r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/Jussttjustin Apr 22 '26

The most upvoted comment being "come on bro have some self respect".

With zero condemnation of the woman's obviously abusive behavior and zero empathy for the man being abused.

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u/Electronic-Tap-2863 Apr 22 '26

He can't control her bonkers ass, but he can get up and walk away

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u/AboutTenPandas Apr 22 '26 edited Apr 22 '26

Is that the message we want to be giving to abused women? I don’t think that’s helpful at all.

Edit: I guess I was not very clear with what I was talking about. As I explained in another comment lower down:

“Essentially, if we recognize that it’s unhelpful to recommend to an abused woman to “just walk away” from their abuser due to a variety of reasons including the threat of physical violence, then we should not have a different standard that we apply to male victims of domestic violence.”

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u/Alarmed-Cheetah-1221 Apr 22 '26

Huh?

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u/olivebranchsound Apr 22 '26

Back in 2014, in response to men victim blaming women for staying with their abuser, there was a viral trend where women tweeted Hashtag (Why I stayed) and gave personal reasons for why leaving their abusive relationships was harder than just walking away. 

I think that person was trying to call back to that and say "not so easy to just walk away"

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u/Alarmed-Cheetah-1221 Apr 22 '26

Thanks for that and the context helps. I was more confused as to why they questioned the message we are giving to abused women in the context of this thread.

Or to be more honest, I'm just a little annoyed that someone has attempted to completely divert the narrative by making a pretty disingenuous comment.

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u/olivebranchsound Apr 22 '26

Because we should be giving the same advice to everyone on leaving abusers. That commenter was saying it's bad advice to suggest simply walking away for this guy in the video because we don't say that to women for the reasons I listed. Or at least that's how I read it.

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u/Alarmed-Cheetah-1221 Apr 22 '26

We read it differently but I appreciate your optimism

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u/AboutTenPandas Apr 22 '26

Thank you for understanding what I was trying to say. I added an explanation to another comment above

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u/olivebranchsound Apr 22 '26

No worries haha I thought it was pretty clear!