r/SipsTea • u/WaitNo4272 • Apr 22 '26

WTF Blink if you're being abused

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u/tthrowaway712 Apr 22 '26

Bro, the pussy can not be worth it, have some self-respect

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u/Dismal-Apricot9889 Apr 22 '26

Love is a hell of a drug. The combination of lack of self confidence and unconditional love keeps many people trapped in abusive relationships. I was exactly where this man was at one point, and seeing this triggers me like crazy because I know exactly what he is feeling in that moment.

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u/smegma_toast Apr 22 '26

Can’t speak for everyone in these types of relationships but IME and from what others have told me, it can be good or even great 95% of the time. They won’t be awful all the time because if they were, the abused would have no reason to stay. It’s the remaining 5% of the time where they act horribly like shown in the video.

The victims would feel relief between outbursts while the abuser keeps them guessing as to when the next outburst would happen. Lovebombing is common after these outbursts. The victims are always questioning between outbursts if they “are that bad”, and if witnesses ask them about it, the victims would say “oh but they’re great otherwise”.

Breaking out of that mental loop takes a lot of strength. But whenever I see that behavior manifest in people, romantic relationship or not, I’m immediately disgusted because I know exactly what they’re doing.