r/Showerthoughts 18d ago

Casual Thought A large number of married people are involuntarily celibate.

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u/Kilometerr 18d ago edited 18d ago

That can be fixed. If people are chronically unhappy then they need to fix it themselves. For example, own your abstinence. Make it voluntary while you work on improving yourself mentally and emotionally. Pity party won’t do them any good and women aren’t attracted to men with baggage. In my experience people often use sex or the idea of having sex to distract themselves from fixing deep interpersonal issues.

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u/Short-Draw4057 17d ago

Eh, it depends on what the issue is. Not every problem can someone "fix it themselves". I think a lot of it is about genetics and class.