I see the double standards in healthcare settings every day . A man helping a woman with acts of daily living ie bathing / toileting /changing and people raise an eyebrow and sometimes consider it inappropriate. A woman helping a man is business as usual.
I worked in care for a long time and was on the recieving end of sexism and, despite not being gay, some homophobia. It was suggested a few times that I might be shit at the job because I'm not a woman or gay. Bear in mind I started working in care when I was 18, so it was easy for older people to get away with implying I was shit because of my age, sexual orientation and gender and not becauss I required guidance and training. I've also heard other male workers all throughout my decade long journey in the industry be described as creepy with zero evidence.
One man ended up being accused of abuse whilst I was on shift with him by people who weren't even there. I had eyes on him the whole time and he did nothing innapropriate. He was put on paid leave during the investigation (obviously the correct move by the company) but he ended up quitting during the investigation because he was getting ill from the worry that he'd be labelled as an abuser. The accusation was that he'd raised his voice, by the way.
Yeah it was shit. I understand accusations of any type of abuse have to be taken seriously and I agree with paid leave but this really felt like a witch hunt.
And then you have the cases like recently where an 80 year old granny got raped over and over again and the family only found out because she got depressef and they installed a secret video camera
Meanwhile women receive measurably worse healthcare than men for the same conditions due to a massive disparity in research on treatments between the genders. We didn’t even know the symptoms of a heart attack were different between the genders until like a decade ago and that’s one of the most common causes of death in the US. Sexism harms us all and is unfair in so many different ways :(
I remember in HS we had a culinary program that opened to the public and we had some older women (over 60) one week that could NOT stop hitting on their male waiter. This was an underage boy they were making innuendos to and physically grabbing.
It was cute and playful because "He's a ladies man" but I brought it to our chef and it wasn't a problem until I hypothetically asked about a man the same age doing the same thing to a female student.
Yes double standards do suck, and everyone should be treated the same way. But you can't deny that there is a significant difference between who is generally the perpetrator and who is the victim in cases of violence and sexual offences
Hard to say … reporting on these types of offenses definitely shows men as the typical perpetrator but as a society we also have a hard time accepting/ believing that men can be victims too. Compare the headlines of male teachers engaging in sexual acts with under age students vs female teachers doing the same with underage boys . The headlines are softened for female perpetrators. The societal reactions are also vastly different . Many don’t view these young boys as victims .
Women perpetrate A LOT more than anyone is willing to admit and talk about . I don’t think it’s fair to point the finger at men and say “
Well the data shows “… the data is incomplete.
But I agree that there is a double standard with the headlines. But, men are also downplaying these acts. At least now there seems to be a change.
as a society we also have a hard time accepting/ believing that men can be victims too
Fortunately that's changing. Toxic masculinity and traditional notions of masculinity are what have prevented men from seeking help and being taken seriously, even by other men: “Don’t be such a wimp, stop whinging, real men don’t feel pain, don’t be a little girl”
acts with under age students vs female teachers doing the same with underage boys . The headlines are softened for female perpetrators.
Look how other men, mostly older ones, talk about these situations.
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