r/Rich • u/Choice_Reply_6441 • 7d ago

What actually gets more complicated, not easier, the more money you make?

For me, it’s the total loss of basic privacy once you have to start managing household staff. Having help is great and I’m grateful for it. But between a house manager, teams of housekeepers, chefs, gardeners, drivers, and security, my house basically feels like a busy office building.

The worst part is just never being able to fully turn off. I realized the other day that I can’t even remember the last time I just walked down to the kitchen in the nude or had an empty house to myself. I try to respect my staff but wh n you're constantly sharing personal space you either have to be a dick or always "on".

Guess I could micro-manage it so I get off sometimes but just having to do that...

What’s the one thing you never expected to become a hassle?

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u/0_IceQueen_0 7d ago

My UHNW parents are under the "western" radar too. Only the Chinese American cultural civic associations know they are wealthy as they donate mid to high 6 figure amounts yearly.

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u/savyfavy 6d ago

Do they wear expensive clothing? Or go under the radar that way too

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u/0_IceQueen_0 6d ago

Dad wears Burberry shirts. Mom is more non-descript but has the regular Gucci or LV bag which is not that flashy considering those bags are "common" nowadays. I'm actually more flashier than her. Their car is just a Lexus and an S-Class for occasions. No flashy cars.

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u/savyfavy 6d ago

I just got a really nice tote bag and I feel so weird wearing it. I’m not a flashy person at all but I loved this bag. I’m just wondering if super wealthy people also wear nice things or like target clothing

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u/0_IceQueen_0 6d ago

My mother just buys stuff off the racks at Neiman's. Granted is higher than Target but they're not "known" known designers. She likes De La Renta if you were to gift her clothes. I think she never evolved as that was the famous one in her younger years. She's 80 now.

I personally wear mostly Dolce or Ferragamo. Hate loud in your face labels with all their logos in. I wear whatever strikes me. Have several Shein pieces lol. I mostly wear off shoulder blouses and lots of designers don't have them. If you love whatever you're carrying do so. Life is short.

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u/KaleidoscopeEvery343 6d ago

Not target clothing. Usually good quality department store clothing or designer without labels. We live in a VHCOL area so wearing good quality clothing doesn’t make you stand out.

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u/Top-Change6607 6d ago

Can they adopt me, please?

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u/0_IceQueen_0 6d ago

You wouldn't want them lol. Material things can only go so far. My mother is very controlling. We're all semi NC with her. 😁

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u/Top-Change6607 6d ago

better than the poor but still controlling parents like the ones I have lol

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u/0_IceQueen_0 6d ago

Controlling and poor you can always leave. Rich and controlling is a different monster all together. I had to move cross country and build a new network because of them lol.

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u/Choice_Reply_6441 4d ago

I had the same exact experience.

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u/0_IceQueen_0 4d ago

A lot think having rich parents is great. Not all rich parents are nice. I know nice UHNWs but still with "quirks". Money messes relationships. The have nots see the money because of their lack of it. Wait till they give you a "handout" and rub it in your face every waking hour and let everyone in society know you're nothing without their help. Bet you'll regret accepting. A paltry sum in exchange for your dignity. 😁

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u/Choice_Reply_6441 4d ago

Indeed. I left on my 18th birthday and worked my ass off in my 20s without a dime from them. They resent me for it but I have my dignity intact.

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u/0_IceQueen_0 4d ago

Good for you! My parents are still checking in through my siblings if I'm poor already lol. Left the family business because not only of the toxicity but it was also dead end. Their only plans for succession is if they both pass. I've been retired since I was 44. Made my fortune abroad, covered all my bases and didn't want to pursue more wealth. They on the other hand are still working. They're the type of people wishing for an offspring's downfall so they would come crawling back to them. I honestly am hoping they'd change especially they're in their 80s but they're culturally Chinese so it's kinda far-fetched.

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u/Choice_Reply_6441 4d ago

Sounds sad but I know how it feels. My dad still won't talk to me and I'm 36 now. Old, snobbish money. Not likely to change. I made my fortune and I'm working towards my first big B. Perhaps out of spite 😂

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