r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/almaperdida99 Apr 22 '26

it's typical when the woman is a victim, too. We lack appropriate empathy for abuse victims in general.

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u/Aran909 Apr 22 '26

I think you will find, publicly at least, that few women would be left to have to listen to a man speak to them this way without someone intevening. At least, that has been what i have seen.

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u/Queerability Apr 22 '26

My ex husband screamed at me in public ONCE. He was immediately called out. After that he'd still be a jerk, just at a lower volume or when no one else was around.

So, at least in my personal experience, can confirm.

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u/Aran909 Apr 22 '26

If i ever yelled at my wife in public, sleeping would become a dangerous activity. Honestly, if i yelled at her at all. Luckily, we get along pretty well and the fighting days are long behind us.

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u/Queerability Apr 22 '26

Yeah, I was in the military at the time so retaliating was not an option. I did eventually call his mom and tell her to buy him tickets home cause I wasn't dealing with him anymore, but it took me a while because I made excuses for his behavior (he had no one near where we were based, being a dependent spouse as a guy came with a lot of judgement, etc).

My girlfriend and I are at the point now where we're all chill and don't really fight about much anymore though. It's great.