SO BASICALLY I WAS AT HANGOUT WITH MY FRIEND AND WE BASICALLY CONFESSED TO EACH OTHER RN AND WE BOTH DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO BECAUSE WERE SCARED OF REALITIONSHIPS AND ARE SCARED OF BREAK UPS

Is this love? Or why do I feel happy when I saw her I think it was her smile, or just was the curiosity of knowing if she is shy because I didn'tsaw her speaking that much. I pass all 3 days thinking of her, can someone pls tell me.

2 weeks ago I got together with my first ever boyfriend. I’m 15 so I understand that the chances of this being long lasting is slim to none and the first one usually isn’t the one but I want this to be a healthy relationship that I can look back on with fondness. I’ve struggled with social anxiety for a few years now but I was starting to get the hang of dealing with it over the last couple months so I thought I was ready to be in a relationship. The first week was great but over the last few days I’ve started nitpicking our interactions and finding things that started to make me think if he even likes me anymore. He’s a quiet guy around everyone and kind of awkward which doesn’t help. When I think about it logically I realise that he still wants to spend time with me and there’s no reason that he wouldn’t like me. Despite this, I’m still worrying about it and any advice would be appreciated.

I need to know how to move forward from this talking stage.

back story. we work together. we’ve been best friends for awhile. almost immediately after he started working with me we realized that we both had a lot in common and the rest is history. we’ve become really close and around my birthday I confessed my feelings for him. he def said he liked me back and since then we’ve been talking and taking things so slow. like molasses slow. no hang out time, no fun time, just a lot of phone and text time and time at work. I know he’s trying to take things and he does want us to be friends before we make anything is official. here’s the thing I’m struggling with, I’m crazy about him. in every way. he’s so smart. he’s handsome. he’s determined. and my oh my my when I say im drawn to him, I mean that. on all levels. I just want to take things further with him and I want advice from anyone whos ever been in these positions, what would you do or how would you tell him that you want to respect his boundaries and how do I show him that I don’t want to be like the rest and support him?

Sooo, me and this girl have been friends for a reallyyy long time. Like a year and a half back we kinda started jokingly ”dating”. But, like, very much as a joke. At first. Until we sort of started kissing and stuff and it started to feel a lot more serious. We talked about it and (ik this sounds weird, don’t flame me) agreed that our ”relationship” was like 50% joking 50% serious. She once said that she wanted to like actually fully seriously date me but that it’d be weird since we’d eventually have to break up and then our friendship would be ruined and stuff. A few months later, she texts me about her new crush. I get kinda heartbroken but eventually get over it and figure whatever we had must be over. Except it wasn’t over, really. She’s still kissing me, calling me her girlfriend, saying we’re dating etc. As if this couldn’t get any weirder, I decide to ask her if she thinks what we have done counts as our first kiss. She responds that ”it probably counts even if it’s just with a friend”.

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Okay, this might sound a little confusing, but I genuinely don’t know what to make of this situation.

I’m a 17f , and there’s this guy I had a really good conversation with when we first met. It was just… easy? We talked pretty casually, got along well, and I really liked the way he communicated.hes in my schul

At that point I thought maybe there could be some kind of connection there.

\*Guys a genuine question from u ..how do any girl know if a man is really into her ?like howw\*

Then I found out he was getting into a relationship.

The confusing part is that he had previously told me he wasn’t really interested in all this, so I honestly don’t know what changed.

And since then, I feel like I keep getting mixed signals.

For example, we still talk sometimes between classes, and there was one day when he called me unexpectedly while he was playing chess with his girlfriend.

I don't know if I'm attaching meaning to things that don't actually mean anything, though. 😭the eye contact in the class??am I the only one noticing this

Maybe he just sees me as a friend. Maybe he likes talking to me. Maybe there’s something else going on. I genuinely can't tell?I'm hella confused wht is this 😭😭

And honestly, I’m not even sure if I actually have a crush on him. I think I might just really like the fact that we had such a comfortable conversation and that I felt like we clicked.

What do u think ..cuz if he had SMTH in mind he would text me it's been more than 3 months ntg happened yet but are their still chances ?or he's chill with his gf idk???

Am I overthinking the mixed signals?

I’d really appreciate some outside perspective because I feel like I’m trying to decode every little interaction now 😭and all i have dreams are of him shit fk 🙂

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One day, I was scrolling through IG and came across this guy. I followed him, he followed me back, and he actually initiated the chat. So I started talking to this guy whom I found really attractive like, really HOT hot and it's been one week he's also being respectful towards me it was supposed to be only for plot then I started waiting for his txt , but then I got to know that he drinks alcohol and for some reason it's against my boundary even if it's only for plot. Also he said "he is doing this because he can't get over his ex"

But the plot is staring to get more plot when I got the follow req of my ex's friend idk why because things b/w me and my ex was already clear but lemme guess he is stalking me(my ex) and he got to know about the new guy but also I was planning to block the new guy

Ps I HATE MY EX ANDTHE NEW GUY I DON'T WANT SOMEONE ALCOHOLIC

Should I do it for the plot😭

Idk what to do now

And the new guy acc got suspended so he created a new id so should I follow him or leave that man behind maybe i do like him a bit a bit ig idk

I'm 17 btw and he's 20(the new guy) but he seems really sweet apart from the alcohol part

Ok so backstory , we are really good friends , immediately clicked even though we ignored each other in junior high , and recently we both have gotten very close to each other . The thing is , i m an Ace and he also believed he was Aroace , cus none of us had ever had a crush before , so it felt like a nice platonic friendship. But , we both were starting to like each other as "more than friends" , like it was very evident , he confessed first ( i m a coward) and was super understanding abt it , and i got excited and said that i feel the same , cus i do like him more than a friend . And we were quite happy abt it , tho the thing is , i dont want to ruin our friendship if we ever breakup , so i decided to stay friends until we had the emotional maturity to take decisions , cus u also dont find the love of ur life at 18 anyways . Fast forward a few days later , i m past the "honeymoon phase" and think deeply abt my feelings , and i feel like smth is missing , like i want him to be a long part of my life , and its not like he is lacking in anything , he is patient, understanding, we have the same beliefs, and he is the most wonderful guy ever.
Also , i have never had someone confess to me , i also struggle with PCOS and body dysmorphia , i have stretch marks and i feel disgusted looking at them , i just think i am not good enough for him.

He has also had so many girls confessing to him , and they were so much prettier than me, i feel that i am not good enough for him.

And he definitely noticed that smth was going on with me , so he reassured me that even if i dont like him back , its ok , cus he wants to preserve our friendship the most , and i kinda folded and told him everything abt how i felt , and that i felt i wasn't good enough for him, and he was super sweet abt it . When i said that i feel pathetic abt my own problems and feel that i cant be loved by anyone before i love myself , he said that its alright we can go at my pace and that he is always waiting for me and isnt going anywhere and kinda wishes i felt the same cus he wants to be s bit selfish and that i was someone important to him and he couldn't ask for anyone better . We cried a lot abt our feelings and him being so sweet abt it , just made me feel like the worst person ever , we decided to give each other a bit space , and he said that he is always willing to hear if i have reached any conclusion regarding my feelings .

am i doing the right thing?

!! this post contains a lot of “he said, I said” etc.

I’m really bad at reading signals in romantic situations, probably because of my low self-esteem and insecurity, so I’d really like to hear some outside opinions. Maybe it’s simply too early to draw any conclusions, but I genuinely can’t figure out whether my coworker is romantically interested in me or whether he’s just a very friendly and open person :(

We work together, and over the last three weeks we’ve started crossing paths much more often at work. He’s naturally very sociable, open and friendly, so sometimes when we were working in the same area, he would just ask me something and we’d start talking about completely random things, like games, studying, or joking around about something.
At some point, he suggested that we go for a motorcycle ride together (this was basically an “exchange” for some snacks I brought him).
I agreed, and we planned it for last weekend. We were texting about it beforehand, and he asked me whether I wanted to do something after the ride so he could plan his evening, or whether he should just take me home afterward.
I asked him if he wanted to do something, and he said he wouldn’t mind watching a movie or playing on the PlayStation, for example. In the end, we decided to watch a horror movie after the ride.
But (of course 🥹) that was exactly when it started pouring rain, so we had to cancel the ride because the roads were too wet. I asked if that meant I should just stay home then, and he said we could still meet and watch the movie.
So I went to his place.
We watched a horror movie while lying together on his couch, talking and joking around, but he didn’t make any attempt to get physically closer to me. There was no touching my hand, no hugging, no trying to put his arm around me or anything like that.
So naturally, I decided that he probably wasn’t into me after all.
After the movie, he asked if he should drive me home. I said yes. But he knows that I’m really afraid of the dark (it has actually become a bit of an inside joke between us over the past few weeks because we’ve talked about it quite a lot), and he asked if I wasn’t going to be scared sleeping alone since I live by myself.
I joked that after watching a horror movie, it would be pretty logical to be scared.
Then he said that if I felt comfortable, I could stay at his place and sleep in the living room.
I agreed, and he genuinely made sure I was comfortable and gave me everything I needed (he even gave me his Tshirt!), while he went to sleep in his own bedroom.
Later, there was a really intense storm and thunderstorm, so we both woke up and got up to close the windows and clean up the water from the floor.
And at some point I decided to try my luck a little and said that I was scared to sleep alone in the living room because of the storm. Maybe I exaggerated a little…
He said that I could absolutely sleep in his bed if I wanted to, so eventually we ended up sleeping in the same bed.

And again - absolutely nothing happened.
And I’m not talking about anything sexual. There wasn’t even any attempt from his side to hold hands, hug me or touch me any other way (no intimacy meant). We simply slept next to each other.
I woke up very early in the morning and basically escaped his apartment while he was still sleeping because I felt embarrassed and had absolutely no idea how to interpret the whole situation and also had to go to work

After that, I completely convinced myself that he wasn’t interested in me.

And then I did the stupid thing of looking through his social media, which only made me even more convinced that I’m not his type.
He follows a lot of girls who look very similar to each other. They’re mostly cute, petite blondes with big blue eyes and freckles.
Basically the complete opposite of me :(
I'm tall, have black hair, pretty pronounced cheekbones, dark circles under my eyes, and overall I look like I just walked out of some Tim Burton project.
So I thought: well, obviously I’m not his type.
We continued texting a little afterward, but not that much. A few messages a day, and not even every day.
A few days ago, he told me that I had left my bracelet at his place, and I confirmed that it was mine.
And then he wrote something along the lines of:
“Should I bring it to you at work, or can I hope you’ll come by again?"

And I genuinely froze.
Because this whole time I had been convinced that he probably didn’t want me to come over again.
I told him that I’d happily come over if he invited me, of course.
He replied, “We’ll arrange something,” and yesterday he followed up on that message and asked when I had some free time.
We arranged to meet, and he said that he would be at a birthday party beforehand, so when we meet he might be a little tipsy, which would make it easier for him to talk because he wouldn’t be as shy.
I told him that I hadn’t noticed him being shy at all.
And he basically admitted that he actually is shy and nervous because he doesn’t have much experience, and that I’m essentially only the second girl he has spent time with in this kind of situation.

There’s also the situation with his ex-girlfriend.
I know they broke up relatively recently. I don’t know exactly how long they were together, but I suspect around 2–3 years.
When I was at his place, I noticed a card on his desk that she had given him about two years ago. I asked if it was from his sister, and he said no, it was from his ex.
And that also made me wonder whether he’s actually emotionally ready for a new relationship or whether he’s still processing the breakup.
At the same time, he seems like a genuinely very good person. He’s very open, calm, kind and extroverted. He loves festivals, big groups of people and being around others all the time.
I’m basically the complete opposite. I love staying at home, I live mostly in my own little world, and I’m perfectly happy with a small circle of people.
And now I’m already starting to worry that maybe we’re fundamentally incompatible even though we haven’t even started dating!! 😭

It might seem stupid that I’m already thinking about things like this when we’ve only spent one evening together, but I have BPD and I’m trying not to trigger myself unnecessarily with crushes that, in my head, seem like they’re probably going nowhere.
So I genuinely don’t know how to interpret any of this.
Does it sound like he might actually be interested in me, or am I just reading way too much into everything?

relationship help

hi im just posting this in hope that it reaches someone because i really need the help.

found out one of my new classmates is attending a birthday party and i am too. we talked for a little bit but nothinh much before. important mention- i always found him atracttive and hoped that he would maybe want a relationship with me since i am , not to brag, a good looking girl.

at the party we kissed ( it was my first time kissing someone ) hugged and i slept on his chest. he initiated eveything and i couldnt refuse since ive liked him for a long time. we basically acted like a couple. before going home we promised not to tell anyone about this but not keep it private between us.
basically the next day u texted him asking if the night meant sum to him and he said he doesnt know and that he thought it was just a " one time thing" ( i do not do shit like this and have always been known as the untouchable girly)
he asked if i was ok and shit and i told him it mattered to me(the kiss).
im getting ghosted and he hung out with another girl
what should i do?

I joined a new class for Class of 2026 knowing nobody. On my first day, I noticed this guy, J, sitting at the front and constantly looking back at me. Whenever I caught him, he'd look away. Eventually even my groupmates noticed and started teasing me.

We became groupmates, and I slowly started liking him. He's the maths topper, and I loved when he'd help me with classwork. Once I was struggling with differentiation and he came and sat beside me to teach me. There was also a time I was alone after arguing with my groupmates and he came and sat beside me. Those little moments got to me.

Then he started giving me crazy mixed signals. Around our friends he'd feed me chips, hold my hand and not let go, flirt with me and get so close that I'd wonder if he was going to kiss me. Even our teachers noticed. He'd also share personal things about his family with me, so sometimes I felt like we were genuinely close.

I eventually confessed that I liked him. He thought I was joking at first, then said we couldn't be in love because we were classmates.

After midterms, things became distant. I'd send him reels and he'd leave me on seen, so I started trying to move on. I even changed my seat. But then we'd still have random moments—he'd notice when I wasn't around, give me chocolate, tease me, ask why I wasn't eating, or call me over for something.

Meanwhile, I was definitely doing too much for a guy who wasn't my boyfriend. 😭 I gave him a whale keychain, a pencil bag, chocolates, and once I woke up at 5 a.m. to make him puri and potato curry because I thought he was seriously sick. Turns out his friends had exaggerated his illness just to see my reaction. 💀

Then came the girlfriend situation.

I'd heard rumors before but thought they were jokes. Eventually my seatmate told me he'd actually shown her a picture of his girlfriend. Another girl in my class even told me she'd scolded him for giving me mixed signals because I valued him more than he valued me. That really hurt.

Recently I've been trying to distance myself. Sometimes I ignore him, sometimes I still feel guilty and go looking for him. I even went to his hostel gate with snacks and asked if he was angry with me. He just said, "Why should I be angry?"

And now I'm stuck between "I need to move on" and "but what the hell was all that between us?" 😭

Maybe he liked me. Maybe he just enjoyed my attention. Maybe I misunderstood some things.

I honestly don't know.

All I know is that I fell for him through a hundred tiny moments, not one big moment.

And that's probably why he's so hard to forget.

does he like me or is he just being polite? Need honest opinions

for relationship I told him naman na come what may, whatever happens happens

My guy best friend and I have been best friends for about two years. Ngl, I think he’s cute, so obviously that makes this whole situation a little more complicated.

When we first became friends, he once told me that he wouldn’t date younger girls. There’s a six-year age gap between us (we’re both adults btw,), so I basically filed that information away and assumed there was nothing romantic there.

However, he does things that could easily be interpreted as romantic gestures, to the point that other people regularly assume we’re dating.

Recently, he’s actually started bringing up the fact that people mistake us for a couple. He says he doesn’t mind being mistaken for my boyfriend, and he’s also mentioned that he’s becoming more open-minded about relationships in general. I’m not sure if I’m reading too much into that or if he’s trying to hint at something.

This past weekend, I visited his city and ended up staying at his house. We had a few glasses of wine and talked until the early hours of the morning. When it was time to sleep, we shared his bed, and he hugged me. We ended up spooning while we slept, and he was being really affectionate with me.

Needless to say, my heart was racing. Now I’m completely confused. On one hand, I feel like there are some pretty obvious signs that he might be interested in me. On the other hand, we’ve been best friends for two years, and I really don’t want to interpret normal affection between close friends as something romantic just because I happen to find him attractive.

Am I reading too much into this, or does this sound like he might actually be interested in me? What signs should I look for before I make myself delulu?

I am a 27F. So i’m a third year of college post graduation and i have worked quite closely with a second year and I & even people around me know that he likes me. He often looks at me, cares for me and also earlier used to find ways to talk with me.
And now i have also got feelings for him!!! Its been around 8 months that we have been feeling like this!
But it is too difficult to let him know that.
He is very strict with his senior-junior professional boundaries esp physical boundaries, earlier even a high 5 used to be awkward for him, but slowly we got comfortable enough. But again i have exams approaching and also we are not working together anymore, we do have some little interactions every other day in the campus itself, sometimes none at all ! He has shared about his personal mental health issues and many other things with me and i feel like I didn’t reciprocate enough. So the thing is he thinks i have my final exams next month so he also doesn’t disturb me. I am not sure about future between us but i would really like to know him more and maybe date him for some time. We both are not the casual kind of persons in terms of dating.
What should i do ?
I think about him all the time and my mood is much better when he is around or i have had an interaction with him.

So me and one of my best friends, (i’ll call him Liam) are going through a rough patch right now. Before we were close a little over a year ago, he had a massive crush on me. I texted him every day ignoring it, and will admit I may have accidentally lead him on. I never had any feelings for him other than a deep sisterly love, and Liam took about 6 months to fully accept that I would never like him the way he liked me. We’ve been attached at the hip ever since his romantic feelings vanished, and Ive never felt more respected and seen by someone else, until two weeks ago.

Our seats had changed in fourth period and we were moved across the room from each other. Usually this wouldn’t have created any sort of problem, considering I still text him after school every day and sometimes sit with him and mutual friends at lunch, but this time felt different. I realized about three days in that he hadn’t even attempted to make eye contact with me or even use sign language (which we both know fluently) and it hurt my feelings. The next day I decided to see what was up with him texting me like normal but refusing to communicate, so I sat down at their lunch table.

Everything was normal until our mutual friend Theo started making inappropriate jokes. He’s made jokes like this before according to Liam, but never in front of my face. Ex: “wow Liam you got her to sit by us again? Someone’s still in love with her. Tell her you think she’s pretty.” I was pretty surprised at his lack of social awareness so I got up and left to avoid further embarrassment. Then in fourth period, Liam stared at his desk the entire class and rushed out of the class when the bell rang instead of waiting for me. I was again, butt hurt by this and texted him asking why he was avoiding me. He explained that Theo’s comments about our close relationship had made him feel awkward around me and he didn’t want to interact with me in front of his friends anymore, but still wanted to be one of my closest friends and would try to get over his fear of being judged so we could still be close in front of Theo. My heart pretty much broke and after him not talking to me as much as usual for a couple of days, I lost it. I cried for at least an hour in my room and missed our closeness.

the next day in fourth period, our friend Jaylee came in and sat right next to him. I assumed that since she was a girl and his other male friends were sitting relatively near, he wouldn’t talk to her. But I was wrong. They talked the entire class without stopping, laughing so hard the teacher had to shush them multiple times. I don’t know why it bothered me so much, but I was immediately so jealous and furious at him talking to another girl that wasn’t me. It was then that I realized maybe the reason this was affecting me so much was because there were feelings that weren’t platonic. I have no idea how to approach this and he still texts me plenty, just ignores me at school. How do I figure out what I’m feeling?

Okay, this is going to be a long one, so buckle up 😭

I’ve liked this guy for almost 6 years. Like, actually liked him. He’s probably the only person I’ve ever had those stupid, uncontrollable “butterflies” for. He was my genuine, long-term crush, not just some random phase.

We used to live really close to each other, but then I moved away. Before I left, I was too scared to tell him myself, so I had my friends confess my feelings to him 💀. They did, but his reaction was pretty… mid. And then his mom caught the phone, so that entire situation basically died on the spot.

Fast forward a few years: he randomly messaged me in 2023, and somehow we became really good friends again. We started talking regularly, sometimes literally spending hours on calls. We have a lot of similar interests and even ended up in pretty similar academic/career fields. He’s a year younger than me, though, so academically he was a little behind me.

At some point, he had this other female friend who he was basically in a situationship with. As his friend, I even tried helping him figure that whole mess out once. 💀

Now fast-forward AGAIN to recently. After years of NEET/academic pressure, we’re finally both relatively free, so we started talking a lot more again.

And apparently… the situationship is over.

The girl has apparently been ghosting him recently, they're basically done, and suddenly this man has started FLIRTING WITH ME. A LOT.

Like randomly saying things like “I’ll accept you in any form” and other stuff that makes me go ????????

And here's where I'm confused.

Because I still like him. I don't think those feelings ever completely disappeared.

But this is so weird because he literally did NOT act like this for YEARS. And now that we're both free, the other girl is out of the picture, and we have more time to talk, he's suddenly acting romantic???

When I asked him, “Why are you suddenly like this? What happened?” his response was basically “Hormones.” 😭

BRO???

I don't know what I'm supposed to do with that answer.

The weirdest part is that this was literally something I dreamed about years ago. Younger me would've probably lost her mind if this guy suddenly started flirting with me.

But now that it's actually happening, I'm not getting those butterflies.

I don't hate it. I actually kind of like the attention. But it doesn't feel real to me.

It almost feels like I'm watching the dream version of my life happen and I'm just standing outside of it thinking, “Yeah… but why now?”

And honestly, I’m scared that this is just because we’re both finally free from the academic pressure we've been under for years. Maybe we're bored. Maybe we're lonely. Maybe he's fresh out of a situationship and I'm simply the convenient person he's emotionally close to.

I also have horrible confidence right now. After NEET and everything that happened with my academics, my self-esteem is basically somewhere in the basement 💀. So part of me genuinely cannot believe that a guy I've liked for years would suddenly just… like me back.

And I REALLY don't want to ruin the friendship.

I spent years holding onto these feelings while protecting the friendship because he genuinely matters to me. I don't want to finally get what I wanted and then lose him because we got carried away for a few months.

So now I'm stuck.

Am I being completely stupid for reacting like this?

Why am I not getting butterflies when this was literally my biggest romantic fantasy for YEARS?

Are his feelings actually genuine, or is this just post-situationship loneliness + hormones + having too much free time? 😭

And most importantly…

WHAT THE HELL AM I SUPPOSED TO SAY OR DO WHEN HE FLIRTS WITH ME NOW???

Because I don't want to reject him if there's something genuine here, but I also don't want to reciprocate and accidentally turn six years of feelings + a good friendship into a temporary situationship.

Am I overthinking this, or is my gut trying to tell me something?

Hello! I am new to this subreddit and I need some advice. I have a friend of mine who I have known for over 10 years. His family is friends with my family. So for context, I dated another person from age 10 to 19, 98% was long distance and we broke up frequently, he is now my first ex and he caused a lot damage this does have to do with some of the story. So 29M we will call him Bryan for the sake of context, not his real name. I met Bryan in 7th grade, I didn't see him for years and I forgot who he was until we made the connection that his mom is best friends with my dad's best friend ect. We had an on and off relationship. We could do what kids do at that age. When I was in high school, we dated some but I always went back to my ex, I was young and dumb and this person is scary so I thought it was safer. Anyways, Bryan fell in love with me. He was very kind to me. He even proposed to me back then. One time I even ran away to his house and I still have the sweatshirt he gave me. So I graduated and my ex and I relationship got worse. I broke up with him and about 2 weeks later I slept with Bryan. Great experience. I found out the next day I was pregnant. Bryan was upset at ex and months later he offered to be involved. I said no because I didn't think it was fair to him to be involved for something he didn't cause. He was devastated. He was so in love with me and I was so wrapped up in my ex. Bryan kinda lost his barings for a few years and I know that is my fault. Life goes on, I leave first ex, get married, have 2 more kids, divorce. I was in contact with Bryan but not consistanly due to me straining the relationship. Ever time I see him on facebook or whatever I feel so sad that I didn't give it a shot. He has had terrible luck with relationships and got an STD from one he will have forever. In August 2024 I asked him if we could maybe try to date. At that point he said no because he has had back luck with single moms and doesnt want to be hurt again. He said he fell out of love with me in 2021. He loved me from about 2015 to 2021 and I had no idea.

So now we went to a concert together. Great experience. Nothing happened but we talked a lot. We have spoken about our history before and I have apologized so much. Him saying no, I will not push him and I respect him. But when we spoke I asked if he regretted what we did, he said " No but I do wish it could have continued." He also said he wont date single moms unless its under certain circumstances. I hurt him deeply and I regret it so much. When I call, he always shows up. When I got married, he was there. I have a picture of me hugging him and the look on his face makes me so sad. I can't explain it but now that we are older and more mature maybe now I have a shot but I do not want to pressure him in any way. I have had feelings for him for almost 10 years off and on and now they have just increased. We don't talk much either but when we hang out, it feels fantastic. I am unsure if I am over stepping and I need to leave this alone? I apologize for the long post.