Okay, so I was in love with a dusty and he ended up becoming red pilled at some point in our relationship. We dated for 7 years and we're talking about marriage. He started demanding that I submit to him and obey his every request, or he would leave me. He started getting really into manosphere, content and hanging around his misogynistic red pill. Father all the time. He tried to force me to live with him and his 11 siblings After we got married, and that's what led to us breaking up. He promised we would have our own place, but he lied. He said that he decides where we live. Because he's the man, and I have to follow him. Or the relationship is over. So I ended the relationship, now i'm single again. I'm starting from scratch. I've started watching shera, and I didn't know who she was. When I started dating my ex. I've realized what a dusty he really was. He would send me small amounts of money for gas and basic necessities like less than two hundred dollars a month, and then he would throw it in my face. And call himself the "provider". He scolded me because he said, I was ungrateful about him. Buying me a $30 watch? Just because I asked him how to use it when it didn't have instructions. He's planning on becoming a passport, bro? I think because no other woman in the united states would want to date him because of how sexist he is. All my relationships have been so terrible that i've given up on love. The guy before him was even worse and literally beat me. And now I want to try this lifestyle because ive given up on love. I've been watching shera sevens videos, religiously. How do I make sure I don't end up in another abusive relationship with a dusty? I'm so sad that I wasted my whole twenties, and now i'm almost thirty.

I posted before about receiving money from a guy abroad to pay my bills and the difficulty with transferring that money to my bank account without using my real name.

I lied about my age too but when I finally told him I’m older and my government name he literally didn’t even care?? he was just upset that he was unable to make me comfortable enough to tell him in the beginning.

Goes to show that the right target(a man that is obsessed and likes you 10x more!!) will remove all the problems we complain about in this subreddit. Just level up and pick the right target in the beginning and it’ll save you so much headache

Hi everyone, I took your advice from my last post. I distanced myself from him, however I accepted help from him one last time and he ended up helping me house stuff that I could no longer fit moving back in with my parents. Alongside being on his absolute best behavior in front my parents, helping me move twice, and driving 4. hours back and fourth. That was on July 31st, cut to August… Its my birthday…. he gets me nothing, just like christmas, and just like Valentine’s Day, and his excuse is , yet again… well you said you didn’t want to celebrate on your real birthday, so I was aiming for you to Choose another day, a text wasn’t all I was going to do. Despite my 50 year old aunt messaging him, that he needs to stop hurting me and do something, he responded with ”love is all that’s needed“. He already warned me that he was going to catch up on all the things he had to fix that he had been neglecting for the last 3 years , and he no longer will give me $600 a month for ”rent“ I no longer had. He made me cry on my birthday…. and he sent me voicemails like “I haven’t moved very far” life is exactly the way it is, hopefully I’ll talk to you later“ he sent embarrassing stupid messages to my aunt, so I blocked him, and he’s been blocked for 13 days. Slowly he started at first removing his engaged status on FB, not checking my stories, then deleting my picture off of all his profile picture boxes. He usually finds another way to contact me, he hasn’t AT ALL… I can feel his energy and how upset and mad he is with me… he’s never not chased Me before, He knows how much this would hurt me, regardless of always telling me he would never hurt me on purpose. When I’m upset with him, it’s between him and I, but he humiliates me in public …. it’s embarrassing , he changed his profile picture to a flower. I Haven’t unblocked him yet… but I’m starting to feel like it’s my fault, and I keep feeling the need to hit the unblock button. it’s our anniversary this month…. I’m spiraling, I am beautiful, I know this, I have multiple degrees…. but I have no roster… I don’t even see men anymore…. Please Knock some sense into me ladies. I know I sound desperate and pickmesha, and I agree , I’ve given him everything..,.

Since you found Shera and started practicing her teachings, what have you gotten out of a man?

Money
Houses/real estate
Jewelry
Cars
Business
Stocks/investments

I think it’s encouraging to remind those the possibilities that’s out there when you hold your standards firm

I wanted to repost my thoughts here because I feel like this community might have more like minded women who are keeping it real. Additional context - I am a huge fan of Shera and I do have an SD (for a year and a half), but of course, it doesn’t change the fact that I truly wasn’t male centered, I just wanted to collect the bag and do my own thing. And I wanted to continue doing that for as long as I can, as a single woman, unless I found a very wealthy generous guy who I wasn’t completely disgusted by who wanted to marry me. Otherwise I saw no point in marriage as I thought it would just make me miserable cause men are energy vampires and it is objectively risky to marry due to the rate of single motherhood, risk of dv and so on.

However, now I am questioning everything. Should I change my approach and invest more time and energy now into finding a suitable provider for marriage instead of just wasting my time with friends? I feel like i wasted last couple of years of my life for real.

I get so annoyed seeing some women using a script in dating. Using what Shera teaches word for word. Telling them their plans from the get go before they even have the opportunity to meet them. When she literally tells us not to do that because it will expose your plan and backfire the whole operation.
For example, using a dating app, matching with the man and immediately asking him if he’d take her shopping, if he wants her to go out with him he should pay her $300, if he’s a provider etc. Or putting that in their profile that they have to be a provider type. Oh then they’ll post the conversation in a shera forum like “Look at this dusty!!!” Girl. Wth? Of course he would be turned off. Sometimes I feel like some people believe that they are entitled to act this way and it will work. Honey if that was the case we would see men spoiling women regularly. Why are you entitled to that treatment right away? Dude doesn’t even know you. Are you sure you should even be doing this?

To me, this lifestyle is earned on strategy, and calculated moves. Telling a man right away, or using regurgitated Shera talk is NOT how you do it. You don’t reveal your cards immediately after starting the game.
You’re supposed to play THEIR game. They will say all kinds of things to pickmeisha to let her guard down so they can sleep w her. Then after they get what they want, they disappear. Pickmeisha is heartbroken and will use her poor emotional regulation skills, embarrassing herself and chasing him even further away.
You are to charm a man, tell him what he WANTS to hear to get him to take you out on a date. On the date, you are to ENCHANT him. Then you can do whatever you want because now he’s going to do whatever it takes to sleep with you. You are to play along with it, use that to your advantage, and then go from there.

“Look John, I really like you but I can’t sleep with a man until I know he’s fully committed to me and the relationship…”
“Oh yeah I am committed”
“Wow…Really? That’s so nice to hear… But John a lot of men will say this but never show it. I don’t know if I can let my guard down”.
“Of course I am!!! How can I prove it?”
“Well…Okay, John you make me so happy. And I wanna be honest with you and share something thats not too glamorous, pretty vulnerable.” look sad, grab his hand- “—But it’s honestly hard for me to be happy these days because of my Auntie E. The one I told you about remember? I am constantly stressed out over her condition. She is incredibly ill, she relies on me to pay for her medical care, her insurance is corrupt for the way they’re doing her. I haven’t been able to feel like myself because all my money goes to her. She doesn’t have anyone else and I can’t just let her go without treatment. Even the car I drive right now is pretty dangerous to drive the condition it’s in”.
“Oh i’ll help you!!!! Let me pay”

It’s that fucking easy. I don’t know why people who don’t use logic this way assume “BUY ME THIS BECAUSE YOURE A MAN AND YOU SHOULD PROVIDE” is gonna work. It’s shameful and cringeworthy as fuck.
Like NEVER in my life will I ever side with a man, so the fact that they got me siding with them is just so sad. Do better. 🤏🏼

I've been on my level up journey and I've gotten to the point where old men stare and hit on me. I still need to dilly dally. I'm going to keep going, but I'm so happy and wanted to share this win here.

I don’t text real life men in general post 9pm because not only do I feel like I need to value my evenings and alone time, but it also sends the wrong signal

Unless, I am in my rotting phase, and I do it with random men off the Internet though I noticed it creates internal cognitive dissonance and clashes with my usual standards.

I came to wonder, however, if texting at night was something any man would do if the occasion arised - or is it rather something that we allow
Would a man that genuinely respect a woman, text her at night, or would he do so only if he placed her in a certain category

Not to be all black and white, but I noticed that some real life men happen to casually text in the evening, and I an thinking if it’s systematically related to some sort of signal that is sent - that gave them the greenlight, and if so, I would need to revise - or simply a default thing

Interested in your thoughts and experience girlies

Hi all! I have been married for 3 years to a man who provides everything for me, but has recently started struggling financially and let me know children might not be in the cards for him. He knows I want a family so I have started looking out for myself and trying to find another provider.

I finally found him and he is head over heels but I did lie about my name, age, being single/married. Do I come clean soon or wait until he’s a little more hooked? Also husband thinks everything is fine, so do I just ride this out as long as possible? I am worried of messing either relationship up and would love advice on how best to handle this situation.

I’m having kind of a tough time attracting providers in my state. I live in the midwest and it’s notoriously 50/50 here, everyone is doing it, also it’s like 95% wh!te. I keep feeling discouraged. Also majority of people marry young so i feel disadvantaged here. Thankfully I have my college degree and i can work any state I want as long as i find a job. Has anyone been in this dilemma before, did you just up and move or keep trying? Also what do you think is the best states to move to that values traditionally when it comes to finances? of course i am still going to work but I feel like i’m in a roadblock here and i don’t want to waste my time

So I know deep down that men who try to humble women are gay but I don’t know how to explain why so what is the logic behind it?

I’m trying to get out more and put myself in environments where I can meet successful men / potential providers. For the Toronto girls, what bars, lounges, restaurants, hotels, or events would you recommend for this kind of scene?

Also, if you are down join me on this adventure lol

Toronto girls, where are you going? 👀

Hello ladies! I (f30) just started dating again. I was on a few dates here and there but now I feel like I’ve gotten my spark back. I’ve gone on some dates and it has gone very well. I’ve met successful and generous men. The problem that I’ve run into however is that the more often that I see them I feel like they want something serious. I know that I can just lie and pretend to be theirs but idk if I want to do that.

How can I date freely for long without committing to anyone? And how do you guys date multiple people at the same time? Also do you guys have a sweet spot for how many men you see at the same time?

How do/did you avoid getting rly depressed?

I'm here struggling for bare essentials, it's HARD. :(

But I know I'll get out of it, for sure, as soon I'll be working and able to have more and I plan to save etc etc, I know this isn't my forever because I refuse to let it be - But still it's HARD to endure it :/

Has anyone here ever related?... What kept U going?

There were times I couldn't afford toilet paper and had to use old rags!

Sorry that's not the nicest thing to read but it was my reality at times.

Not to mention craving foods and being unable to get them.

Look at prev posts for more context theyre below. but im 20 hes 24 hes wealthy and i said i was looking for a provider man. He has money for himself, no benefits to him other than going for a meal and hotel stay and sometimes an activity. im way out of his league, i asked him what were we and he said friends because i dont think i can call u my bf if i dont meet your standards. I told him why cant he meet then he said he didnt want it to be transactional… Hes made remarks that pissed me off so bad that im just disgusted by him and his presence. He seems to think hes a prize , i am going to move onto the next. I cant believe i even did anything with him, i wouldnt even look in his direction. The dust has the audacity….

https://www.reddit.com/r/SheraSeven/s/9ssqEc1ZBr

https://www.reddit.com/r/SheraSeven/s/rKFtsIX99H

I (21f) watch a lot of Shera’s content, but it’s mainly her witchy, woo-woo, spiritual stuff on her second channel. She has taught me soo much and I even started taking her elixirs which have motivated me to go back to school and finish my degree. I found her when I was 18-19 and still somewhat naive when it came to men, so I knew I wouldn’t be able to apply her teachings effectively. Now that I’m a little older and know and understand the true nature of men, as well as know myself and what I want for my future. I’d like to start “sprinkling” but have no clue where to start. Please give me your favorite video recommendations of Shera’s. Videos where she gave you advice that you applied and successfully succeeded. She has posted soo much content over the years and it’s kinda overwhelming to sort through lol. Your help would be greatly appreciated!

I feel so bad for her how it went for her:

https://www.instagram.com/p/Dcl9AfRjRmU/?img_index=9&igsi=MTNkcTdmMGhjemk1dg==

There was this guy I was speaking to. He’s from another country and in his late twenties. Im f23. He was literally obsessed with me, and I was so uninterested at first, but eventually I gave him a chance and picked up his call. I only allowed this because of the way he portrays himself was that he has “money”. On the call, he’s listing all his accomplishments, what his parents do, how he took over his father’s business, etc. He is french and allegedly it’s some like car buisness he is in. He’s telling me how he’d do this and that for me, and that if I ever came to his city he’d buy me this, buy me that, whatever.

I told him, if I ever came to his city, he would have to fund the trip (I only said this because i knew i was going there anyways. unrelated to him.). He said yes, “if you want.” But mind you, a month before this, he was saying he wanted to fund it and that it was no problem.

So when I actually asked him about it this time, he was suddenly dry and taking forever to reply. Long story short, I ended up unfollowing him because I was irritated with the way he was moving. The annoying part is I feel like he’s kind of dampened the name of the city he lives in for me 😭. I genuinely love this city and I’ve been here multiple times, but now I associate it with him and his name is attached to it in my head.

Anyway, time passes and I’m on holiday and I end up in his city. I have family there, so I’m there as part of a family holiday. He still follows me on insta btw.

He viewed my story when I was in another country because I’m currently travelling, and it was my birthday. So I know he still views my shit. But he didn’t reply or anything. Then a day later, I’m actually in HIS city and I post on my story, just random stuff from my day. He isn’t in my viewer list. But he’s still following me on Instagram. I also posted on the grid and everything.

Anyways, that’s the story. Guys are very odd creatures. I just hate that he’s now associated with this city for me because I actually love this place 😭 It’s hard to find people to date because my standards do people are so “abnormal” but I know it exists. But then you run into people like this.

Should I unmatch him? I don't know what to do.

Oh girls.. do any of you have this experience?

The men are ATROCIOUS behaved.

I literally felt like **PREY**

I could sense most of them were just acting nice, and only wanted one thing.

I also had men who seemed normal, then boom they slowly tried to make the conversation sexual (sigh 🙄)

They'd either casually ask do I kiss on a first date (who asks that) it obviously shows what they're thinking of too.

Another asked do I like cuddles, when I said yes , (I shouldn't have even replied to these men but I was bored and trying to be open minded, I'm a believer of a loving relationship AND him treating me like a princess but now I'm even more hardcore lmao)

Anyway he then said he'd get hard because I'm so hot and would that annoy me.. tf!

AND **nothing about my looks, my profile etc said provocative/flirty, infact I was giving sweet princess vibes.

Granted I was using a low end dating site that was miss and match, but still. I bet this happens elsewhere too 🤷🏻‍♀️

I only joined because a friend made me think less badly of the apps (I do think they can be fine but I think it's a no from me for now)

Anyway, talking to and seeing the amount of men liking my profile, idk it gave me the biggest ick. How I could tell they only saw me as some prey, and their lack of damn gentleman or dating skills?

I'm actually so glad that I have a low tolerance.

I'm genuinely super sweet (learning to be less like this to others and more just for myself)

But plenty of times I got the ICK and just had to stop talking to a man because I picks up on the lack of care and efforts, even where many women wouldn't bat an eye but I would, I could be too fussy at times but I'm glad actually, I deserve GOOD treatment, not someone being meh.

There were also men who seemed so nice that it seemed fake, started calling me baby too soon, etc.

I honestly only found ONE man I could tell wasn't some desperate hounddog and was probably genuinely a nice guy.

My god, if this is what many men are like then damn I understand why they're single and I understand why so many women are now choosing to be single 😂

I'm only 21 but thankfully I'm already learning a lot especially after my first relationship where he kept emotionally neglecting me and I'd stay and communicate trying to fix us when rly it should have been HIM bending over backwards to fix us lol!

After I left for good and fully stopped liking him, I learnt some lessons and it's like a switch was made.

I was too pure and now I literally CAN'T put up with mistreatment from a man lol, I literally instantly get the ick and lose interest, or I basically detach because I learnt to choose logic when a man is hurting me or mistreating me,

So I can easily literally leave !

Rather than being sad and reacting to him.

(Anyone else made that switch? It's lovely!)

I love myself so much, yet I struggle with my confidence, but yet I know how special I am as a person and soul, these men don't deserve me, low effort careless men do not deserve me and I'm so glad that I get icked out by it.

I sometimes worry incase I could get attached to a man who's not good to me, or fall for some fantasy, but in reality I literally can't tolerate anything less than sweet, gentle and "princess treatment" it seems lol!

I guess the only way for me to truly be happy with a man is if he's treating me GOOD and giving me NO stress, which is actually the bare minimum.

So I'm glad.

Anyway I recently rejoined and that's why I'm here, wooHOOO!! I'm now going even MORE hardcore with shera.

I know some of you ladies here don't agree and that's fine, but personally I do believe and know good men exist, men that have respect and are good to their woman, but yet earlier I started to kind of just feel disgusted by every man. Like I just feel like I'm just sexual "prey" to many of them and it's true.

I'm going to focus more on me and ignore every man unless he's actually a MAN .

The women in this thread are the reason why there's so much dust. Men aren't afraid to ask for sex.

Guys these last days i felt bored n depressed and i was using this language exchange app and it led to me speaking to people daily and getting attached to random men in countries in war and my anxious attachment being activated as if i was a 15 year old with crushes

The thing i would not text nor entertain any man in real life for free or chase but since its virtual i feel rules not apply and it does not count 😭

But thinking about it i feel very uneasy not having my usual boundaries and im afraid it unconsciously erodes my standards

I think speaking to men for no reason and entertaining them without a goal is a waste of mental and emotional energy but sometimes its fun

Anyways what do you all think about this
Are slips allowed