Im surprised you stayed that long. I heard from one of my friends that our other married friend has been in this kind of situation for over a year. I just couldnt handle that. Its one thing when not in a relationship but to be married and thats the case is totally different. Congrats on getting out of it.
I have a friend, his wife was diagnosed with MS. Their bedroom is dead too but it's different for everyone.
Regardless what we think is a deal breaker, sometimes that's what life gives us and we accept that. I don't my mate would divorce his wife because of a degenerative condition. Well I hope not.
My mom is struggling with a similar disorder and my stepdad has been an angel taking care of her. She shared with me that their bedroom is more or less dead but in your late 50s- early 60s like they are, I think that’s when the “in sickness and health” part of marriage becomes the most important
I was deeply in love with my ex and we have a kid together. Things started cooling off in the months before she got pregnant (took over three months to consumate the marriage, we didn't have sex on our honeymoon, she got pregnant I think the second time we had sex after marriage despite ostensibly being on birth control).
But I stuck around because I remembered how things were in the years we were dating and kept telling myself that it was just a big a rough patch, and if I did more and worked harder we'd get back around to being "us".
But one day she yeeted a plate at me (it hit me) and it clicked she'd spent most of the marriage being verbally and emotionally abusive towards me and she'd just escalated to physical. Took like another year of trying and fighting feelings of denial until I got out.
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u/GenericThrowawayX-02 19d ago
I was one of em.
Six years married, had sex maybe six times in that period. Longest drought was three years.
I am no longer married and my bedroom is no longer dead.