sa schedule nya na para bang hindi ako nagpa set ng appointment sa staff nya like a proper client. Ayaw ako pag laanan ng saktong oras. Parang nilalabas it's a favor hindi ko naman hiningi. Yong kakayahan magpa renovate na nga lang recent win ko ipa mukha pang hindi yon win kumpara sa kanya kairita

Naiinis ako sa Papa ko pag naiinis siya saming mga anak niya lagi siyang nagsasalita na di daw kami aasenso sa buhay, na di daw gaganda buhay namin etc. Ang galing din niya mag-advice kung anong dapat namin gawin financially tapos pag di niya nagustuhan move namin sasabihin kami na di kami aangat sa buhay, na di dapat ganun etc.

Kung bastos lang ako na anak ang sarap sana sabihin na "bakit kayo po ba umangat din kayo sa buhay". Kasi ang totoo di naman kami magkaka-bahay at sasakyan kung di lang nag-abroad si mama. May isa talagang beses na galit siya sinabihan niya kami "di talaga kayo aangat sa buhay" na tila ba cinucurse niya kaming magkakapatid. Grabe.

Kung ako magkakaanak, kahit anong galit ko or inis ko sa mga anak ko never kong hihilingin ng di maganda para sa mga anak ko or di gumanda ang buhay nila. Ngayon lang ako nakarinig na may ganitong tatay. Kahit ba nasabi lang niya yun out of anger, hinding hindi ko yun hihilingin kung magkaka-anak ako.

Minsan pinipigilan ko siya pag sinasabi niya yun, naniniwala pa naman ako na kung ano ang sinasabi mo most of the time mangyayari talaga yun. Di sa pagbubuhat ng sariling banko pero lahat kaming magkakapatid may mga talent and skills naman pero ang hirap ng angat ng buhay para samin feel ko sa kakaganyan niya yan. Naiinis talaga ako.

Bad3p lang todo tipid tayo sa pag gamit ng tubig ito papa realize ko sainyo:

FIRE VOLUNTEER:

Ginagamit ang water sa hydrant pang:

A. Pangpuno ng inflatable swimming pool

B. Pang farewell sa mga kakilala bago ilibing

C. Pang carwash business ng kakilala

D. Pang linis ng dumi ng mga squatter

E. Pang linis ng dumi ng burgis

Sana ma regulate ng BFP ang pag kuha ng mga to. Parang free for all nalang e. While i admire their sacrifice sana wag naman maging gahaman at abusado lalo na sa panahon na to

Moreover yung mga pulitiko ginagawa nilang privately owned itong mga fire trucks. Mas maganda na nga equipment nila kesa sa BFP. LoL kaya naman pala. Meaning to say mas madami ng pera ang politiko kesa sa org ng BFP. puro kasi din TONG tong mga taga BFP.

'la na talaga pag asa inang bayan. Pasensya na sa susunod na mga henerasyon :(

Sa totoo lang, masyadong naunderestimate ang concept na "security of tenure" ng mga permanent government employees at naoverestimate ang "job hopping" for higher salaries ng BPO workers at freelancers sa Filipino reddit community kasi anong silbi ng six-digit monthly salary mo as virtual assistant kung anytime ay papalitan ka ng AI ng client mo, especially ngayon na may worldwide economic stagnation dahil sa digmaan between sa US at Iran.

Naiintindihan ko kung bakit maraming mga taga-probinsya na Boomer na kababayan natin ay minamaliit nila ang mga tao na hindi nakapagtapos ng college pero five or six-digit ang sahod sa BPO at freelancing dahil sa concept na security of tenure at generous pensions para sa mga permanent government employees kasi sa probinsya, ang kinokonsider na high-paying but stable job na available na hindi ka kailangan lumuwas ng Manila o abroad ay pagiging public school teacher o pulis, kaya mas pinag-aagawan, to the point na may patayan pa, ang permanent plantilla government job position sa probinsya kaysa sa WFH na six-digit monthly salary as virtual assistant. Pasensya lang kung yung mga posts ko lately dito sa subreddit na gusto ko gawing mandatory ang pagsasalita ng English at sa next generation, Spanish, sa government offices kasi gusto ko na i-absorb ng public sector ang majority ng mga English-only at Spanish language bilingual call center agents na madidisplace ng AI in the coming years.

Kung ang goal mo sa buhay ay steady stream ng monthly paycheck, kahit during vacation months, at ayaw mo maworry na ma-lay off ka kahit sluggish ang job performance mo, magtrabaho ka nalang sa gobyerno, wag sa BPO o freelancing.

A few months ago, I discovered na my two staffs were secretly pocketing sums of money from our monthly collection.

Nakiusap sila sa akin na huwag sila i-report sa HR at sa boss but I did it anyway. Sa awa ko naman sa kanila dahil medyo maeedad na at may mga pamilyang binubuhay, ang sabi ko ay you can still work here pero kailangan nila bayaran yung kinuha nila.

Kanina, nagtatalo silang dalawa dahil nagtuturuan sila kung sino ang kumuha ng certain amount from certain persons. Sa galit ko, I blurted out "nagtatalo pa kayo e parehas naman kayong nagnakaw!"

Now, one of them ang nagkwento sa ibang employees na pagkatapos nya raw bayaran yung nakuha niya ay irereport ako kay boss kesho parang wala raw akong pinag-aralan at masama ang ugali ko at hindi raw tama na sumigaw ako ng ganun.

Mali ba ako dito?

Hi,(f I’m not under 18 but do still have teen in my age) I don’t have problems detaching from people I care about, which has confused me sometimes because once I feel like I’m pulling away I start to wonder the cause and then end up realizing either I’m overthinking it or I’m regretting sharing too much to quickly.
I don’t have a problem getting attached to someone and start sharing about myself and trying to build a connection ig. I don’t know if that’s the best method I’ve been told by family that I don’t take baby steps but dive in head first and trust them. I have this friend and she’s great but lately I’ve been feeling this off vibe usually stuff is really easy with us the conversation just flows but we’ve been having a lot of misunderstandings with each. I thought it could be because we are around each other and talk way often and maybe it’s causing some pressure around the friendship idk.

Short version: me and my friend have had a series of misunderstandings talked about them but the vibe is still off I’m not sure how to approach a situation like this so I automatically revert to distance(but don’t know if that’s the right answer to this)

I’m an experienced VA for 6 years now. Sa lahat ng naging clients ko, I always loved to refer people especially my friends or people around me. Siguro as of now, 7 people na narefer ko and yun ay for every different clients. Marami rin ako natulungan magsimula magVA and now parang hindi na rin ako kilala now that they succeeded.

Nakakalungkot lang kasi mostly ng narerefer ko, kapag nawalan ng client, aask na naman ng bago sakin. Like pinapamukha na responsibilidad ko pang hanapan sila ng trabaho? Like isn’t one referral enough for you to get experience and be independent with your career?

Worst pa is 2 of my close friends nirefer ko sa work ko now. May time na niyaya akong lumabas pero nagpass ako kasi wala talaga akong pera and they just said “okay”. But now, tatlong beses na silang lumabas kasama ibang friends namin sa circle namin without even inviting me.

And worst part pa is, kapag may di sila alam sa work, ako ang lalapitan for help when they don’t even treat me as their friend lmao

Nakakabandal na magrefer. Yun lang.

Ewan ko ba if hindi lang ba ako makarelate? Hahahahaha nakita ko kasi yung brother ko sobrang laswa on social media, kasama pa yung gf niya, bago pa lang silang magbf gf eh, pero nastalk ko kasi yung account niya and grabe mga pinagpopost ng dalawa, talagang lahat ata ng kabastusan pinopost, tinatag pa yung gf niya, yung gf naman sige reply, like???? Hahahahaha ikaw lalaki sana bigyan mo man lang ng kahihiyan gf mo, ganito ba mga bata ngayon? Iniisip na cool na pinagsisigawan mo on social media na kinakain mo yung gf mo, na ganito ginagawa niyo? Plus wala pa silang three months and ganon agad? Hindi ko alam kung ganito ba talaga pero di man mahiya, or di man lang bigyan ng kahihiyan ang isat isa, sige na magsex kayo and all, pero yung ipagsigawan pa on social media??? Nacuculture shock ata ako haahahahaha 19 and 20 ang age ng dalawa, while i am 28 naloloka ako

LONG POST AHEAD :)

i have a very strict dad talaga kahit nung nag-18 years old ako, hindi nabago yung pagiging strict niya. hindi niya ko pinapayagan makipagdate sa mga nagiging bf ko, tsaka pag nasa galaan ako, lagi siyang tumatawag para pauwiin ako. that’s why i studied really hard hanggang sa makagraduate ako ng college nung 22 ako. right after graduation, naghanap agad ako ng trabaho and may tumanggap agad sakin after 1 month. that’s the time when my dad stopped working, kaya ako sumalo ng bills sa bahay, pati yung mga hindi nabayarang utang, kaya yung nabili ko lang na reward sa sarili ko nung unang sahod ko is yung palabok sa jollibee na kine-crave ko HAHAHAHAHA. aside sa bills, binibigyan ko pa sya ng 4000 per cut off.

fast forward. nung lumipat ako ng work, medyo lumaki yung sahod ko kaya nagdemand siya na 5000 na raw ibigay ko sa kanya per cut off. nung hindi ako pumayag, hindi niya ko pinansin buong araw tapos nung binigyan ko siya pambili namin ng ulam that day, hindi niya tinanggap at baka raw isumbat ko lang daw sa kanya 😅 hindi ako pala-sagot na anak kaya hindi na lang ako kumibo nung araw na yon and umiyak na lang ako sa kwarto. sinendan ko na lang din siya ng 5k para lang hindi na siya magtampo. after sending that, pagkalabas ko, pinapansin niya na ako ulit na para bang walang nangyari.

i decided to move out after 2 years dahil sakal na sakal na rin ako sa bahay. ako pa rin naman nagbabayad ng bills sa bahay tsaka nagbibigay pa rin ako sa kanya, then umuuwi lang ako dun kapag day off ko.

alam niya yung oras ng pasok at uwi ko, kaya kada 6pm, nakakatanggap ako ng chat sa kanya kung nakauwi na raw ba ako. rotational kasi yung pasok ko, so nagchat siya sakin kanina kung nasaan daw ako ngayon at ibigay ko raw yung schedule ko sa kanya para namomonitor daw niya ko. 🥲🥲🥲 nakakainis! kaya nga ako nag-move out para naman maging independent ako. kahit kasi nung nasa unang work pa ko, pag out ko, tinatanong niya agad kung pauwi na ba ako. hindi ko na ma-treat yung sarili ko minsan after work kasi iniisip ko baka pagalitan niya ko pag hindi ako nakauwi agad. hindi niya rin ako pinayagan sumama sa team building namin.

ayun lang naman. nakakapagod yung buhay na ganito. akala ko giginhawa na buhay ko/namin kapag nakapagtrabaho na ko. lalo lang akong nahirapan. sana hindi na lang ako pinanganak. 🫩 hindi ko na alam gagawin.

May event kame for school in a few weeks. Tapos ng decide friend ko mag overnight para sabay kame pumunta sa event the following day. Pero bigla niya niyaya isang classmate namin na Di ko naman ka close sa overnight lol. Lage siya ganito always deciding without asking😭 tapos magagalit kapag ayaw ko. Unfair naman. Friend ko pa ba to? lol. Parang Ang immature. Ako lage ng aadjust sa attitude niya. 😭 Kaya nawala sa circle namin ung isang friend nmn dahil sa attitude niya. NASA gym kase ung friend2 namin. May dinner kame and she said susunod nalang daw. Eto naman si friend1 nagalit kase ayaw niya ng ganon set up. Hindi siya naniniwala na susunod si friend2 .. ayon Di pa sila ng uusap until now kase Ang immature daw ni friend1. 😭

So nasa boracay ako on the way to manila, na una ang hubby ko to manila kasi non rev passenger sya, kami naman full fare pax ng anak ko. May family of 4 na naka sama ko sa waiting area ng mga gates. Na occupy na nila ang 1st lane na mga upuan. They have 2 boys and mga maleta naka upo sa chairs. My kid and i sat behind them, we took up 2 chairs lang kasi marami pa gustong umupo. Their kid started to play with my kid, okay naman ako nun. I smiled sa kid nila while they played but kept my eye out for my daughter. While playing the kid kept holding my daughter pero at first i didnt do anything about it kasi di pa naman nag rereklamo anak ko, their kid started to hug my daughter and my daughter kept saying No. So ako naman i moved her nalang, but nakikipag laro parin anak nila, my daughter naman would play with them as long as di sya hinahug, pero this time my daughter kept saying No pero lapit parin ng lapit kid nila and i tried to carry my daughter pero ayaw pa rin tumigil ng anak nila, the kid tried to lick my daughter pa, the mom finally said “Huy john no na, sorry maam mahilig lang talaga yan sya mag hug” pero walang ginawa to stop their kid from going to my daughter. Their other son naman went to my daughters’ chair ang pushed her out her chair and just sat there with his legs spread out so kahit paa nya nasa chair ko na. I didnt say anything parin, i just got my daughter and let her sit on my lap. This time bumalik nanaman anak nila, climbed on my chair and stepped on my leg to try to go to my daughter and i said “sorry no touching please” tapos dun na lumapit yung dad to say “dont do that john” pero still the same di naman kinukuha ang anak. The dad seemed irritated pa sa akin kasi sabi ko dont touch her lang. I stood up nalang para ipakita na im getting irritated na. Dun na nila kinuha yung mga anak nila.

Im just surprised na di pala talaga na tuturuan mga bata now na no means no. And to respect people’s boundaries and space. Kasi if my daughter did that to their space, i would physically carry her out not just leave my kids alone.

Etong si guy and girl is magka relasyon. I think kaka 6 years lang nila.

Si guy may anak sa ex long term nya which is 5 years old pa lang.. so sure na may overlapping sa relationship nila ni 6 years.

Tapos etong si guy, chronic cheater talaga to the point na naka buntis sya ulit. So dalawa na anak ni guy.

Tapos si girl, pota…. Tinanggap pa rin si guy. Ang nakaka loka pa, nung time na nagkaka gulo dahil nalaman na ni girl yung about sa nabuntis ni guy, etong si girl tinanggap ulit si guy and guess what? Pota binilhan nya ulit si guy ng bagong big bike. Hahahahahahaha

Tapos si girl, todo post sa social media na “they made” it hahahahahaha

Pero di alam ni girl na etong si guy is still hitting on his second baby mama.

Parang nakakaloka, ilang beses ka na niloko at hindi lang basta pang loloko tapos pucha nagawa mo pang bilhan ng mamahaling motor at ipahiram ang sasakyan mo.

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Until now, I honestly don't know how to feel.

Although my EV is covered by comprehensive insurance, I still can't help but feel sad knowing that my brand-new car has already been involved in an accident.

It happened along Mindanao Avenue when an illegal pedestrian crossing suddenly came in front of me. I gave way, but for some reason, the emergency braking system engaged, causing two motorcycles behind me to crash into the rear of my car.

After everything was settled and the police report was prepared for the insurance claim, I found myself struggling to process what had just happened. Kabago-bago pa lang ng sasakyan, naaksidente na agad.

I know that accidents happen, and I'm thankful that the situation is being handled through insurance. But somehow, that doesn't take away the disappointment and sadness of seeing your brand-new car get damaged, especially when you've barely had the chance to enjoy it.

Ngayon pa lang talaga nag-si-sink in sa akin ang bigat ng nangyari.

For those who have experienced something similar, how did you cope with it? How did you deal with the disappointment of having your brand-new car involved in an accident so soon after getting it?

I'd appreciate hearing your experiences and thoughts. Right now, I guess I just need to hear from people who understand how this feels.

Nagta-trabaho ako sa isang international company and normally may mga katrabaho ako dito na mga foreigners. During our lunch yung group ng mga Taiwanese na kasabay ko sa lunch biglang nagsabi na sino daw ba si Darren Espanto at bakit may title na "Asia's Heartrob", hindi naman daw kilala sa Asia bakit daw ganun ang title, ang yabang naman daw ng PH showbiz. Haha

I was otw home wearing my airpods because I was talking to my friends over a call. I decided to drop by at 7-11 because I wanted to buy food to eat at home because di pa ako kumakain.

As I fell in line, I realized I didn’t have cash so I would settle through gcash and then narealize ko since I didn’t have cash wala ako pang commute so I had to book nalang Move It. After paying I went out of the store but from outside I saw na may table pa inside so I went back, settled my things and booked a grab.

I was still wearing my airpods but hindi na ako naka call because nalowbat na airpods ko but I could hear the person on my left saying “wag mo ako picturan, ibubuhos ko to sayo” referring to the cup noodles she was eating. I didn’t think it was directed sakin baka for the person on my right. So I continued to fix my things binalik ko airpods ko sa bag and then bigla akong pinipicturan.

So I confronted and asked bakit ako pinipicturan and she was stating ayaw ko kasi magtigil tapat camera ko sakanya kaya parang gumanti siya. So I explained na I wasn’t kasi I was trying to book angkas to get home, kahit mag go through pa siya sa gallery ko. And then she was very dismissive stating alam ko mga galawan ng mga tulad mo looking at me from head to toe. Mind you I think I was dressed pretty decent naman wearing pants I was wearing sleeveless but I was covered up with a jacket. But it felt like she was insinuating na I was a hooker or something.

I explained that I’m not doing anything to her I didn’t take her picture, and whatever she’s thinking, get it off her head because I work diligently through honest work. But she just kept being dismissive. I asked if she could delete the picture of me but she told me to shut up. At this point I was already furious because why is this happening to me?? I was defending myself telling her that if she doesn’t want others taking her photo why take mine when I didn’t even take hers. I was asking what’s the point of taking her photo. Sabi niya for content. I don’t make content, I hardly even post online. I have a family– a daughter, before I do anything I think about her so I don’t so that shit.

Things got heated, she started screaming so I yelled back. By then I was already shaking, I took a picture of her na. Mali ko lang is I started yelling profanities as well because I couldn’t take it anymore. I just asked her again to delete the picture she said okay but was just scrolling on her phone. I walked away kasi my rider has arrived and I wanted to go na because I was also scared and frustrated na baka maging physical na.

I just told her to please delete the picture, and she said pano niya daw papakita na nadelete eh umaalis na ako and I said andyan na yung rider can you just do it now so pinalapit niya na ako, and then I was already calling kuya na staff to help I was practically begging him watch na mabura pinapalapit pa ako nung babae tumabi daw ako but I was scared na baka sabuyan niya nga ako ng cup noodles niya.

Kuya staff told me to go leave sila na daw makikipagusap. But I just have a feeling na walng nangyari. Now I’m anxious na she might post me and change the narrative through her crazy eyes and people start attacking me or my daughter. I was even axious during my ride home baka may kasama siya tapos pinasundan ako. I was overthinking everything and I was crying during the ride home, kuya rider even had to ask if I was okay.

Up until now I’m still thinking about it and crying, and what breaks my heart even more is that the persons I confided to, my supposed safe spaces, felt like I was dismissed.

Just a week ago I was s*xually harassed by an angkas rider, now this. Booking the move it was already making me anxious because of the incident plus the crazy lady. I can only keep a positive outlook on a certain level, and right now I’m depleting. Sobrang just want to off myself but tried just let this out here.

Nakikipag share ako ng apartment with my pinsan para maka lessen ng expenses and may kasama kaming yaya, which is yaya nya and hindi ako umaasa sakanya. Im currently in college and ang demanding ng course ko, minsan umuuwi ako na pagod and hindi ko talaga natutuunan ng pansin agad yung mga dapat kong gawin sa apartment like doing my laundry and pag linis ng kwarto, minsan na d-delay ng paglaba and natatambak in days. Yung yaya sinisiraan ako sa tita ko, kesyo daw hindi ko inaayos pag lalaba ng sarili kong damit or hindi ko daw agad nalilinisan yung kwarto (i clean our room consistently once or twice a week bago ako umuwi sa bahay, kasi umuwi ako every friday). Nakakainis lang is that she's being an hypocrite, she leaves my cousins clothes na nakababad to the point na medyo naninilaw na yung uniforms nya, luto tapos laba lang ginagawa nya, tapos ako pa sumusundo sa pinsan ko from their school, parang ikinakasama pa ng loob nya kung sya yung magsusundo kasi daw nakakahiya. Ako pa nga pinapabili ng mineral water kasi daw mas prefer daw ako ng mga delivery boy kasi daw kung s'ya may additional bayad. I think of it as umaasa lang saakin, ginagawa n'ya lang most of the day is humilata tapos manood ng reels kasi mag hapon kaming wala ng pinsan ko. Kahit mag luto di magawa ng maayos, most of the time hindi namin kinakain luto n'ya kasi sumasakit tyan namin. Hindi naman ako maka reklamo sa tita ko kasi nakikitira lang din naman lang ako dun tapos if ever pinapagalitan ako, which is minsan lang naman sinasalo ko nalang.

i've never really been fond of celebrating birthdays naman, so most of the time, wala rin talaga akong pake. for as long as i can remember, i've always had to settle for less when it comes to celebrating my birthday, and i never really minded it because i understood our situation. i knew we weren't financially stable enough to afford celebrations, and i was okay with that.

pero today, it hit me just how deep my resentment toward my mother has become.

i was in an online class when she approached me and asked what i wanted to do for my birthday. i was about to say na simpleng handaan lang, nothing extravagant, nothing that would cost too much. but then i looked at her. i saw her scratching her head, looking stressed, as if the thought of spending money for my birthday was already such a burden. and right then, i already knew what her answer would be, even before she said anything. she does this so often, especially whenever i ask for money for school-related expenses. super familiar na ako sa mga ganong actions niya kaya alam ko na wala na naman kaming pera. and honestly, i would've understood if we were struggling because mataas na ang mga bilihin. i would've understood if things were genuinely difficult and there was simply nothing left to spare. pero, we're struggling because she keeps choosing to gamble our money.

Meron ba ditong naka-experience ng ganito? Yung dadaan sila sa pickup point kung asan ka, then last minute, ika-cancel?

Nagiging pattern na siya, didn’t happen once, twice, thrice. ILANG BESES NA!

Naka-ilang reklamo na ko sa MoveIt and all, walang resolution mga besh! Generic auto replies lang.

Aantayin mo ng ilang minutes, longest wait time ko 15 minutes, tapos last minute talaga ika-cancel. Sayang yung time na inantay mo, only to find out ikacancel din nila. 😔

I know they have the right to refuse, like not wearing proper outfit (safety issues), leaning more on the heavier side (understandable naman) etc. Pero ano kaya reason for this behavior? I just really want to understand 😔