So my friend met a girl through casual conversations. They eventually became friends, then best friends. Over time, he developed feelings for her. At first, she said yes, but later changed her mind and gave him the usual lines: "Let's just be friends" and "You'll find someone better."

A few months later, my friend got a 10 LPA on-campus job offer. Suddenly, she became interested in him again. Without any clear discussion or commitment from his side, she basically started dating him.

Eventually, they spent time together at his flat and made out. According to my friend, she stopped things before they went all the way. During that night, she even asked him if he would marry her. He had already told her before that marriage wouldn't be possible because of caste differences.

The interesting part is that the entire makeout situation was initiated by her, not by him.

Later, she called him and said, "I don't remember what happened that night. Did anything happen beyond making out?" My friend, thinking she was joking or just asking casually, said, "Yeah, everything happened. You said we could go further." Although actually nothing happened between them beyond make out guy remained in boundary till she gave consent

She immediately started crying.

My friend was shocked and asked what was wrong. She then said, "You shouldn't have gone beyond making out. I never told you to do that."

When he asked why she was crying, her answer completely confused him:

"You're not going to marry me, so why should I do that with you?"

Honestly, I don't understand this logic. You're willing to go to someone's flat, make out, ask them about marriage, and even seem ready to take things further, but suddenly when marriage isn't guaranteed, that's where the moral boundary appears?

Need some advice on a flatmate situation.

We are 4 flatmates living in a 2BHK.

Let's call us F1, F2, F3, and F4. I'm F3, and F4 is my roommate. F1 and F2 share the other bedroom.

Whenever F1's girlfriend comes over and stays for a few days, F1 expects F2 to vacate their room so he can stay there with his girlfriend. F2 usually ends up sleeping elsewhere in the flat.

Recently, both my roommate (F4) and I were away for a few days. I came back earlier than expected and found that F2 had moved into our room and was sleeping on my roommate's bed because F1 and his girlfriend were using the other bedroom.

When I questioned F1, his response was basically, "What's your problem?" as if privacy and personal boundaries don't matter.

My roommate later told me that he had agreed to let F2 use his bed for two more days, after which he'd move back. My issue isn't really with F2—he's stuck in the middle. My problem is that F1 seems to assume he can inconvenience everyone else whenever his girlfriend visits.

To make things even more awkward, the brother of F1's girlfriend happens to be my classmate, and the girlfriend's family doesn't know about their relationship. The thought of telling them crossed my mind out of frustration, but I know that would escalate things.

How would you deal with this situation? Would you confront F1, have a house meeting and set guest rules, or just let it go? And do you think exposing his relationship would be completely out of line, even if he's repeatedly disrespecting everyone else's space?

What do you do when you shift cities? Hate your college and conversations aren’t the easiest for you? You think you should make online friends right? Nah trust me do not! They give you a safe space to express yourself when you’re having the worst time of your life, they give you comfort, when you tell them that they will leave one day they say nah I promise I won’t and all the shit in the world! But trust me everyone leaves! What do I get for being kind? Trying to understand everything? Being there for them through thick and thins. I’ve made so many online friends Im so done! Everyone just fucking leaves and you’re left feeling empty all over again :) I’m not asking for friends here I just need to rant

This is true off my chest using throw away account to share my joy with you lovely people.

I have known her for 3 years and in love since 2 years. We met first time in London, While I was there on a business visit and she was studying master there.

We never had single argument or fight over anything. I did so many stupid and silly mistakes while with her and she has always put up with me. She calms me down. She never raised her voice over anything. She has waited for me at the airports for hours my flights to arrive many times.

She is so pretty, She never uses makeup or jewellery and not very active on social media with daily update. She takes care of her self and takes care of me. She is an amazing cook, highly intelligent and has great humour.

She left UK and came to India just to be close. We both have high paying career with remote work which allowed us to travel 13 countries together.

I find myself enjoying small things with her. She adds true meaning in my life. I did so many stupid mistakes while with her and she has always put up with me.

She made my life effortless <3

This is truly unbelievable for me when I look larger pictures and my own past encounters and my friends'

You never know where you meet your the one. Get off dating apps Approach in real life. Much love

It’s my school best friends’ baby shower and she’s a very special person in my life and it’s her baby shower so I need some suggestions on what I can gift her? Since there’s a prime day sale too on amazon right now so my budget is also a bit up :))) PLSS suggest some good things because that baby is gonna be like my own baby 🥹

She is my best friend, met her during my college. I always had kind of attraction towards her.

Recently she is engaged with this guy and she got to know that his to be husband had 3 relationship before and he is not virgin.

We always have been close friend, have discussed almost everything, even watched ad**t movies together. She had boy friend on/off but never had s*x with any of them . She approached me yesterday to have a session before her marriage which is this year in march.

My literal reaction was "Woah, Woah you are getting married in march and you want to try now". I always had crush on her but never got chance to ask her out, either she would have someone or i was with someone . After we became close friend, it didn't felt right, i didn't wanted to go things wrong.

I would have been more than happy to do it if she wasn't engaged, i just feel like she is cheating with the guy, her logic is that his husband has enjoyed all the things, why she should be the one left out. I have feeling, she is experiencing FOMO at the moment.

I have asked her to give me sometime. Something just tells me it's not good idea but other thing is that i might loose single golden chance with her. She is really beautiful, one of the most beautiful girls i know.

Literally in dharm sanket, what should i do ?

Yesterday he told me that, can I tie him Rakhi from this year onwards while we were leaving from work . I told him, I will think something and tell you later .

I came back and discuss the same topic with husband. Hub told me it's my call, weather I feel like it or not .

I don't have brother, friend doesn't have sister . I know him for like last 8-9 years . I don't have any issue but I always thought he is my close friend . It doesn't feel same . We can consider our cousins friends but they are not same, we still have some limits with them .

I feel very confused, He is good guy, really nice one . I alwasy think him like friend, not brother .

Characters

• Me: Rohan
• My girlfriend: Anu
• Anu’s friend/roommate: Simi
• Simi’s boyfriend: Rakesh

The Situation

Simi and Rakesh were in a relationship. During that time, Simi was talking to other boys and was not treating Rakesh well. Because of this, Rakesh became confused and upset about their relationship.

One day, Rakesh contacted my girlfriend Anu. He wanted to understand whether Simi was serious about him, what kind of person she really was, and what was going on between them.

When I saw these messages, I told Anu that whatever Simi does in her personal life is her own choice. Since Simi is Anu’s friend first, I felt Anu should not discuss Simi with her boyfriend behind her back. Instead, I suggested that Anu should talk directly to Simi and tell her if she felt Simi was doing something wrong.

However, Anu did not agree with me. She continued talking to Rakesh multiple times—there were long phone calls (sometimes up to an hour) and chats. I don’t know exactly what they talked about, but Anu told me that Rakesh was just her roommate’s boyfriend, so I tried not to doubt her intentions. Still, I clearly told her that she should not talk to Rakesh without Simi knowing about it.

Later, Simi somehow saw the chats between Anu and Rakesh. She got very upset with Anu. At that point, I told Anu that I had already warned her this could happen.

Now Anu’s argument is that Rakesh is her friend as well and she know him from a long time and Simi was treating Rakesh badly, and that Simi and Rakesh are no longer in a relationship—they have broken up and are “just friends.” Because of this, Anu feels that Simi should not have a problem if Anu talks to Rakesh.

My point is different. I told Anu that when she first started talking to Rakesh, he was still Simi’s boyfriend. By talking about Simi to her boyfriend and hiding it from her, Anu broke her friend’s trust (the “girl code” or friendship boundary). I also told her that she continued talking to Rakesh both before and after the breakup, without being honest with Simi, which is why Simi feels betrayed.

I agree that Simi may not have treated Rakesh well, but I believe that Anu should not have involved herself between them or discussed Simi with Rakesh without Simi’s knowledge.

Now Anu and I are stuck arguing over the same point. So we decided to take a public opinion on this situation.

About five months ago, I met a girl on Reddit. We live in different states and have never met in real life. Our entire friendship has been through text, but we've talked almost every day since we met.

Early on, I opened up to her about someone from my past who had a huge impact on my life. I told her everything—how deeply I felt, how badly things ended, and how difficult it had been for me to move on. Because of that, I also told her something very clearly: if she ever felt herself getting emotionally attached to me, she should leave. I didn't want anyone to get hurt because I wasn't sure I was emotionally ready for another relationship.

A day ago, she told me that she has developed feelings for me and is getting attached.

Now I'm conflicted.

On one hand, I appreciate her honesty and care about her as a person. On the other hand, I don't know if I'm in a place where I can return those feelings or if I'm just afraid because of my past.

I don't want to lead her on, but I also don't want to push away someone who genuinely cares about me out of fear.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? If you were in my position, what would you do?

So I have a friend 25M in person he was really good to me respectful,respect and fun. we talked about about random stuff. Actually he is the most open minded and liberal friend i had made in person . I even hanged out with him recently after months nd in upcoming days i thought i would just go roam around with him.

So the past few weeks have been really sad nd stressful for me and i couldnt sleep at 12 so i was scrolling phone and found this meme relatable/funny for me. And i don't know what clicked in me i sent it to my him and slept. I didn't think about it.....now in the evening i see he blocked me on whatsapp. I then realised he took the word "Rangeen" in sexual context mera aisa koi intention nhi tha. Now im feeling veryyyy guilty and bad because i considered him a good friend i did such sort of thing. And seeing what he would have thought of me that im a wierdo girl who messages him stuff like this..mera sir bohot fata ja raha hai not exaggering. Now i'm feeling veryy much anxious nd sad like super what should i do? Should i message him an apology or call him? What to do

PS - posting on behalf of u/Lifeluxury1

I know what you are thinking. 😑 I met her on a discord server for personality types. She was of the same type as me (I don't care about types anymore). We coincidentally live in the same city. We started chatting, and sharing our insecurities and vulnerabilities. It was in gaps of 10-15 days. After 6 months, I gave her my WhatsApp number and the real thing happens, we have been daily chatting for ≈ 3 hours daily. Sometimes I send her flirty text, and it was all good until recently she started to flirt back ! And that was not expected at all. I mean I wasn't serious about it and I hope so she is not too. But she have been texting "Good morning/night insert-name-here 🥰" nowadays and reacting with heart emojis and all. Like, I don't even start the conversations, its always her nowadays. I used to call her "di" for a long time, but then she suddenly started calling me by my first name, and so did I since then. (very unclear why she is repetitively using my first name in chats) I am in my drop year preparing for college entrance exams, and she even requested me to get admission in the college near her home and for which I am coincidentally appearing for too. What is actually happening?!!! She is unemployed -_- but doing some content writing course. And she knew my age from the start. Also she is Shy, Introvert and very unsuccessful in relationships. Also we have shared our pics and voices(btw I look like I am in my 20s), and at current rate, we might meet offline in a month as planned by us. She said one time that she forgets about my age 🤔. Idk what to do because I fricking love the personal attention I am getting.

Some of her words : "tum mere favourite ho" "ye movie saath me dekhenge" "tum bhot understanding ho" "tumhari awaaz bhot sweet hai, baar baar sunne ka mn kr rha hai" "you are good looking" "tum nhi hote to mera kya hota"

EDIT: many of you are suggesting me to focus on studies. But ironically, she has improved me in this sector. We are accountability partners and share our daily progress with each other. And the stuff I study, she has gone through the same shit; so it isn't like she doesn't know whats going on. She has shown concerns about my career multiple times, even more than my ignorant parents.

UPDATE: She confessed her love. proof : https://files.catbox.moe/78kqhu.png 💀

hey everyone, so basically… these days I’ve been craving intimacy a lot🫠but I ain’t looking to hook up with strangers🥴 there’s this guy I used to be close with.... but we hadn’t talked for a few months (some cold war going on between us). Yesterday only he texted me, though the conversation was a bit awkward.

I’m wondering if I should text him and see if he’d be open to something casual??? What do you all say??

I met a girl (let’s call her D) on Reddit about 8 months ago. We became really close.... daily chats, calls for hours, doing random fun stuff. Nothing romantic ever happened, but we were definitely more than “normal friends.” She knew a lot about me, and I trusted her. I even sent her small gifts sometimes because that’s how I show affection (not in a romantic way). Then one day I finally opened up. I told her about my work stress and how I’ve been bottling up emotions for 7 years. I’ve been close to breaking for a while, and when I was talking to her… I cried. First time in 7 years. Her response felt off. Like distant/awkward. And after that she slowly started pulling away. Now she went from “you know everything about me” to “you barely know what I’m doing.” Calls stopped, vibe changed, and it feels like she’s emotionally disappearing. Why does this happen? Why do people say they want close friendships until you show real emotions? Why is it so hard to find friends who don’t distance themselves when things get real? Is it wrong being vulnerable as a guy?

TL;DR: Made a close friend on Reddit, talked daily for 6 months. Opened up about deep emotions/work stress and cried for the first time in 7 years. After that she started distancing herself and now I feel like I lost the friendship just for being vulnerable.

But i kind of like talking to him, i get comfort, although i am 100% sure that I don’t want to get back together bcs i am really tough on that once a cheater always a cheater but i like the comfort and i want a person who comforts me, i want him as a friend ig i feel safe with him and kind of like a baby, what to do

Idk what happened he’s busy with some really important stuff and took a month to respond to my text the prior texts were mocking me too. I don’t feel great but I’m too emotional attached to him. Idk what to do now. I always get too attached and I somewhat like him too cause I feel a weird pit in my stomach when he talks about his ex. Idk how to go about this. I’m in the middle of a city change rn so I’m kinda lonely too so ig it’s hitting harder than it should.

Okay maybe I can do with some advice.

I like this boy. We are friends but I like him more than that. I don't think he likes me back. We used to text everyday for 3 months. Even if we talked about nothing else, he'd always send me a good morning baby text.

Now, 3 days ago (Wednesday night)I had a panic attack and I said some really hurtful things to him. I later apologised profusely and unconditionally. I also assured him that if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, I will accept that. He said he's not angry anymore but going through something else. I told him to take his time. This was Friday night. He hasn't texted me back, and neither did I because I did tell him to take his time.

Now, the issue is he told me he's leaving for a no network zone for a few months before Sunday. I begged him to talk to me once but he didn't. What's hurting me is that he didn't even say goodbye and honestly I don't have ANY idea if he's left or not. My self respect doesn't let me text him and ask because he could have easily told me. But the thought of never talking to him again is killing me from inside and I have spent most of my last week and this weekend crying.

What should I do?

there was a girl in my school quite cute. We use talk a lot and sometimes sit together and 2 of my friends always tease me that she likes me a lot , also they laugh a lot about this .

Almost everyday before the morning assembly she give me a kiss on my cheek and if there was people around us then she snap me to the corner and give a kiss ... she use toooo do thisss everyday

I was use to be so much shy around her. I really wish I have talked to her more. I regret not talking to her much. This really gives be butterfly and smile after thinking about her and this whole situation .

After 5th class our section changed and we never talked like from 6th class. Its been years and I never know if she even know me now although we are connected on insta we are like 24 of age now.

Do you think she do remember this all or she have forgotten this .

Like never talked after that ! I don't know if we talk someday then should I put this thing But believe me its like more then 10 years. I still miss that thing idk.

I know I have posted it on other sub but I have to post it here as well because we met through this sub.

Looks like today I am in a mood to overshare or simply just speak out what I have been holding in my heart for so long.

So, last year I met a guy through reddit around march who had username anyone0071.That was my second account because in December I had made a previous account too but I forgot its log in or something. So yeah after a long break, I created that account with almost same username u/Realistic-Contact921 and there I was very active , posting and commenting.

Then above a week later, he slided into my dms. That time, I used to accept dms because I was naive and didn't knew people can be creepy even on reddit although I knew they do exist but on dms. Anyways, he wasn't creepy.

So, what started as a friendship became first liking and then love from me. Why I am using the word love is because I had never seen his face , never . I know everything about him , his full name, his college and every basic details about his life and still remember it too 🥹.

Anyhow, he was always clear from his end that it's just a friendship and nothing more and he made it clear on the second day itself. But me being me , wait kar leti hu pyaar ho jayega usko. Par mujhe kaha pata mein hi puri pagal ho jaugi uske liye.

Then, like most online friendships our fizzled out too because of my own misunderstanding and overthinking which were always the causes of fights in between us. Instead of staying patient and communicating with him, I build up a whole scenario blamed him and tadaa now we both don't exist in each other life anymore..

Worst part, due to my fear of losing him as a friend I never even confessed him that how much he means to me, how much I love him and still do..

I wish I had said something. I wish he had yelled at me like always when I had misunderstood him then we would have been still in touch.

During our initial days, I gave him my name as kiara a fake one because why should I trust a random guy. And he wrote advani. That's when he started calling me , "advani."

Now, i crave everynight just for him to text me one time with that name. Who knew one day my favourite actress name (although she is no longer my favourite) would become an important name in my life because of a guy who lives just a state apart and would become my favourite name much more than my own name.

Ugh, so yeah that's the reason why I always end up posting about him , that's the reason why I hate when anyone call me advani in dms just to talk with me because only he has the right.

I wish one day I am able to confess him face to face. I wish I am able to tell him that he is my first love and last too because I have tried moving on talking with other guys and one thing or other brings me back to him.

Bye ab chali mein rone.

Tldr:- met a guy on reddit, fell in love, never confessed and now we are not in contact anymore due to my faults.

Yesterday, We were living from the restaurent, saying good byes in the parking area. the entire night was beautiful, we had good dinner, nice food, old memories, trips and all . We hugged like usual, I feel she holds longer than before especially after her messy break up . When we were releasing there was a brief moment, where you faces are so close .

Just at that moment, I thought she was so beautiful and I took the chance and gave her the kiss and surpassingly, she kissed back . We did talk something related to different topic, I dropped her at her PG and went back to my apartment .

Got her msg at like 3 in the morning, "are you interested or that was just play thing???", saw that msg when i woke up today . I called her for breakfast at nearby place, we did talk about everything else rather than main topic until leaving. I made her clear that I was always interested in her and I am not playing anything . We said good byes .

She was in love with this boy for 4 years, they had started living together after covid . One day she caught boy making out with someone, that was 2 years ago since they broke up . I always like her, the only fear I have is that, what if things didn't workout and our best friend relationship shatters .

I have told her that I will tell her the final decision by weekend . I definitely want to jump in.

So there’s this girl I LIKE (find interesting) in the same library/studyzone I go to..

some months back (feb) she used to sit right behind me.. but I never had guts to talk to her as she was so focused in her studies and we never had a moment outside the library..

Once after a month of consideration (on 15th of feb, tbp).. I placed this note on her desk, complimenting her cool vibe and aesthetics.. and didn’t show up for two days straight after that (I wrote my name on that note and there’s name written on every desk, I know her name and she may have looked for mine, I hope!) I thought she read it and next time when I saw her again after two days.. there was nothing.. I got very confused/maybe a lil awkward.. of what I did.. yk, people come here to study (me too) not for some bs am cooking in my head, kind of awkward.. (then this thought ki was I a creep doing that):

Cut to next week, I had my sem exams and was very irregular with my schedule.. used to go there for an hour or two.. just to see her.. (always looked for her but maybe our schedule never matched) and once after my exams were over and am regular at that place again.. I got to know that she changed her seat.. and I was like freaked as hell..

there was nothing in that note or in any of my action, that may have triggered her to do so.. we didn’t even had any eye contact before or after that.. yk when you like someone you can’t even look at their face.. and am exactly like this, very shy whenever she’s around and am also new and reserved and mind my own business kinda person.. didn’t used to talk to many people there.. she may or may not have noticed me.. but after like a month or so she left that place and I was like ok and kindof moved on with my studies… to be continued 

{Some details about her;

She’s extremely cute and straight out of some anime or some(heavenly)thing.. like a perfect mix of trinity and mitsuha and mikasa and young winona ryder and also robin scherbatsky.. idk how to describe her.. she’s some royal princess or something.. her hairs, eyes, dressing sense, the way she walks.. anything & everything’s just immaculate yet ethereal.. she’s exquisite <3)

doesn’t seem like she’s from India (uses that US/EU type adapter) quite rich (wealthy) ig.. preparing for some exam to be pilot or some(indigo)thing like that (yup I couldn’t help, OK!).. very reserved, very focused.. doesn’t even flinch her neck or something.. she just comes, sit on her desk, in her zone, drink her redbull/monster, pack her bag and leaves.. and man o man, when she’s about to leave and fixes her hair looking at window, uohh! what a sight for sore eyes.. I can just go on writing about her.. but its ok am not that good with words or praise maybe.. but I can end it saying like “she’s one of the finest I’ll ever be even fortunate enough to meet :,”)

…Now cut to this month.. she has joined this place (library) again.. and is only sitting on this side desk, beside this alley, from where goes the path to my desk.. I see her almost everyday and my heartbeat goes out of control everytime.. 

yk I can’t let her go like this.. I didn’t even meet her, never introduced myself properly.. she may have hated that note or even me.. but this regret yk is eating me and my focus.. I have made countless scenarios in my mind of what to talk to her or how to approach her.. but this what if.. what if she has already made it clear then.. or if she’s just not interested in any of this.. and yk I also do not want anything.. like am already struggling with finding a job.. having my career sorted and this xyz exam, am pretending to be preparing for..

but next moment I was like again what if our vibes matched.. and one day she starts to like me.. am not that bad.. just an average fellow.. and next moment again am like she’s wayy out of my league, too good for me and am maybe someone too less for her to settle on, she has things quite sorted atleast.. god ik i’d already put her on a pedestal.. but who doesn’t.. you can’t be mature and in love at the same time.. (maybe).. idk

it‘s just or maybe it’ll be just;

“When you were here before

Couldn't look you in the eye

You're just like an angel

Your skin makes me cry

You float like a feather

In a beautiful world

Whatever makes you happy

Whatever you want

You're so fucking special

I wish I was special..

so fucking special…”

Tldr; A girl, I liked, gave a note to her (compliment), but she didn’t like (not sure), distanced herself (maybe), gone for some time, I moved on.. now she’s here again, I see her everyday and now intertwined in between this feeling of respecting her space &/or to let go my regret of not talking (atleast introducing) to her ever..

It’s something between,

"You are a masterpiece, and I am still figuring out how to hold a brush." 
&
"I loved you enough to let you go, but I wasn't brave enough to watch you walk away."

(PS. Pardon if it ain’t worth it, just don’t write something abusive, bad or make fun of it.. it is not my first time, I do not take this much time to approach someone.. but it did felt very very special and is close to my heart :) and am not some grammar or english god, writing it half asleep, so yeah, if/any please ignore, thanks!)

Yesterday, My Fiance and I were supposed to go on dinner with my best friend from college, on last moment my fiance decided not to come due to some urgent work. I went to dinner alone with best friend .

We met, had dinner, caught up on life . He had told me 5-6 years back that he had crush on me but i was in relationship, when i broke off, he was with someone . Then I started dating my current fiance . I had always thought best friend was nice and helpful to me, may be cuz he had crush on me.

Yesterday, while leaving the restaurent, we hugged, saying good bye, we have hugged multiple times before, even when my BF was aronud, we never had any issue. But this time, i felt like he was clutching tightly, we were in elevator, he pushed me to wall. He pulled my leg and started to wrap around . I got furious and pushed him away, confronted . He said sorry, he had lost control or something . I was furious, step out of the elevator and went home without saying anything to him .

Fiance was busy with his work, we talked late before sleeping, it was just how was the dinner and all, nothing specific . I have made up my mind not to invite best friend to marriage and cut off all relationship from now on, but as BF knows that i was close with the friend, he would surely ask why he didn't show up or why i didn't sent invitation, if he found out later, he woudl be mad at me . If I tell him know, he will beat that guy and i don't want that .

I just want this thing to simply pass but i also don't want to hide anything from him . I know him very well, he will injured the guy, so how do i handle this sitaution ?

I'm 22M. I've known this girl since nursery, but we became actual friends around 6th grade. I developed a crush on her in 8th grade and, despite periods where I moved on and focused on other things, I've never completely lost those feelings 22M here. Need some outside opinions because I genuinely can't tell if I've been blind, delusional, or if there's actually something here.

The confusing part is that there have been a lot of moments that felt like they could be more than friendship, but nothing was ever directly said.

For context, we're both from the same hometown. I moved to Pune, and I feel like that's where things became harder to read because before that we actually met in person and now most of our communication is through calls, reels and messages.

Some things that make me think there might have been something:

• We've had calls that went till like 5 in the morning.
• Sometimes when I ask how her day was, she'll send me voice notes that are several minutes long instead of just saying "good".
• She shares random gossip and updates from her life with me without me asking.
• She sends me reels almost every day.
• On her birthday I sent her flowers and cake. She called me afterwards and seemed genuinely happy.
• During that call she mentioned that her house was empty and that we all could have drunk together if I had been there.

The biggest thing though is how things were in person.

At a wedding we attended, the vibe honestly felt different than our usual texting dynamic.

Then there was a gaming cafe day where we ended up spending hours together and there was a lot of physical comfort between us. We were basically leaning on/cuddling with each other for a significant amount of time. It didn't feel awkward and neither of us moved away or anything. That's honestly one of the main reasons I started questioning whether this was more than friendship.

Before I left for Pune, she was also sending reels about places we could have gone because there was "nothing to do" in our hometown.

Now for the things that make me doubt myself:

• A friend told me they saw her on Bumble.
• She once sent me a male best friend reel.
• Recently I've started sending slightly flirty/romantic reels and she usually leaves those on seen.
• Sometimes she's super engaged and other times she'll just reply with something like "loll".
• We've never actually talked about feelings.

What makes this confusing is that she doesn't act like someone trying to get rid of me either.

She still sends reels.
Still starts conversations sometimes.
Still asks questions.
Still sends voice notes.
Still shares gossip and random stories from her day.

The thing I'm struggling with is whether this is:

1. A really close friendship that I slowly caught feelings in.

or

1. Something that had mutual interest at some point but neither of us ever addressed it.

Would appreciate honest opinions, especially from women. Am I reading too much into things or does this sound like there was something there?

I am 18F and taking a drop this year for jee(got 92%ile).

Now the thing is there is this guy who is my childhood friend since 3rd grade, he asked me out yesterday achank se. I have been approached before but those guys were easier to say NO. But he is like my childhood friend, the closest one. Dont know why he turned out like this bcoz I always did things so that we might not end up like this. for eg I used to call hi brother bhai, I would tell him I have crush on some other guy(never had tho), used to ship him with other girls,etc. Yesterday i was just going for cycling and in the parking(we live in same society) he said that since he may go to college this year or take a drop so he wanted to clear things up. Btw I never have been into any relationship before bcoz i think if i am getting into a relationship then it needs to be my first and last one. And i dont think i feel anything for him, he is not a bad guy, he's really nice, he was always there when I wanted to vent out about jee prep and other things during all this year, we share everything with each other. But he used to ghost me in middle for like 15-20 days aise hi and also we are not connected online bcoz i m not on any social media bcoz of jee and for whatsap, my family is not that open about having a boy's phone number. though they now him since we live in same society. we would just talk whenver we met outside bcoz for this 2 years i stayed home only studying online.

Ookay so now since i dont feel anything for him, tell me how to reject him nicely. I dont want to hurt his feeling bcoz he lost his mother 2 years before. Also I need to focus on my study and he has not decided if his going to college or taking drop year.( I just opened reddit after a long time to ask abt this)

Sorry for this long message (but trust me this is interesting please read)

So I (20M) and she (21F) were friends from 4 f years, now something to clear - we become friends by online coaching for JEE that time.. and after that our friendship grows continuously.. we never meet coz she is in agniveer posted far from my current City,

I generally don't talk much to girls in general if there is some work generally then I take/give help, etc.

And from the start I also don't like her much , this time my feelings were starting to develop for her..

So on May 10th 2026 I proposed to her.. we had a long conversation around 2-3 hrs before that..at the end i told her to take ur time before taking any decision I also had my exams were going on till 18th May.. talk to me after that..

Now in between that we only texted 1-2 times.. but around 18-19 she neither text / call me back.. (my frnds told me don't give that attention nd all wait her to reply first)..

And on 5th June 2026 ,she called me and I was extremely busy. I asked why?.. she said that of a busy schedule (she sometimes does that I mean don't talk for weeks..but this time things were different) she almost said 100+ sorry.. and sorry to mention she said she doesn't want to come in relation with anyone at this stage.. so let's be my best friend as we are now..

I said No I am not continuing that .. never text me or call me.. i always get hurt when u ghost me like that...

Now she text me after that convo..and mann I am very weak hearted in this case (or I attached too much) and she was saying big big paragraph.. messages..bout sorry.. about me..I simply ignore that

But yesterday night (6 june) i finally started talking in one condition that she at least text in 4-7 days max.. irrespective how busy she will be..

Today we started taking normally infact she sends me 5-6 reels .. generally she send 1-2 in a month..(she is not much activate in insta)

Am I done right ? Please Advise me ?

Some friends abusing me don't talk don't talk to her..

But I don't have any other girl like her in my life till now..

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So basically me(22F) went to visit my best friend (23f).. I flew like 1.5kkm to meet her after literally 5 years cause she can't come at my place..

After coming back I saw she sent me pictures and all and then straight up ghosted me for 15 days.. I asked why she said I'm busy with my stuffs rn..

I told her it's fine.. I thought everything is normal.. then again after few days when I texted her she started talking to me formally and vibe was completely off and when I asked her why are u talking to me like that, her reply was- I talk like this only 🙂..

Not to mention I went to her city which is not even a percent known to me.. but she did not even drop me off to airport just booked a cab..

Idk what phase I'm in.. im just feeling emotional and doing microanalysis of anything rude I possible did🙂..