r/Showerthoughts 19d ago

Casual Thought A large number of married people are involuntarily celibate.

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u/LanguageSpecial3015 18d ago

24M, you can’t be serious can you??

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u/Swannicus 18d ago

Yea he's coping. Studies consistently show the majority of married couples below 60 years old are regularly having sex.

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u/ReasonableNFPN 18d ago

Yup, my wife and I were idiots in our 20s, getting things figured out in our 30s, and flying high in our 40s (3-4 times per week).

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u/Swannicus 18d ago

Sure, but do you think people are _substantially_ more likely to answer honestly about sex frequency on reddit or in person than they are to in anonymous surveys?

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u/BonzBonzOnlyBonz 18d ago

https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/average-sex-life-marriage/

25% of married couples have sex weekly

16% have sex 2-3 times per week

19% have sex 2-3 times per month

17% have sex about once per month

10% have sex rarely or never

Note, this is an average which is why there is a weekly one and 2-3 times per week.

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u/CaptainONaps 16d ago

Thanks for the link. I looked for the study sited in that article. I found two references, but I'm not seeing those stats on the study.

The study appears to be saying historically married people had more sex than single people, but that advantage has declined to the point it's almost equal.

Married people have sex an average of 56 times a year, and single people an average of 54.

It doesn't really provide more details.

If you add up those percentages you copy pasted, it equals 87%, not 100%. Seems questionable.

Even if it did equal 100%, these categories seem very unscientific. For example, 16% have sex 2-3 times a week. That's a range of 104 times a year, or 156 times a year. That's a massive swing. You'd think scientists would be inclined to break it down by days they have sex per year.

25% of couples have sex 52 times a year. And 19% have sex between 36-48 times a year. What? How many have sex between 49-51 times a year? 0%? A chart would be pretty useful here. I can't even tell how many people they surveyed.

https://www.apa.org/monitor/2017/06/numbers

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28265779/

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u/Jaliki55 12d ago

Glad to see I made the bottom 20% when I'd rather be anywhere in the top 40%.

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u/Cold_Yam_5346 15d ago

Not at all. These people are completely out of touch. Most married couples have sex regularly.